friends help: i cut my wrists & no matter what any one says it does help me. - Help.com

how does cutting your wrists help??

talk to me

ive never done anything like that myself
i dont understand why you do it
what do you gain from it

what could make you feel so low as to do something like that in the 1st place

why are you hurting emotionally? what is it that upsets you?

I have read all of your post. It looks like you would like help, but dont realy know where to get it.
Is this the case?

Hi Andy,

I get it.

You body is hurt when you cut yourself so it releases endorphins, taking hte meotiona land the physical away. It is only momentary and you will need to do again.

But here is the thing, it is not taking care of what is causing you to do it in the first place: THe unability to deal with personal situations

Perhaps Piadora can help with this best at the moment. Understanding what you are going through is most helpful, with this kind of problem.

By cutting yourself you are avoiding dealing with whatever is hurting you. It is better to deal with it now, because it doesn’t get better as you get older. it will cause you to start aviding people and people are a source of pleasure as much as they are of pain.

whats going on with your dad?
when you say girls are kaniving,you being bullied

So it is the shyness that is really hurting you?
Sometimes is the sense of shame after acting shy that hurts and not the shyness itself.

What is going on in school that is making you feel like this?

how do you feel now your dads stopped drinking?
is it like living with a stranger?

yes kids are bitchy,without you giving them reason theyll pick no matter what
its a sorry way of life :(

wheres your mum?

andi4904

It looks like you now know the answere or at least where to start. Start with your friend, ask for their help. Also try to get help through the school counciling services.
At least try something that is possitive.

You are in pain, and to just stop cutting yourself is not going to work.
I would suggest to see a psychologist, he or she will evaluate you and recommend a psychaitrist who can prescribe medication that will take hte place of cutting, so that you don’t need to cut.

Girls are mean, it is just life.
What is missing is you ability to deal with it.
I use to hurt myself too, I haven’t done it in a while although today i came close.
I stopped through medication and was able to come off it without having to cut again.

HAH_EM

Why give such useless answers? Doing as you sugest just adds to the problems.

thats what i was gona suggest a rubber band.
also ice cubes take awy the urge too

just hold them in your hand till the urge goes away

chianmoulon4ev wrote:
ice cubes wow i never thought about that good thinkin

I am leaving your post now, there is nothing more I can do to help you. Goodnight.

You need to get help from a trained professional.
They will no judge you or tell anyone else (it’s their job!)
You dont have to give exact details until you feel comfortable to do so.
Give an overall view so that he or she can get an idea of how to help you.

andi4904 wrote:
ok evansent it takes away emotional pain with physical pain & my dad just got over drinking im a freshman in high school im a girl & all girls are keniving & its just hard

I have a daughter who’s a freshman ih HS I asked her what the cutting really meant and she said its a cry for help so were here to help. My forst thought would be to try and communicate with the folks usually parents no matter what they may be going through themselves are there for their kids I’ve always told my 2 daugters the same.

ashley you there

Oh, I am so sorry for what you are going through! High school is so hard, and to have family problems, it makes things so much worse. I think I have an idea how you feel. I’m a Junior in high school. I really don’t like myself because I’m overweight. My mom is working because my dad isn’t making enough money and he can’t find a better job. I never see my parents, so I have to take care of my younger siblings. When my parents are home, all they do is fight. My sister just had a baby (still a teenager) and she is so grouchy, dealing with post pardem depression. My friends are being idiots, and they really don’t care about me. I can understand your emotional pain, and the release you feel when you cut. The thing is, that release only lasts a little while. You need to find a way that you can get a release that lasts longer. Do you have any friends that you can turn to? Also, I know that this is scary, but you should talk to a school counselor. They are trained to help you. Just tell them that you are having a really hard time coping, and that you just don’t know how to make things get better. Don’t tell them that you are cutting yourself, because they will call your parents and tell them (unless you’re ok with that). But they can give you ways to help yourself. Believe me, they can help. That’s what they’re trained to do. Please let me know how things go.

You’ve got to be kidding me how can self mutilation help you. I have 2 teen daughters myself that have ups and downs in life also but they don’t do this. I can’t even begin to understand this type of eratic behavior. You need to stop this and deal with your life in a normal rational way. If you start dealing with life normally now I can assure you that it will help you to be strong in your adult years when you face struggles. The most disturbing part is your actually trying to rationalize your behavior that in itself is stunning to say the least. Quite frankly there’s just no excuse for such unbelieveable behavior.

Anonymous wrote:
You’ve got to be kidding me how can self mutilation help you. I have 2 teen daughters myself that have ups and downs in life also but they don’t do this. I can’t even begin to understand this type of eratic behavior. You need to stop this and deal with your life in a normal rational way. If you start dealing with life normally now I can assure you that it will help you to be strong in your adult years when you face struggles. The most disturbing part is your actually trying to rationalize your behavior that in itself is stunning to say the least. Quite frankly there’s just no excuse for such unbelieveable behavior.

So your daughters may not do this, so what? Not everyone deals with problems the same way. Maybe andi is dealing with it this way because they don’t know how else to. To just excuse it as irrational and “erratic” is ridiculous. You have no idea what this person is going through, exactly how it makes them feel, and the resources they have for coping. Criticizing this person will not get them the love, comfort, and help they need!

Not citicizing at all sometimes a firm approach may in fact get someone to wake up so to speak and see just how they behave and give them the help they need. Irrational behavior is not a real coping mechanism and sometimes someone from the outside needs to let them know because they may in fact beleive that what they do is ok which this individual believes when in fact it really is not. You have to sometimes point out the obvious for someone to really see for what it is.