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you like someone ?..like a guy? lol tell her tht

Do you know her views on your lifestyle?

just be honest. the longer you keep this in and away from her, the more it will eat at you.
she’ll either accept it and love you regardless, or she’ll push you away. In the latter case, she was never as good a friend as you though she was.
But, give her time to think about it. It may come as a shock to her.

thanks shelley, but i dont think that would help lol

well i thought i could tell her because her neighbor is gay and they talk and everything fine, but then she’s the super religious type and on the phone once said that all gay people were going to hell, and in class she was telling me about her friends mom being a lesbian an she seemed disgusted. then i just got one of those chain letter txts of her supporting no to gay marriage and i just dont think i should.

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thanks shelley, but i dont think that would help lol

well i thought i could tell her because her neighbor is gay and they talk and everything fine, but then she’s the super religious type and on the phone once said that all gay people were going to hell, and in class she was telling me about her friends mom being a lesbian an she seemed disgusted. then i just got one of those chain letter txts of her supporting no to gay marriage and i just dont think i should.

oh, that’s not good, she seems to be pretty anti-gay…

Follow your instincts.. Don’t tell her then, or you may be running the risk of losing the friendship.. Besides, that is one’s person choice on who they are attracted to.Your business only :)

well, it’s all down to whether you can live with hiding this from her.
best of luck to you either way!

well i can its not that hard, but i still need something else to tell her since she knows i have something pretty important to tell her lol but i need ideas on that

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well i can its not that hard, but i still need something else to tell her since she knows i have something pretty important to tell her lol but i need ideas on that

tell her your going vegetarian.

What is the something else????

Or that you think you could be pregnant.

Make sure to tell her later that it was a false alarm.

well no but i’m still in high school, i have come out to some friends and two cousins and they all took it well, but i dont think i can come out to her and even though she may not be the real friend i thought she maybe she’s going through a lot right now and i’d like to be there for her. and i dont know if she will let me if i come out to her

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Then don’t. If it doesn’t feel like the right time Don’t.. insticts wiil be thee deciding factor…

Some people are very closed minded.

thanks

whats wrong with just saying hi im a lesbian and do you still want to be my friend and no i wont make a pass at you cos i dont fancy you then you can argue why you dont want to go out with her for the rest of the night ps try a few drinks before you start

Trust your instincts. With time,it gets easier to come out, but you also get better at surrounding yourself with more open-minded people. If you feel unusually anxious about telling her, she’s not the right person to tell. You don’t need to put yourself through that. You’ll probably end up growing apart from her, as you realize how much her views and your views diverge. So what’s the point? If she’s someone, you really want to keep as a friend, tell her, but if you’re willing to let the friendship go, gradually, then don’t. If you decide not to tell her the truth, you could always tell her you were so excited that you think you’ve decided on a college, career path, the city you want to move to when you’re 18, etc and that you really want her advice on it. Or you can say you’ve just found out your aunt is a lesbian and see how she takes it.

To Mr. Shill who invited me. Nope.

Do what you feel comfortable doing. I was in the same situation. My best friend was friends with other gays, she is a hardcore baptist, and she is against gay marriage (i actually told her I was doing a report on gay marriage to find out her views before I told her). I was getting ready to tell her and she actually guess that I was a lesbian, when I told her she was right she said that she was kidding and that she was only saying something that she thought was not true. But we talked and she was cool with it. It does depend on people, but I am still best friends with her and I was even in her wedding this past summer, so you never know unless you tell. Also, think about this, if she doesn’t agree with you being gay, don’t you think it will come out anyway eventually. And if you don’t tell her and she is supportive, she may even be hurt that you didn’t tell her. I actually did hurt people by not telling them. They understood eventually that I was scared, but you also won’t feel like you are leading a double life.