Family help: Always the black sheep of the family, always the family to look up too. - Help.com

Tune the family out.
Remember the saying, “You can choose your friends, but you can’t choose your family”
The only way to relieve the stress is to avoid them.
When you say “start over”, do you mean that you would leave them? Including your husband?
What age are you?

Thought about leaving my husband, but will not. Leaving the family for sure! Age well middle age is enough. Married over 10+ years. Seaking any outside advice right now, everyone else is too close to the situation and expert advisors well they get damned expensive.

Okay, so sit down and talk to your husband. Get together and support each other.
The fact that we can make choices in our lives is a good thing. Otherwise we’d all be miserable.
Take the opportunity to improve, together. Show the family that you’re above their petty problems.

That is how I feel it is finding the strength after 14 plus years to do this. With children involved and trying to pick up and start over…. It is hard.

Of course it’s hard.
Sometimes what happens….okay more than sometimes, we miss out on the little signs, or ignore them and treat them as unimportant.
Then, years later, we had trouble…and realise that the signs were there all along, but we did nothing about them.
Then trying to fix the problem is a huge ordeal.
You have to be strong…one of you MUST be strong. You can’t count on the kids, as they’re probably too young to fully comprehend the situation.
You’re the one who has come on here, so you need to be the one to take the first step.
You need his support and agreement that things need to change.
The longer it goes on, the harder it will be to enact change.

This is something from Earl Nightingales “The Strangest Secret” This is audio is true and simple fact in life that is true for all of us. “We become what we think about.”
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