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I wish i knew what to tell you, but i dont.

Play a little hard to get and don’t be so available. Don’t ignore him but don’t be so quick to spill your heart. Let him chase you a little bit. If someone is crazy about you they will make the time, If he doesn’t than you should move on. I would back off and open your heart to other options (guys) … He might come around.

Im usually very receptive with girls I like and if Im really into her coming on strong doesn’t bother me.
But that’s me, most men(subconsciously) want to do the chasing

i mean, he used to like me too, but it doesn’t seem like it anymore, maybe he’s stressed with school, idk. he’s my neighbor and i think he’s really great. but im just really confused on whether he doesn’t want to chill with me or he really, honestly, has no time to.

If hes your neighbor Im sure it would be easier to make time since your so close… Im in the same boat. I like a gal that I work with but she’s never available. We went out and i thought it was great, maybe I came on too strong. Now she doesnt return my calls and I get random texts sometimes. I would back off and act like theres no big deal, stop bugging him in a sense and let him do some of the work. This way you will know if he’s into you or not, you don’t want to waste your time on someone who doesnt feel the same way. Let time figure it out, back away and focus on other things and let him come around.

but it’s so hard because we literally used to hang out like, EVERYDAY and i feel like giving him time is giving him a chance to see that im not interested. i’ve liked him for the longest time, so now its like the feelings have stuck and it’s hard to act like im not super interested when i really am.

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If hes your neighbor Im sure it would be easier to make time since your so close… Im in the same boat. I like a gal that I work with but she’s never available. We went out and i thought it was great, maybe I came on too strong. Now she doesnt return my calls and I get random texts sometimes. I would back off and act like theres no big deal, stop bugging him in a sense and let him do some of the work. This way you will know if he’s into you or not, you don’t want to waste your time on someone who doesnt feel the same way. Let time figure it out, back away and focus on other things and let him come around.

Im not the poster but i have a question: How long does the guy play hard to get before you let him know how you feel?

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but it’s so hard because we literally used to hang out like, EVERYDAY and i feel like giving him time is giving him a chance to see that im not interested. i’ve liked him for the longest time, so now its like the feelings have stuck and it’s hard to act like im not super interested when i really am.

Man these feelings suck!! lol because i know how you feel but you have it worse than me because i only hung out with my guy friend for 2 days and i really enjoyed myself so now whenever im not with him all i think about is being next to him talking :(

yeah, but i always feel like im stalking him or something because we live RIGHT NEXT DOOR

wow, i wish girls like you were near me, im usually the one waiting. Well if you were intimate with this guy I would let him know your feelings and force his out too. This will only work if you can accept the truth, it might not be what you want to hear. If you are friends that never crossed the intimacy line Im sure he only views you as a friend and is aware of your feelings but might not feel the same way. I had a friend profess her undying love to me and I was baffled. She was so pissed that I did not feel the same way… needles to say our friendship is over. Anyway it’s hard for guys and girls to be just friends sometimes.

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yeah, but i always feel like im stalking him or something because we live RIGHT NEXT DOOR

I feel the same way but he tells me that i make him happy when im over. Do you know if he likes you? Like did he give you little signs when you all hung out with eachother?

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wow, i wish girls like you were near me, im usually the one waiting. Well if you were intimate with this guy I would let him know your feelings and force his out too. This will only work if you can accept the truth, it might not be what you want to hear. If you are friends that never crossed the intimacy line Im sure he only views you as a friend and is aware of your feelings but might not feel the same way. I had a friend profess her undying love to me and I was baffled. She was so pissed that I did not feel the same way… needles to say our friendship is over. Anyway it’s hard for guys and girls to be just friends sometimes.

No he likes me but he doesnt know (at least i dont think he know) i have feelings for him. I try to suppress them. I always tell him how im so happy i found a guy who is just a friend. then he always says patience patience to the side, like he have to be patient with me because i have so many walls built up.

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yeah, but i always feel like im stalking him or something because we live RIGHT NEXT DOOR

I feel the same way but he tells me that i make him happy when im over. Do you know if he likes you? Like did he give you little signs when you all hung out with eachother?

i know for sure that he USED to like me. but not so much anymore. i mean yesterday he kind of put his arm around me and i gave him a little kiss on the cheek. it seemed right to me, but im not sure how he felt about it. 2 weeks ago we were hanging out and i swear he almost kissed me. and i thought that would be enough to tell him part of what i felt for him and he told me we’re only friends. but i cant help but think about all the things he does as a way to flirt with me and tell me that he’s interested.

Im afraid to open myself up to the possibility of love (or a relationship). I try to protect myself from getting hurt by not being open and he knows that.

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yeah, but i always feel like im stalking him or something because we live RIGHT NEXT DOOR

I feel the same way but he tells me that i make him happy when im over. Do you know if he likes you? Like did he give you little signs when you all hung out with eachother?

i know for sure that he USED to like me. but not so much anymore. i mean yesterday he kind of put his arm around me and i gave him a little kiss on the cheek. it seemed right to me, but im not sure how he felt about it. 2 weeks ago we were hanging out and i swear he almost kissed me. and i thought that would be enough to tell him part of what i felt for him and he told me we’re only friends. but i cant help but think about all the things he does as a way to flirt with me and tell me that he’s interested.

Idk maybe hes not ready to be in a relationship because to me its obvious that he has some kind of feelings towards you. Maybe he think he likes you more so its hurting him or something… idk i dont understand guys lol

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wow, i wish girls like you were near me, im usually the one waiting. Well if you were intimate with this guy I would let him know your feelings and force his out too. This will only work if you can accept the truth, it might not be what you want to hear. If you are friends that never crossed the intimacy line Im sure he only views you as a friend and is aware of your feelings but might not feel the same way. I had a friend profess her undying love to me and I was baffled. She was so pissed that I did not feel the same way… needles to say our friendship is over. Anyway it’s hard for guys and girls to be just friends sometimes.

i know telling him how much i like him would be weird and so creepy for me to spill out to him all at once. he almost kissed me once. and he’s constantly commenting on how pretty i look.

Just do it and do it to know the truth. Your killing yourself over this… Move forward or move on

Its right what they say, it has to be if that person is “into you” or not, not everyone is attracted to each other. Id just be happy with being friends if one day the cupid takes over and the little arrow makes it mark then things will happen naturally, if not then be grateful to the fact you’ve got a good friend in him.:-)