school help: Its hard to be honest and nice at the same time.

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Its hard to be honest and nice at the same time.

This is one reason why Im so quiet at school. Now its much harder to pretend nice, especially to this guy that somehow likes me and have been bugging since begining of school. Now I cant take it, he’s annoying, I dont like him, and i want him to go away. But I dont want to be mean because he’s still a nice person. He’s been asking me to go out and he stills ask even though I already said many times that I’m busy(kinda, not really busy) and dont really want to.
Another thing I dont like about him is that he is too religious but he seems hypocritical to me sometimes. I try not to make comments about that to him because I know I would sound rude. Although sometimes I feel like I should so he would leave me alone. I dont know. I feel like a bad person pushing people away.

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angiefan319 1 #
Pensacola, FL, US | 1 year, 2 months ago (19 minutes after post)

Just tell him you’re not interested.

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (21 minutes after post)

I told him that but he still…

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Neutra 87 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (55 minutes after post)

You got to tell him that you don’t want to be with him, sooner or later your going to run out of fuel for the same constant excuse and need to be honest and tell what you really feel.

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adsfsa #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (1 hour, 15 minutes after post)

I have him in some of my classes for the whole year and he always sits right next to me. And he doesn’t seem to get along well with the other students in our class because he ignores them, except me. Its weird but he became somewhat a friend to me now, very annoying friend.

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An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (8 hours, 57 minutes after post)

Tell him straight out that you consider him a friend, no more, no less. The type of friends that don’t go out on dates together.

Honesty is the best policy. You can still be nice by being factual, not emotional about the situation. Ask him not to say the hypocritical things in front of you, as it bothers you. He needs to know, and maybe he’ll change.

reneyearl 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (1 day, 5 hours after post)

Tell him that you dont want him as a boy friend

But that you will accept friendship,if he cant accept that.

Tell him that you cant hang out or talk anymore.

halisimeri #
An Unknown Location | 11 months, 4 weeks ago (2 months, 2 weeks after post)

i totally know how you feel because i hafto deal with the same problem

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