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you push someone away.
because you love them. because your afraid if you dont push them away, they will push you away. i think of myself as nothing, but everyone close to me tells me how much they trust me and care about me. it falls on death ears. and the love of my life is slipping from my hands, because i cant trust her and love her. ive heard the advice. someone give me something real.
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i know how you feel. its like youre afraid of getting to close to people because you think theyll hurt you, so you avoid them. and in the end you actually end up hurting yourself. i cant really help you other than by saying that youre not the only one
thanks. i hate it. i know that im doing it to myself. and i watch like someone else in me pushes away the only people i really have…and i have to watch..and its unbearable.
I have the same problem. I have a big fear of trusting people and letting people get too close to me. I feel that as soon as they do, they will know my weaknesses and will use that against me.
Has anyone ever hurt you, emotionally or physically?
I’ve been hurt in the past, I think that’s why I am the way I am.
Maybe this can help a little;
maybe you have to choose…. take the risk of stepping out of your comfort zone, and maybe not fully trusting her, but give it a bit of a try…. or stay in fear of what could happend if you stick wit her…. I’m not saying it will be easy, either way, but if you let fear get in the way, you are fighting a battle you will lose either way… does that help at all?
DON’T PUSH PEOPLE AWAY!
Someone I really cared for deeply just recently pushed me away… and it has left me completely traumatized and heart broken…. I felt like he abruptly undermined the sanctity of our relationship, making me second guess all the of feelings that we shared, and everything he had ever said to me. It seemed that he was predominantly the one that had made the relationship move so fast to begin with, but yet, he was also the first one to turn from hot to cold by becoming distant, pushing me away and making me wonder what the hell was going on.
It almost killed me. Not cool.
Know that we all hurt. It hurts to love, and It hurts to throw away love as well. So, by pushing someone away who doesn’t really deserve it, you accomplish nothing! You will hurt if you stay with that person, and you will also hurt if you push them away. You might as well just take the risk and show your love and stick it out with someone…because pain can’t be avoided anyway….so why hurt an innocent person that has shown you nothing but good, all this does is make that person hurt as well and want to do the same thing to the next person now because they’re so ****** up. It’s like feeding into a vicious cycle of hurt and pain.. we’re all running from it, but it’s all we find when we get to the end of the race anyway…..More hurt….and More pain… It’s the human condition.
I just try to get back up and love again no matter what.
But, I will say that this last experience has really damaged me. By this person “pushing me away” while simultaneously giving me mixed signals about wanting me to stay, and showing just how confused he was, it scared the **** out of me and I was forced to then “push him away” by basically breaking up with him the next day…because I felt like that’s what he “really” wanted anyway since he was “pushing me away.” And why the hell should I stick around for the abuse? It’s so stupid.
When did love become so scary? When did love become such a burden? Why would anyone run away from something so special?
I don’t run from love. Unless someone forces me to.
I completely understand all of your sentiments, i’m the same and I also have a best friend who has been abused all her life by others and i come along showing real love and she pushes me away yet she keeps coming back so she must love me. She is abusive to me verbally then apologises, ive been abused by others myself yet i rise above it all and still love.
Love is the answer i think. If you care enough about someone they will eventually stop pushing you away. :-)
I recently went through this. I met my bf about 3 motnhs ago and he lives in a different state. On top of our long distant relationship, he works a job where his hours rotate so his schedule works against us. Well, about two weeks ago, I pushed him away. I am a woman who is afraid of getting hurt and I was feeling something so strong that it scared the sh*t out of me. As a result, I gave him attitude and we fought over stupif stupif things. Hence, making him doubt if the relationship was worth it. Last night we had a talk and he confessed that his feelings had changed. He went from almost confessing he loved me numerous times to being confused within the past week. I dont know what to do, he analyzes and keeps things to himsefl instead of talking about his emotions to people. I know i did this to myself by pushig him away, but I do love him and want to be with him. He said that he still cares about me and wants to feel the way he had but he doesnt know if he can. What should I do? Im so confused. I want him to know that relationships are hard work and you have to compromise yourselves sometimes to make relationships work, but im afraid that he has it in his head already that its not going to work. Any advice is greatly appreciated!!!
Oh wow you sound exactly like me. Over the past couple of months i’ve been pushin the one i love away because i don’t want to get to attached. I don’t want them to know how much i care about them and use it against me like you said i’m tyring to hurt them befor they hurt me. A week ago i sent them a text msg tellin them that i didn’t wan to talk to them anymore. Immediately afterwards i felt horrible.It felt like a piece of my heart was missing.
I have a question for you do you love yourself and did she do something to make you not trust her.
ok… i was with this girl and i loved her but it could only go so far… she always told me i could do better and she wasnt good enough.. i told her i didnt care and that she was … i wanted to be with her… but she pushed and pushed… broke up with me twice… i know she was scared and i kept fighting… even when she was with other guys which hurt me… i still continued… i loved her and i thought she loved me… she ran around saying that she was in love with other guys and hung on them… to scared to get to attached… i tryed for what seemed like forever… until i finaly let it go and someone else picked me up and showed me that i love them and they love me… she isnt afraid of it and will fight forever as will i… i wont ever give up on her… but now my ex finaly realized what she missed and what i was and i know she loves me… but i dont know what to do or say now… im happy the way i am and for some reason after all she did i feel bad… i know i shouldnt but i do … i dont want to be with her anymore… shes my best friend and i care but im not giving up the one im with now… i know she feels the same and isnt scared to take the chance… i dont have to wonder or be confused anymore by whether she actualy does… i tried for a long time… and my ex gave it all up… now she wants it back… but its to late… i dont know what to say to her… i dont want her to hurt anymore … shes been through enough but im happy… i wont do what she did to me to the one im with now… i wont give up… i just dont know what to say to her…i freak out and get really emotional and dont know what to say… im scared… but i love my girlfriend and she means everything to me.. and she knows that… what do i say to me ex now? because its to late …
I Love This Person Very Much and When he’s Away We always Fight? Can you Tell me Why I Love Him so much!
life is race if you don’t run somebody push you back
Tell her the truth Tidus. I was in the same type of relationship as you and you weren’t the one who did this. You showed told her how much you loved her and was there for her and now all of a sudden when you are happy she wants you. That is not real love. She only wants you now because you are over her. She may love you, but the relationship you are in now is not worth losing. You should tell her that and tell her you don’t want to see her hurt, but that it is wrong for you to compromise your new relationship for someone who made it clear they did not want to be in one with you and so you moved on. Tell her it’s what she wanted and now it can’t be undone. You don’t have to be mean, but be firm. Best of luck.
it’s very ironic… he loved me too much but has managed to push me away.. and whenever i came back, he accepts me.. but he pushed me again and the last time was really over.
I know what you mean I left my husband on Saturday I feel sick to my stomach I want to go back but I cant bring myself to go back because on top of everything else I feel embarrass I have no idea why I even do it I tell him to move on but deep down im saying don’t go , so stupid , why are u saying this, you don’t mean it , its not like he is really fight to stay he texts me I want u and I don’t want to break up but that was about it no phone call telling me he loves me or begging me to stay nothing …. there is no need for me to leave but im too scared ill get hurt later I have had a horrible past and cant stand conflict at all so your not alone
I’m pushing a friend away Cz I’m afraid of losing him Cz it happened to me once I have lost a friend we aren’t the same now nd its hurting me as hell soo now I’m afraid to lose this one too..
I really don’t knw what’s that feeling I miss him every single min in my life but I dnt love him we r just frnds but I hve never loved a fend that much I can’t believe that we r not that close now :( Cz I really need him
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