Love help: should i keep a keychain that my ex gf gave me? - Help.com

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Just because you broke up doesn’t mean you need to get rid of the keychain. If you like it then keep using it. Noone will hold it against you. It was a gift from her to you, its yours for you to do what you like with.

Poppy x

i took it off my keys about 2 weeks ago. im not gunna use it, cuz it will make me think of her, n im tryin to get over her.

evansent, do u mean throw it away, or give it back? and if i should give it back, do i give it to her personally (which i barely ever see her) or should i give it to someone to give to her

i mean throw it away,itl stop old memories stirring :)

I wouldn’t throw it away, just bury it in the back of a draw somewhere that you never go.

It’s a freaking key chain. If it doesn’t make you bawl or anything, keep it.

Keep it. When you get a new girlfriend you can sacrifice it as a show of love.

its not like i tear up or anything when i look at it. i still dont know what to do. but would it be better if i got rid of it by giving it to my ex, so she knows that im over her, so she doesnt think i still wanna be with her. i might keep it,until i get a new gf. idk though

will your new gf still have the same nickname for you?

no, the nickname is from a movie that we both really like. n the story in the movie related to us when we were goin out

dont think so thst was something you&your x had between you.

i godda go. thanks for helpin me. ill check this later when i get a chance. bye

forgive and forget. Get back together. Keep it cos it once means a lot to both of u. Its valuable. Keep it aside.

no u cant throw it away!!!!!!

pls dont do it. Keep it!!!! pls promise me this

ok if you are going to get back wv your x keep it

whatever you do do not give it to your other gf its not fair
its not right

that was something special between you&her

for petes sake keep it if it dont hurt

it was something special to her and to u too. Keep it!!

Anonymous wrote:
pls dont do it. Keep it!!!! pls promise me this

your not his gf by any chance are you?

N what did she do ? y dont u want to get back ? If it is something u think happened or it’s just words, ur assuming. Cos the reality may not be so. Ask her, get the answers from her not from what u think. Love dont come easy and if u 2 really love one another, dont give up. Give it another chance. Talk to her and ask what she wants. She may want to be with u too! U 2 get back and break up for so many times..im sure there is something special there so dont give up yet.

Anonymous wrote:
N what did she do ? y dont u want to get back ? If it is something u think happened or it’s just words, ur assuming. Cos the reality may not be so. Ask her, get the answers from her not from what u think. Love dont come easy and if u 2 really love one another, dont give up. Give it another chance. Talk to her and ask what she wants. She may want to be with u too! U 2 get back and break up for so many times..im sure there is something special there so dont give up yet.

guess im right

evansent2008 wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
pls dont do it. Keep it!!!! pls promise me this

your not his gf by any chance are you?

no. It’s something similar to me and my ex bf. We did something similar too and for a moment, i had some flashbacks. I dont even know who the poster is

mmmmmm sounds a bit suss?

Love is difficult but if it is real, dont give up

suss?

means i think you are.
it dont matter if you are or not
you just seem too compassionate for this poster

suspicious?

correct

I can relate to this post. Im like the girl and i actually gave my bf something like this too…and i wondered what he did to it. I have so much to tell my bf but those words will just be kept inside.

ex bf*

n there is a 0.00000000000000000000001% chance that he is my ex bf. A very small chance. I just hope he wouldnt give up on her.

mmmm something you said i quote
you two break up&get back so many times

how would you know if you wasnt the other person in question??

what do u mean? r u asking the poster or me? (im not the poster)

Anonymous wrote:
what do u mean? r u asking the poster or me? (im not the poster)

you?look back at your replys

were ya asking how would i know im not the “gf” of the poster?

your icons changed now im confused lol!!

i dont think im the other person in the question cos’ theres a zillion people in the world and many people actually have common problems like this…so im not surprised if someone has similar situations like this.

well.. I’m a bit surprised that no one saw the depth of this post. Since I didn’t see that any one else asked… what did she do? You said you would not get back together with her, because of something she did. I figured this post was not because daddy made the relationship impossible… so tell me what did SHE do?

yea i was looking at other posts as well. Clicked back to this post and thus, icon changed.

lol i did ask the poster ‘what did she do”? The poster left tho. Havent replied to this question.

do you use said keychain?? (always wanted to say that)

Anonymous wrote:
lol i did ask the poster ‘what did she do”? The poster left tho. Havent replied to this question.

she?i thought the poster was a guy?

laze is this me or would you think this is the x gf

youll have read it all to get the jist

evansent2008 wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
lol i did ask the poster ‘what did she do”? The poster left tho. Havent replied to this question.

she?i thought the poster was a guy?

scrap that

its gona be 1 of them days i can see lol!!!

Sounds to me like someone who can just relate to the poster and know what they are going through, although the poster said they only broke up because of his gf dad so I have no idea where this anon found broke up loads of times, maybe they just miss read the post a little, either way if anon is the x then thats between them 2..

I never know what to do in love posts lol

I think if it were me I would keep the key chain because it s after all just a key chain, you don’t have to advertise who gave it to you or why, I would not give it back to her though because if you were being honest saying you still had feelings for her you would just be hurting her feelings by giving it back and also what the hell would she do with a key chain with your name on???

i just ahd a feeling it was the x.

the last thing he needs do tho is give the keyring to another girl

whats the chances of his previous&x gf sharing the same nickname for him?

crikey i was answereing loads of posts around the same time
i could of been saying ewt lol!!

isnt there a bf&gf going thru similar probs on here at the mo?
remember seeing something about them wanting to get back
think they are regulars on here,well just summising :)

Who knows, this is the online mental hospital so I would not be surprised if someone else has the same issue going on.

I don’t think he was saying he would give it to another girl though, I think he meant to give it back to his x, although I have no idea what she would do with it.

someone said give it another girl

o ne mind my head hurts lol!!

i was ok till i joined this site now im going ga ga :)

haha, yeah that does happen, join here love it, go loopy and then can’t leave because your addicted to the place, it is a hopeless loop :P

mmmmmmmm here comes the men in the white jkts lol!!!

LoL, I think we are too fargone for them. :P

get rid ov it. only brings back memories

stuck wrote:
get rid ov it. only brings back memories

Yeah but somememories are good to have and good to remember.

I would keep it as a memory. I think it represents something good and not bad. Like when you look at it makes you smile at the memory, not hate it. Id keep it and when it gets hard to have it around i’d put it away somewhere

i didnt get to finish reading all the comments, but let me clear some things up quick. i am not gunna give it to my other gf in the future. and i said i wasnt gunna go back out with her and here is why- i am 18 and she is 15. that is why her dad made her break up with me. and what she did, well, shes goin out with this 19 year old now. and she knows she shouldnt, but she still is. and i even said to her before, that it pissed me off. and the answer she gave me is because her dad doesnt know him. so, therefore (my opinion), that as long as she “wont” get caught, its alright to go out with someone older than i am, when she got in trouble with goin out with me.

i dont use the keychain anymore. i took it off about 2 weeks ago. lazydaze, she would maybe either throw it away, knowing that i moved on, or she would keep it in case we would ever get back together.////

you could always give it back

would i give it directly to her, or would i have someone else give it to her? and what would i say to her if i gave it to her. ( i barely ever see her though)

you could just tell her that you think she should have it back because you dont want it if thats the case and she could do what she wants with it, and if some one else gives it to her then they really dont have to say anything about it just give it to her from you.

the problem i have is that i dont know if i wanna give it back or not. or if just getting rid of it is better than giving it back to her

well you could just get rid of it just either throw it away or leave it some where for some one else, give it to a bum lol idk

again, idk if i wanna get rid of it. cuz its good memories i have from it. and im the kinda person thats easily attached to things. but it doesnt help with me tryin to move on with her. so idk what i should do

Put the key chain away until such time that you feel have accepted the fact that she’s gone. After you have accepted the fact, e.g. you no longer get upset that she’s gone, and in some way is glad that she’s gone… then you can bring out the key chain. The pleasant memories they have then are good to remember… as long as you remember why you broke up with her. She’s very immature, and sounds to me like she just wants to zing her old man (dad). She’s playing high school games, and you are moving past that… good for you!
Bright blessings ~ Richard

thanks Richard and everyone else who have helped me!

~LazyDaze wrote:
Who knows, this is the online mental hospital so I would not be surprised if someone else has the same issue going on.

I don’t think he was saying he would give it to another girl though, I think he meant to give it back to his x, although I have no idea what she would do with it.

Ur right. I am not! I just have the same problem, same issue. can really relate to it

Anonymous wrote:
thanks Richard and everyone else who have helped me!

can i ask u something anon, what did she do? I mean why did u say that u wont get back with her?

n if u really like her, u would ask her dad why he objects to this relationship. Like what u can do to make him like u etc?…guess no effort was made ?

i said before why. here- and i said i wasnt gunna go back out with her and here is why- i am 18 and she is 15. that is why her dad made her break up with me. and what she did, well, shes goin out with this 19 year old now. and she knows she shouldnt, but she still is. and i even said to her before, that it pissed me off. and the answer she gave me is because her dad doesnt know him. so, therefore (my opinion), that as long as she “wont” get caught, its alright to go out with someone older than i am, when she got in trouble with goin out with me.

i do like her, but im just facing the fact, i cant be with her now, and by the time i would be able to, we both prolly would have moved on. im not gunna tlk to her dad. im accepting that its over. tryin to get back in her life is just gunna make things worse. ill take it as it comes. and if it doesnt come the way i want it, then ill need to live with it.

i really appreciate all of you for taking time to try to help me.

i just watched The Notebook on tv. it made me realize that (not to sound cliche), but if its meant to be, it will happen. but until then, ill just live my life without her.

i guess im gunna keep the keychain at least for now. when the time comes that im finally fully over her, then ill get rid of it. or if we ever do get back together,which i doubt, then ill still have it.

Anonymous wrote:
i said before why. here- and i said i wasnt gunna go back out with her and here is why- i am 18 and she is 15. that is why her dad made her break up with me. and what she did, well, shes goin out with this 19 year old now. and she knows she shouldnt, but she still is. and i even said to her before, that it pissed me off. and the answer she gave me is because her dad doesnt know him. so, therefore (my opinion), that as long as she “wont” get caught, its alright to go out with someone older than i am, when she got in trouble with goin out with me.

i do like her, but im just facing the fact, i cant be with her now, and by the time i would be able to, we both prolly would have moved on. im not gunna tlk to her dad. im accepting that its over. tryin to get back in her life is just gunna make things worse. ill take it as it comes. and if it doesnt come the way i want it, then ill need to live with it.

i really appreciate all of you for taking time to try to help me.

i just watched The Notebook on tv. it made me realize that (not to sound cliche), but if its meant to be, it will happen. but until then, ill just live my life without her.

I know what u mean. Im doing the same too (im like u, except im the “gf” instead of the “bf”).

anon the poster)keep the chain for all our sakes lol!!!

yea, i agree with evansent! Keep it!!

or just hide it away then when ur ready bring it back out