life help: I have decided I really dislike the word sorry. - Help.com

im sorry

i agree with your statement…. sometimes the word is just thrown around so much, that the real meaning behind it is lost. Whenever someone says sorry, you feel obligated to accept their apology because you believe that they feel deep regret and have found some deeper understanding of what they’ve done… all we can do is HOPE that whenever someone says they are sorry.. they really are… and that they really will TRY to learn from their mistakes…

Yep I agree, somethings are said too easily and not understanding behind the word, I find it funny when someone will say sorry but follow it with “I don’t know what I did”, well if you don’t know why you are saying sorry then why are you saying it? Understand why someone would expect you to say sorry first..
Another one I get alot with no meaning behind is “Love you”, I think the only people that actually meanit are my kids others I think is just a word and nothing more.

I really agree….
I hate it when people apologise and they don’t mean it, they’re just wanting you to forgive them so it won’t be their problem anymore.
And I can’t stand it when people say sorry and then do the hurtful thing all over again. Or when they don’t know what the hell they’re sorry for.
GAH!!
I think it’s good that people apologise…but they should at least know what they’re apologising for.

Sorry is a really easy word to say.

I agree with the original post.

~LazyDaze wrote:
Yep I agree, somethings are said too easily and not understanding behind the word, I find it funny when someone will say sorry but follow it with “I don’t know what I did”, well if you don’t know why you are saying sorry then why are you saying it?

In times like that I think the people saying sorry mean, “I don’t know why you’re upset with me but I didn’t mean for it to happen, don’t think I did anything against you on purpose.” Something like that. That’s usually when I say sorry, when people are freaking out at me and I have no idea why.

Nope, not just you. In general, “sorry” doesn’t make up for whatever bad thing they did. It may have a function of it’s own but then they still have to make up for whatever they did.

i agree. saying “sorry” is like saying i hope you forgive me, but i won’t forget what happened… i will try to make it up to you the best that i can… we all need to work on bringing back the genuine feeling back to the word…

Michael Leibman wrote:
I agree with the original post.

~LazyDaze wrote:
Yep I agree, somethings are said too easily and not understanding behind the word, I find it funny when someone will say sorry but follow it with “I don’t know what I did”, well if you don’t know why you are saying sorry then why are you saying it?

In times like that I think the people saying sorry mean, “I don’t know why you’re upset with me but I didn’t mean for it to happen, don’t think I did anything against you on purpose.” Something like that. That’s usually when I say sorry, when people are freaking out at me and I have no idea why.

So why do they have to add the I don’t know what I did bit on?
If they are sorry they say sorry, there is not need to say ” I dunno what I did but sorry”, I mean it kind of sounds like they are saying sorry but want to make it totally clear to you that they don’t mean it…
Bizarre

Forgiveness rarely a response to “I’m sorry”. There must be an act of contrition for forgiveness to be given.

Bright blessings ~ Richard

~LazyDaze wrote:

Michael Leibman wrote:
I agree with the original post.

~LazyDaze wrote:
Yep I agree, somethings are said too easily and not understanding behind the word, I find it funny when someone will say sorry but follow it with “I don’t know what I did”, well if you don’t know why you are saying sorry then why are you saying it?

In times like that I think the people saying sorry mean, “I don’t know why you’re upset with me but I didn’t mean for it to happen, don’t think I did anything against you on purpose.” Something like that. That’s usually when I say sorry, when people are freaking out at me and I have no idea why.

So why do they have to add the I don’t know what I did bit on?
If they are sorry they say sorry, there is not need to say ” I dunno what I did but sorry”, I mean it kind of sounds like they are saying sorry but want to make it totally clear to you that they don’t mean it…
Bizarre

That part is added on to let you know that they don’t know what they did, and not to pry, but if you care to share what made you mad or sad perhaps it could be prevented in the future. At least in some cases, I may not know the whole story of Sorry.

No, I was getting offtopic sortof, pointing out that sometimes people say sorry not as an aoplogy but more as, “You’re hurt, I feel sorry for you.”

….but I’ve got to run, sorry, hope everything is great for you…. :)

Oh right, well it is still annoying, I am more of a direct speaker, I don’t really understand hidden meanings to things.

i think that “im sorry” and “love you” have both become really overused and have lost their meaning. Even “hate” has as well. People use them everyday and they end up not having the emotion or meaning behind it that it is supposed to

Very true! Its just as overused as “I love you”. Sadly people say them just b/c they know thats what others want to hear.
Grrr, I especially hate when someone says “im sorry but…” Apologies dont have excuses. If youre sorry for something, then thats it, your sorry.

It really is. Its like “I said sorry, so youre no longer allowed to be mad at me” which never works, and only makes me madder at the person. Grrr to insensitive jerks!

Good point, Usually say my bad allot but mainly in soccer even when i don’t need to. Idk y i do it though

agreed

That’s what I don’t get about the word ’sorry’, it doesn’t always make up for something bad you did. It almost has no effect whatsoever.

In Inuit there are about 20 different words for different kinds of snow. Wouldn’t it be nice if we had 20 different words for different kinds of love or different severities of sorry?
-SilenceIsPain

Miss Minnie wrote:
I heard that today! “I’m sorry. But…” I you’re sorry, you are supposed to be remorseful and not shifting the blame from yourself and onto something else, OR EVEN THE PERSON THEY HURT! Grrr, “sorry, but” is just the worst kind of sorry that there is!

absofreakinlutely.

I heard a sorry that meant “I’m acknowledging your upset, but I’m not sorry I did it, and I’d do it again if it suits me”

For a sorry to make me happier it means ” I made a mistake, and here what I’ve done to try and make it not happen again”. and an offer to try and undo or compensate for it.

but what should people say if they bump you in hallway and want to show they aren’t starting a fight? I come from a sparsly populated country, but in a place with crowds of people that just expect to be bumped into and look at you funny if you say sorry.

hey! came to have a look cos ya helped me out… and omg i know what you’re trying to get at.. my (very recent) ex was very much the type to say “Sorry” just because i was mad at him and he wanted it to stop.

there as no regret in his voice, and he’d always do the same thing again… it had nothing to do with being “sorry” it was a word that was designed to shut me up. he used “i love you” in a similar way - either to make me feel guilty for being mad, or to make me say it back whenever he felt he needed a pick-me-up

(surprised it’s over? lol)

i think the word sorry is over used and often time uncontemplated. ppl dont think about it and just expect forgiveness when ever they say it

I was always taught, “don’t tell me you’re sorry, SHOW me you are”.

Which basically means the same as “actions speak louder than words”. If you don’t learn from the mistakes, saying sorry is useless, because you don’t really mean it. When someone is hurt, trust is broken, and “sorry” does not help build that trust up again, it takes more than a five letter word. Without the sincerity behind it, that’s all it is; a word.

Heh, this suddenly reminded me of an avatar graphic I have too, for those who have said “I love you” is thrown around meaninglessly too much: “‘I love you’ is eight letters, so is ‘bullsh!t’”

Gives me an idea for another one. “‘Sorry is a five letters, so is ‘fvck u’”

Miss Minnie wrote:

kemmy wrote:
Very true! Its just as overused as “I love you”. Sadly people say them just b/c they know thats what others want to hear.
Grrr, I especially hate when someone says “im sorry but…” Apologies dont have excuses. If youre sorry for something, then thats it, your sorry.

I heard that today! “I’m sorry. But…” I you’re sorry, you are supposed to be remorseful and not shifting the blame from yourself and onto something else, OR EVEN THE PERSON THEY HURT! Grrr, “sorry, but” is just the worst kind of sorry that there is!

Great topic!

velvettundr wrote:
Good point, Usually say my bad allot but mainly in soccer even when i don’t need to. Idk y i do it though

Where did “my bad” come from? Does anybody know?

Florie wrote:

Miss Minnie wrote:

kemmy wrote:
Very true! Its just as overused as “I love you”. Sadly people say them just b/c they know thats what others want to hear.
Grrr, I especially hate when someone says “im sorry but…” Apologies dont have excuses. If youre sorry for something, then thats it, your sorry.

I heard that today! “I’m sorry. But…” I you’re sorry, you are supposed to be remorseful and not shifting the blame from yourself and onto something else, OR EVEN THE PERSON THEY HURT! Grrr, “sorry, but” is just the worst kind of sorry that there is!

Great topic!

I hate when I say, “I’m sorry” and people say, “don’t be, it’s not your fault.”

Of course it’s not my fault, haven’t they ever even heard of sympathy or empathy?

Annoying!

need different words then to separate apology from empathy.

Not really, “sorry” is basically pathetic… essential pathos.

I hate sorry when its about repetitive behavior. How can someone be sorry for the same thing over and over. Thats not sorry. Thats a lie.

jamieraebab wrote:
I hate sorry when its about repetitive behavior. How can someone be sorry for the same thing over and over. Thats not sorry. Thats a lie.

what does sorry mean to you that makes it invalid for the same thing over and over?

Sorry children die of starvation - can do that over and over.
Sorry I forgot to take the bins out - can do that twice in a life time.