Love help: i want to win my ex boyfriends heart back again. - Help.com

Oh no you don’t! Don’t go crawling back and trying to get him. I know it’s hard, but it’s really for the best. Don’t do that to yourself. He doesn’t deserve you.

Hmmmm…. the old ‘finding yourself’.
There are two ways of looking at this.
1) its an excuse not to be with you
2) its genuine

I’m hoping for both your sakes that its option 2)

When someone needs that space, the only thing you can do is give it to them. Unfortunately you will probably have to be patient, and I guess it comes down to whether you are willing to wait for the one you love to sort themself out.

Its a difficult situation to be in, playing the waiting game.
I guess the best thing you can do is just be yourself and use the opportunity of space to discover more about yourself.

As for creating the perfect situation… well have you ever seen that movie ‘Groundhog day’. He tries to make everything perect but fails in every attempt, and its not until he lets go of trying that things go his way.

I guess what I’m saying is just be natural, be yourself, and he will be drawn to you because you are being you! Anything else is bound to not work out!

However, there are ways that you can remind someone of the special things you share with them, so its not a bad thing to do that!

As for teaching him how to fall for you again… the same thing, just be yourself and try to rememember the things you shared in the beginning. He’s either still in love with you, in which case it won’t be too hard, or he’s not, and then its up to him to see you in the way.

Once again, just be you.

And… if you get sick of waiting for him to see what he’s missing, then just move on when you are ready :)

Hope that was helpful!

Good to hear :)

Well girl, you know my opinion. I’ve told you a million times over. If you feel you want to try and waste your time and possibly risk getting your heart hurt even worse, then go for it.

Its all a matter of perspective.
If you feel you are wasting your time, then let it go.
If you feel it is worth it, then wait!
Simple as that ;)

Hmmmmm…. it could always be one of the situations that’s not for now, but is for later. In which case, put it to the back of your mind, and just have fun like you say.

And good work on the ‘no pedistal’ thing!

Hi!
Long time since I have seen ur posts…
Thing is, if I remember correctly the last one I read was about your boyfriend and that was like a month back…
Its nice to see you hanging out anga in and hope you have fun on your 17th BDay…
A small thing is that if you keep pressuring him he may want to back off completely…
That is he may think you are becoming a nuisance (but it will take a long time before it happens)
I do suggest having a good time together and do not try looking back at the past and hoping for things to be the same…
If u do look back all its going to do is bring back memorines and ull end up hurting yourself emotiannaly…
Just have fun and enjoy yourself and he too will…
Make sure you dont make it uncomfortable…

if u truly had his heart before it shouldn’t be to hard. I would just make sure he knows u love him but don’t make it seem like he can do what he wants without consiquences. U don’t know what u have until it’s gone but if he thinks he can just pop back in your life whenever he wants then he’s not gonna miss you because he knows he could have you. Trust me i went through the same thing as you except my relationship with her didn’t work out at all and if that ends up being the case then u will get over it even if it takes months. Trust me though, he will miss having someone show as much love and passion as you do so u can’t give him that all the time or he won’t have anything to miss

Yeah my ex knew i loved her too which gave her ground to walk all over me. After we broke up i was really depressed until i finally realized that if she isn’t going to recipicate what i’m giving her then we shouldn’t be together anyways. I know right now u feel so much love towards him and that he might mean the world to u cause that’s how i felt but just know there ARE other people out there just as good. U havnt realized it because u r in love which is completely normal. I really just wouldn’t give him as much attention. He knows u love him which is good but he needs to be the asking u out again not u

I have to go but i will definitely send u what i think about that when i get back!

Ok.. so honestly, when I first responded I didn’t read your post, and just typed what I felt based on your old posts… I really feel that if you do hang out with him, don’t try to push the “relationship” aspect of it so fast. He has to find himself on his own, and you’ll have to re-ignite the “spark” or “oomph” all over again. Don’t go grovelling back, or become needy. Hang out with him more, be your natural charming self like you always were, and then he will see it. You want him to love you and come back to you for being YOU, not because he’s horny, or needs to feel comforted and loved! Be friends, and see where it goes.. don’t go out of your way to prove your love or anything. If he truly loved you, there must have been something that he fell in love with initially.. hopefully something other than your beauty. But if I remember correctly, wasn’t this guy possessive? Make sure this is for you! What you want, don’t jump back into this because you also miss being loved and comforted, and it’s a quick fix to go back where you were. It really can become a routine for some people, and you shouldn’t settle just because you miss him. I think you should keep your options open, explore the possibility of seeing other people. Don’t sell yourself short. You have a lot to offer, and he needs to deserve you, make HIM work a little for it.. don’t make it easy. Otherwise, he’ll take you for granted yet again, and trample on your heart. *big hugs* have fun… take things slow! :)

Well obomadaisy pretty much summed it up lol Love is very risky and u have to know u might get hurt which im sure u do but to avoid that just try to meet new guys and just talk to people cause it will help allot. He knows how much u care about him so it’s his move to come to u so there is no point in putting your life on hold for him. If he does come back then it’s good but if not then at least u didn’t spend all your time an energy in vain. I heard this quote the other day and i think it’s amazing if u see life like this then it might help. I don’t know if it will or not. It’s helped me but it’s also been a couple months since my big breakup

“When god closes a door he always opens another one even though it might be hell walking through the hallway”

keep us posted!

ok cool sauce

Good :) I’m glad it went well for u! Don’t let your hopes get to high though. Trust that you’re on good terms and things could get better but explore a little. The more guys u get to know the better u will feel about this

Hey!
Thats great…
All the best again…