Give him an ultimatum. You both need to get off it to be able to progress.
ya–i told him i wanted to..he obviously doesnt think i can do it.
the question is, can he do it…and would he do it, for you?
the ultimatum would be something like….we both quit or I’m outta here.
i couldnt do that. ive been with him for too long. weed isnt that big of deal- i just want to ease off it for a bit so i can graduate :(
tell him, this is a decision really important to you. do all you can to let him know you are serious. If he really loves you he will back you up…. if its important to you, it should be to him. what all did you tell him about it? did you just say “I’m quitting” or did you explain how you really want this to make you a better person in your own eyes?
You’re not convincing me.
You need to convince him. If pot is that important to him, it’s time he makes a choice.
I just took a look at you last post where are you living now? Are you still living together? That makes it harder. But you are two separate people. You can quit with or with out him. It will be easier with his support, but your determinations is what will make or brake it for you.
Also, being with someone too long is not a reason to stay with them.
it is important to me. my mom was even proud of me. and thats pretty rare. Its not at all important to him. he doesnt even f-n care. its ridiculous. I still cant beleive he bought another f-n ounce. ugh.
We pretty muhc live together, yes. he recently got kicked out and supposedly lives with his friend. I will just have to pretend i dont care. my mom even smokes weed. and when im not with Josh im at home.
No matter what he does, you are in charge of you.
“he convinced me to smoke last nite. He conviced me i didnt need to quit.”
You made the choice, you let him convince you. Take charge of your life. You can do this. You know it what is right for you. Don’t let the people around you bring you down.
its harder than you think. Ive been smokin for a while now. like 2 years probably. ughhh…and on top of alllll this..my grandpa is dyinnngg.
What are your plans when you finish high school? Because right now I feel like you are a smart person who wants a better life.
YES! thats exactly what i want. im going to culinary school. after 2 years of comm college.
and people say smoking pot is not addicitve…lol
what better gift to give your dying grandfather than to give it up, and get a better life?
he doesnt know i smoke. none of my older relatives do.
Try standing on your own two feet. Growing up is about making tough decisions. What is good for you, you choose?
You have a good head on your shoulders, don’t let your life situations hold you back.
Once you have made the decision to quit, and have made that decision with conviction, knowing that it is what you want, it will be easier then you think. Mind over matter. Your thoughts are stronger then this mind numbing drug.
I smoked from the age of 13 to about 20. It was not hard for me to stop. At the time I stopped, I was not doing it everyday. Are you smoking everyday?
well–today is only day two. but yesterday. yes is moked. but im trying to not smoke til after 4:20…”that was our deal”
so—so far im a piece of ****. thats what i get from that.
if you boyfriend won’t be there to support you, i will!
i love you claire elayne :)
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so—so far im a piece of ****. thats what i get from that.
Is that what you are getting from my response? Because that is not how it was meant to come across.
I want you to know that you are a strong person and do what ever you set your mind to.
i know. i understand. thats not what i meant. thats just how i have felt for the last 24 hours.
you shouldn’t. try to be proud of yourself in getting as far as you have, that can only make stronger, don’t let him doubting you can quite change what you feel about yourself.
its just pretty much the fact that he still is gonna be high all the time and here i am–lame and sober. ACTAULLY–great point to self–im WAY more fun when im sober.
Have you met malori on here? She is going to culinary school. There is someone else who is a chef but their name is escaping me right now.
I have a cousin who went to the Olympics this year with his culinary school. He got to cook for the US olympic teams. I thought that was such a awesome opportunity for him. I hope you get to have these types of experiences yourself.
i braid hemp :) wrote:
its just pretty much the fact that he still is gonna be high all the time and here i am–lame and sober. ACTAULLY–great point to self–im WAY more fun when im sober.
Good for you, for realizing that. And for not letting that negative (lame and sober) thought have any power over you.
if he really loved you he wudnt have made u smoke it. he wud stick behind u a hundred and ten percent but from what u’v said he isnt.
but once u get hooked on stuff it is hard for someone to come off whether it is drugs or alcohol or even food.
maybe go to ur nearist clinic or go to ur gp and see if there is anything they can do to help.
you also need to make him realise where hes gonna end up if he doesnt stop. maybe you could both quit at the same tym. it cud just be he’s scarred to do it on his own and that hes too reliant on it.
Good Luck!
hey, hows it going? IT’s been a few days and I’m thinking about you. I hope your staying strong.
hi…im new but i thought id give my opinion?I smoke aswell, everyday, some may say i smoke a lot BUT there was a point when I was only smoking a spliff a day b4 i slept out of HABIT.U will stop if you want to, but if U really WANT to-do u see?Not because u think u shud, or whatever. If you dnt want to smoke u wont-as long as u smoke, its because u want to…whats the reason?r u stressed, used to it out of habit, or do u just like to get high?think about it, i hope my take on things helped :)
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