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i know what you mean entirely - you get though secondry thinking YES! now i can go to collage and everything will be different? my sister feels the same. you just got to get through it, TRY and enjoy it as much as you can, if that fails QUIT. you only have ONE life, and that’s not your families. but it all depends on what you want to do in life. you might (and probaly will) need college in later life.

you need an answer your not going to get from strangers online, this is your fate, don’t let anyone influence it xoxo

Im in your exact position, although I hate to state it, this is not my first attempt at college. I hated highschool, barely thought Id get through that. My senior year I took part in the Running Start program and went to a community college…glad I did but then I started working and soon my 40 credits left to finish my AA got more difficult to finish, as did my class loads. Finally, I took a few online classes and finished my AA and with honors. I went to the local university and finished 2 classes towards my BA, then stopped because I still didnt know what I wanted to do just that I probably should be in school. So recently, I just moved an hour and a half away from home with my fiance to focus on school and finish up. I have been up here since Spring and still have till next fall till I finish. I hate college life, barely got through a few 200 level classes I took to get my motivated again and now found a “General Studies” degree option that allows you to study everything, not to follow just one option. Its ok, but i still hate the classes I was taking. Well, i attended my first week of classes and again, hated them, financial aid never came and i got more stress out of it all then needed. So i dropped my classes and am taking the quarter off. My fiance is still enrolled, taking economics and barely getting by as he hates it too, but he has far more motivation then I at this point.

I can come back next quarter, which I may or may not do. My plan now is to find another job (I am working only part time for a salon-not the best job to have as it was just a school job). So, job search isnt that great so far. BUT what I will tell you, being 24 and getting this far, if you can get through your studies, enjoy what you are studying to some degree, then stick it out. I have 4 full quarters left to finish, but im broke…so im in a different situation. I cant pay for college right now on my own AND dont have motivation–>not the best combination. I too do not have any clue as to what I want to be when I get out of here, but your degree doesnt determine that, it just gets you that piece of paper. That piece of paper will help or it will not help you right away. BUT, if you ever want to move up in your career or a promotion is available-sometimes it definately can help you get up there.

So its up to you. I completely understand and have explained the same situation to tons of people. Everyone has a different opinion because they are not U and they are NOT in your situation. You live life once, so its important to be happy. But just make sure that if you are ready to drop out of college, that you are willing to go out and get some work experience if you are not willing to continue your studies. Whats the worst that can happen, you get a good job and work your way up and find that you get stuck because you dont have the degree and you go back to school. Will you be motivated then? Probably. But who knows if you’ll have a family by then and it will probably be a lot harder because its effecting not just you now. But you do have options, programs online, programs for working adults… Get through this quarter and then think about it. And as for your family, they should be supportive of you, but you have to understand they have gone through the same experiences and just want the best for you. Its easy for them to see college as the best road for you at this point and maybe they are right. GOOD LUCK

I am sitting here and fighting the tears as I take breaks every half hour from a 10 page research paper I’m supposed to be writing. I have no interest in the topic. I hate when people tell you to find something that interests you because there’s nothing, absolutely nothing, that interests me. It gets me so upset when people can’t understand that. They always ask how that could be. I honestly feel tortured to have to go to college but I know my parents will be so disappointed because no one in my family has graduated. I have older brothers who didn’t go and as the youngest girl, I am the only one left. To make things worse, I am an immigrant.. so I am be the first out of an entire line of family members to even attend a University. So the pressure is intense. You’d think it would motivate me? No, it only makes things harder because I have no one to turn to who has been through this. Sometimes, I feel like I am dying inside. Professors expect so **** much. Papers and exams are difficult and I barely get through them but then they ask for us to do outside activities. Like I have time to do that! If I can’t get it done on campus or if it requires me to spend money, I shouldn’t have to do it! Ugh, I honestly feel like quitting but I can’t. Everyone says you have free will, but you really don’t. I can’t choose to leave now. I’m a junior and it would look like the stupidest decision ever but in these 3 years, I have been so stressed that I wonder if it’s really worth it. I look at how happy I was in high school and wish that I can get back to that after I’m done with this. I know looks aren’t everything, but I can’t even find time to take care of myself so that I can feel good about myself. I’m just all around sick and tired of living this way. My brother has no clue though he tries to encourage me and asks why I procrastinate so much. I can’t even begin to explain to him that sometimes I read or write and lose train of that and it annoys me so bad that I cry. I fight the urge to just grab my books and walk out of class because I cannot stand listening to another lecture. I know how you feel. I don’t know what to do either. Some days I wake up in the morning and wish it was night again. It takes so much out of me to get through a day.

College is really tuff. So is life. I just started and it’s been worse for me than High School. Although, with each new life stress, I am growing that much more as a person.