friends help: I have trouble making friends.

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I have trouble making friends.

I had a lot of friends in high school, but now I am in my second year of Uni and don’t have many friends at all, and no close ones. I am very involved in a lot of different clubs on campus - Amnesty International, my department’s student council, and even on the campus radio. I think that my trouble is in shifting from a more “professional” class room or club type setting into a casual friendship situation. Just five minutes ago, I was sitting in the library when a guy I recognized from one of my clubs sat down on teh computer next to me, and I couldn’t work up the nerve to introduce myself or say hi. I never forget a face, and I think I am afraid that people I have only seen or met once won’t remember me and it will be awkward if I say hello. Any advice on how to become friends with the people I volunteer with, or make new friends? I have asked a few people to hang out, and I get really discouraged when they decline or it never happens.

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An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (2 minutes after post)

You know, who really cares if they remember you or not?
If you go ahead and just say hi to them, it’s more than likely some will respond…and the ice is broken.
You could then follow that up with “I’m ___________, from your _________ class” and hold out your hand, smiling.

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (6 minutes after post)

Im having exactly the same problem! I started college this year. In high school i was constantly with friends, and now I only have a few! Your not alone. I dont even know any kids that are in my hall! And I totally know what you mean by moving to a casual friendship. Its hard!

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (25 minutes after post)

College is different than high school. I had lotsa friends in high school. They were always around. Everyday I saw them so it was like a family almost.
But in college, you have to sort of work at friendships. Make plans outside of class, etc.
I say you’re on the right track with knowing people from clubs and such. Now, when confronted again with that situation you mentioned, do what cailean suggested.
Break the ice. It could work out well!

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (49 minutes after post)

i just started college as well and seem to have the same problem but recently i have been hanging out in our dorm lobby and playing pool with random people which so far has got me alot of friends i just havent found any close ones yet so i suggest going to a campus game room or something and just shoot some pool with random people or play some ping pong

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