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Is it always the weekend when you want to die?

Why would you want to kill yourself? You have all those great things going for you! If life is that easy for you, you should concentrate on maybe finding meaning for your life and how you can accomplish bigger and better things. Always think of what you can do for your fellow man and think how much you can contribute to this society!

I wish my life was that easy!

Why do you think making friends is such a problem for you when so many things in life are not?

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hello does anybody want to chat

Why don’t you go to the front page and post something! Something that you wish to discuss and people will come and talk to you!

I feel like I am always walking up after the punch-line. I dont know why people hate me. or are rather, indifferent.

You maybe just march to a different drum and belong with a different group of people and possibly different town or city.

Different mindset of people.

You always feel like an outsider looking in, is that it?

That is absolutely right. I have been searching for a long time though.

So then you feel that killing yourself is the answer?

The second I feel i may have found some cool people. Or have rekindled old friendships. people get weird on me. won’t return my phone calls.

I think that maybe next time you feel like you have found some cool people, just listen to them. Listen to what they have to say! Do you find yourself doing all the talking sometimes?

There is only so much one man can take. Everyone has a breaking point. I know mine is close, and getting closer.

You’re 20 years old for God’s sakes! Your life is barely at its threshold! Barely beginning! If everything that you say about yourself is true, and I don’t doubt it, you have a whole lot to live for! Life is your adventure and you should treat it as such!

I have looked at hours of social dynamic material. I have seen how people are supposed to act stand and otherwise behave. I talk, as far as I can tell, the same amount as everyone else. I feel like I have a fatal flaw that no one is nice enough to point out. That self conscious feeling isn’t even there until after an interaction.

and at 20 years old i don’t see my life getting any better. I look at all my mentors, my parents, Where did they meet all their friends? When did they all meet their friends? It all took place right now. The social skills that I am supposed to be developing are being, in my opinion, irreversibly stunted. I don’t want to be another fat nerdy engineer without a wife, without any friends, without any ambitions. I have seen these people and I don’t want to be one.

hey anonymous# are u are girl or a boy

I am a man.

It sounds like maybe your life is running to smoothly, just maybe?
If your getting bored with your life then just change it, do what you
want and be who you want to be. Take chances and don’t fear failure.
If it’s the friends thing that’s bothering you then go about it differently.
Friendships are like relationships they just happen on their own, you can’t
make them happen. It’s just a matter of falling in with people. By developing trust,
loyalty and shared experiences between you and your acquaintances, you build
friendships. You just gotta roll the dice in the game of friends you’ll win some,
you’ll loose some.

I actually know what you’re going through. For the longest time I just felt like I wasn’t in the right place. I mean, I had a lot going for me but I just couldn’t seem to get a hang of the whole sense of belonging thing. People kept telling me that they cared about me but I just couldn’t see it. I finally realized that the problem was with me. I know there are a lot of people who will disagree with what I am going to say, but have you ever thought about antidepressants? I was so against going on drugs but when I finally felt like I couldn’t take anymore, I started taking Paxil and it really turned my life around. I could finally appreciate the things I had in life and things really just looked a lot different. I know it’s hard where you are. You are miserable in a situation most people would find ideal. I’m sure most people think you’re just ungrateful- I think you’re just depressed. It’s really hard to get a handle on things when your brain isn’t functioning properly. I hope you find what will make you happy. Please though, don’t kill yourself. I can tell you first hand that things will always get better and most the time if you fail at suicide what they do to make you better is worse than what you were killing yourself over.

I think it must be pretty hard, what your going through, but drugs are not a solution either. Just sometimes it can be really just the little kick that makes your life good, but especially when you are depressed, you take it then too often, too much - you’d need someone like a superior who’d watch exactly how much you take and how often.
To find this ‘perfect’ line is not easy and most of the times just luck.
So please, stay away form drugs, you’ll love it at the beginning but it so can ruin your life and make it more depressing than it is!

I’d say, its really amazing what you managed in life, even if it was easy or not for you.
But this with your friends, well. It seems like you try to be like ‘Everyone else’ because of your >>I have seen how people are supposed to act stand and otherwise behave. then you don’t act like your true self or what? How shall someone be close to you, come near you, if your not the one they think you are?
Then everytime you act ilke ‘you’ it’d be strange for them, right?

I don’t know if thats the reason but I wanted to point it out at least.
Friends - are people who are interested in you, your personality, your point of view from things. I’m not a friend of someone I am not interested in, this are schoolmates, fellow worker, people I just know.
In my case at least. But such people are ‘hard to find’. I can tell because I, since a month, lack any of them too. But this is no reason to give up. Its no reason to feel so depressed!
Well, I’m at the moment not happy either, believe me, but I am now searching too! Try to get to know as many people as you can - but dont try by the first 5 to meet a real friend. It took me several years, and (most of the times) the real friends you get are the ones after college.

Maybe, instead of being depressed or think about suicide, you should go out. Go out, meet people, go in the internet and search for people. Hobbies, search for people who have the same interests.
Maybe, from your friends, no one ‘attracted’ you? Like I said before, no one really interested you? Thats not abnormal or weird.
Because on this world there are so many people who seem to be like puppets. Many, many puppets, all the same, just boring. Maybe this is a mean way of saying it, but I think this way.

And you well may be ‘different’. But you know what? Different is the same as special and special is the same as unique. You are, you are an interesting man, an intelligent one too, which one could have really nice conversations (a really rare thing nowadays)! Don’t waste your life, I bet out there are some people who’d love to get to know you. The time will come, I swear, but the time to kill yourself is always the wrong time.
Your 20 for God’s sake ;] You have your full live before you, don’t give up before it even started!!!

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I’ve felt the “things come too easy” paradox before … and it can be isolating. You feel that you tell others your very real struggles, they dismiss your concerns as invalid because, after all, everything comes easy to you, so you obviously don’t have any problems! It can be a lonely place, and it’s hard to talk about without sounding conceited.

And you’re not the only person who’s felt the “I have everything but it means nothing” phenomenon. There’s an entire book of the Bible on that theme. The writer of Ecclesiastes talks about how he collected wealth, power, natural beauty, even friends … and he summed up his experience by saying “Meaningless! Meaningless! Utterly meaningless!” and that everything we do feels like “chasing after the wind.”

But that’s not to say there’s no meaning in life. It’s just that there’s no meaning to these things–even good things–when they’re pursued as ends in themselves. I think of it this way. If I’m going hiking, there are a lot of great things I can take with me … comfortable boots, a GPS system, etc. I will enjoy these things … ONLY if I am using them to pursue a higher goal (hiking). If I just collect them and try to enjoy them while sitting in my house, ultimately they do nothing for me and I am disappointed and unsatisfied.

Academic success, recognition, financial stability, all of these things are nice to have to help you toward your ultimate goal, but they cannot BE your goal. Even relationships, as wonderful as they can be, can’t quite fill the void. These things are all empty in themselves and they will leave you disappointed. You have to have a purpose greater than yourself.

Whenever I feel empty and insecure, I look to God, who loves each one of us more than we’ll ever understand. His love isn’t based on our performance, and He will never flake out on you like your acquaintances all seem to have done. You are searching for something; perhaps He is searching for you. I just know He loves you and doesn’t want you to hurt yourself; He wants you to know Him and give you the meaning you lack.

I know I’ve written a very long post and may have violated a “taboo” by bringing up theology, but I am very concerned for you and I hurt for you and would be more than willing to talk more if you are interested.