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All I can suggest is always remind yourself why you two broke up.
He hit you, he didn’t treat you good. You may still love him, but you did the right thing by letting him go. You are strong, you can handle this.
:)

but how, after al this time
is he still floating around in my head
i moved far away, then moved farther
busy living an art life
following wander lust and
image expeditions

ive been distracted and good

but hes still up there
how can it mean nothing?

It doesn’t mean “nothing” ..It means that you really cared for him. It shows you are a loving person ..so much so, that even though he’s hurt you, you still miss him.
I don’t think it’d be a good idea to go back with him (just thought I’d mention that) He was violent. Maybe if he went through anger management classes or something and really showed improvement, but otherwise it’s just asking for trouble.

i think i mentioned to much and
lead my focus askew

he would not want me
the hitting is not the major issue

If you don’t mind me asking.. how was him hitting you not the major issue? That’s serious stuff.

Why do you feel he doesn’t want you?

i have asked him
he feels he is wrong for me

its been over a year
i have anger issues myself

I believe that him hitting you is a big part of it. If he respected you as the person you are, he would not use violence against you. Plus, all break ups feel this way. You are sad that he is gone and you miss what you used to have, so you keep thinking of him– but usually, you’ll think only of the good times. You have to remember why you ended up calling it quits..

Things also get better with time! It doesn’t help you now, but if you remember that, you will be able to see that one day you’ll find someone else who is right and perfect for you…

I see.

Well, my advice is to let things be. You’re never going to forget him, but eventually the memories will fade. I agree a lot with what ifeel said. You’re better off without this guy.

it has been a year
i still have not found someone who i can care about
who is willing to care about me
i have never been single for longer then 2 months in my entire life before this

either he is fate
or i am having some sort of issues relating to sociaty
and people
and love

i think its the latter

It may sound dumb, but I’ve been in this situation ..somewhat.
My fiance and I seperated a couple years ago. We were apart for over a year and every day I still thought about him. I never cared for anyone else either.

So, this situation is sort of tricky because you say he doesn’t want you back. Is it just because he doesn’t want to hurt you (he thinks he’s wrong for you) or because he really doesn’t love and care for you?

Have you kept in contact with him throughout this break-up?

^^ Except I never had the violence problems.

You know what? This might actually be really good for you. You said you haven’t been single for longer than 2 months in your entire life. You need to see that you are a wonderful person, and you need to really believe that. You have to be whole and complete and confident in yourself!