Odd. Seem she still has some romantic… something going on for you.
Or maybe she wants to be friends with benefits.
Well I would say make your mind. Is it over or is it not over? If it is, don’t be spoutin’ love stuff about. It’s sending the wrong message.
Sir James wrote:
Well I would say make your mind. Is it over or is it not over? If it is, don’t be spoutin’ love stuff about. It’s sending the wrong message.
She dumped me. And I refrain from saying the big three words, but she says them to me. Often. So I feel the same as what you said… She should make up her mind.
Commander Ikari wrote:
Odd. Seem she still has some romantic… something going on for you.
Or maybe she wants to be friends with benefits.
That’s what I thought -_-’
Make some space then. Make it clear that she broke up with you. Give each other some space away for a little while. If she doesn’t want to be broken up, she will come back.
I wish I knew what to say, but sadly I’m in no condition to give you advice on this situation. If I were in your situation.. I’d probably sit down and talk with her and find out what she truly wants. Like Sir James said you have to remind her that she broke up with you and you need her to answer why she’s doing all this to you if she broke up with you in the first place. You need to protect yourself from getting more hurt than you all ready were.
I think you should really ask her if she wants to be in a relationship.
Queen Platypus wrote:
I think you should really ask her if she wants to be in a relationship.
Tzubake wrote:
I wish I knew what to say, but sadly I’m in no condition to give you advice on this situation. If I were in your situation.. I’d probably sit down and talk with her and find out what she truly wants. Like Sir James said you have to remind her that she broke up with you and you need her to answer why she’s doing all this to you if she broke up with you in the first place. You need to protect yourself from getting more hurt than you all ready were.
Sir James wrote:
Make some space then. Make it clear that she broke up with you. Give each other some space away for a little while. If she doesn’t want to be broken up, she will come back.
We tried the giving each other space thing for two months and it worked pretty well. It gave me time to adjust to being single again and not have her there for everything. We started talking heavy a month ago and since we started talking it’s been like this. Maybe she does want the friends with benefits and I’m just projecting my hopes that my first love will come back onto her behavior =/. Thanks for your help, everyone. I’m gonna tther and ask her. Let you know what she says.
Ugh… don’t let her take advantage of you. If she “just wants to be friends” move on, go onto a match website or something, they really aren’t that bad =)
The first guy I dated was during summer, we broke up before summer was over but I loved him like a lot. I still think of him sometimes :D
From the perspective of a girl, sometimes its hard to let go, she probably still love you for the things u do or say that makes her feel special, but imo if it is going to hurt u and if you guys are not going to get back together, um better move on do some things on your own =)
I don’t know why she broke up with you but it sounds like she wants to be with you without saying that she is. I mean, she is in pretty much all ways acting like your girlfriend. Most girls do not hook up with you without an emotional connection. I don’t think that you’re just reading into things, but I’d tell you to be a little wary since she obviously doesn’t quite know what she wants and might surprise you.
**UPDATE**
I spoke with her and she said that, while she doesn’t want to be in a relationship with anyone right now, she still loves me very much. We talked about the breakup and she said that she just felt it was best at the time because with everything else going on in her life, she couldn’t give me 100%, which is what I deserve. Hmmm… So does that mean that the way she’s acting now is like the benefits of a relationship without having to be locked down in one? I dunno… But I’m starting to want her back -_-’, after all the work I did on myself. ****.
kalevolive wrote:
I don’t know why she broke up with you but it sounds like she wants to be with you without saying that she is. I mean, she is in pretty much all ways acting like your girlfriend. Most girls do not hook up with you without an emotional connection. I don’t think that you’re just reading into things, but I’d tell you to be a little wary since she obviously doesn’t quite know what she wants and might surprise you.
Great advice. I’m going to keep that in mind.
I think what she was trying to do was get her life in order. She was trying to go through the phase where it was her first and no one else. At this point, she wouldn’t lie to you about loving you because there’s no point so you can hopefully take those words she’s saying to you for the truth. Right now, she’s just enjoying the physical companionship with you and the connection you guys all ready have without a commitment because she’s still trying to get her life together. Give it some time, and see where it goes. The choice still comes down to you, as you said all the work you’ve been doing to get over this. If you still want to hang out with her and whatnot, you have to make sure that there is no emotional connection to anything you do what so ever just so you make sure there are no strings attached to anything you two do together. The whole thing is trying to make sure you don’t get hurt again dude, take care. Make the right choice, give it some time, think it over and try to see what your future might take you in your head. I’m sure you can do it.
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I’m trying to get over my ex, but things are complicated. So tell me if there’s more here or if I’m just reading too much into it. First, we still hook up from time to time, which makes things so much messier because as much as I try not to let them, feelings develop. And we both say things in the heat of the moment that we may/may not mean. Also, we still talk a lot through text and phone. I guess we’re like pretty good friends. But the thing that confuses me is that whenever we talk, she still tells me she loves me… A lot. And she likes for me to tell her the same. She still calls me babe and all the other pet nicknames from when we were going out. So do you think that she might still want me or do I just have the “dumpee” hope?
Thanks in advance for reading this and any insight you can offer.
~Nisa
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