school help: I don’t understand people. - Help.com

i know what you mean.. i can easily see through people too but its just the need to be accepted… if theyre not “cool” they feel the need to change to fit in.

People feel the need to act a certain way to fit in. Peer pressure is a b####!

Its routed deep in the way we are raised and how society is grown as a whole. The media deplicts a certain image, and in order to maintain that image people put on masks. Behind each mask lies the same insure person like the rest of us.

There is no way of removing the masks unless you really get to know the person. Its sad, but unfortunately that is the world we live in.

Most of them keep wearing masks for the rest of their lives.
Don’t worry too much about it. Its not something you can change.
I will say one thing, in the end most people will appreciate someone who is themself, because with all the pressures of society telling you not to, its quite an achievement if you can walk tall with your head up high and say to the world “I am me, and I don’t care what anyone thinks about that!”

Hey thanks for asking that question. I guess I needed to understand it too.
Whenever I go to parties, I noticed, myself, how I can never get close to people until they’ve had a few drinks… and then everything is alright!

I don’t drink much and I don’t need to and always found it weird that people would need to pour alcool down their throats in order to loosen up and just be themselves.

But that’s the way it is, I guess. Personal insecurities, I suppose. Lack of self-confidence… maybe…

People today won’t just accept anyone, unfortunately we live in a world that if you don’t look like or do what other people want they don’t want to have anything to do with you. The worst thing is some people, their entire towns are like that, no matter where they go in their town, they won’t be liked by the people because they act different and sometimes the people just asume that there is something wrong with that person and don’t want to know more about them to understand that person better. I guess it’s like that alot, can only asume.

But truthfully, people should start looking at someone from a different angle then what they see, most people they just see someone and automatically decide if they want to like them or not. I hate it when someone looks bad but they can be the nicest person that can do a million things right, but are overlooked because they don’t look like how someone wants. Also it’s the other way around too, people who can look really nice can usually be the cruelist and evilist people you can imagine, selfish and cold hearted. Another bad thing about this is when the bad looking people find out about this and want to change, when they try to act differently for a long period of time, they loose who they are and literally turn into completely different people and won’t be themselves anymore. Although I know it won’t happen at all, it would be nice if everyone would simply look at something from more then one angle and see the complete picture besides just from what they want to see, may not be everything but alot would be better.

Kudos Neutra!
We do all judge, its true, and its hard not to!
Personally, I go by vibes I get from people, and behaviour patterns.
Meaning that I see how a person treats other people after a while of knowing them.

Some of my friends are rather self-centred, but they are still my friends.
What I really look forward to are those weird, unexpected moments when someone who is your friend, but you don’t know them as well as you could, opens up and you discover something amazing about them that you didn’t know!

:)