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Yeah, but crying, anger, and saying nothing…. are tell tale signs of something.

I’m 14, don’t want to talk to my parents about my issues, so why don’t you suggest a councler?

She won’t talk to one. I tried that. We are very close… and she is usually more sharing. But not now.

That is my daughter… I did not mean to post anon at first… I clicked too fast

Maybe she needs space…. but I get anxious when I don’t know the answers

She probably just needs time. Even if you two are close, sometimes there are things kids just don’t feel like sharing.. or at least until they are ready.
Let her know you will be there for her if she needs to talk and leave it at that. Don’t try and force her to talk, she’ll just end up pushing you away more.

BFree wrote:
Maybe she needs space…. but I get anxious when I don’t know the answers

Well, sure. :) That just means you care.
But feelings, emotions, etc are personal, unless she is willing to share. I don’t mean for this to sound harsh, but you’re not really obligated to know every tiny detail of her life ..some things are private. :/

She already thinks I know too much about her. I think she really does want more of her own thoughts. As a parent, the world is a scary place, and I just need to know she is okay. It hurts to see her cry and not understand or know how to help her.

Also, I have come down on her about her grades, and I am afraid that I come down too hard. If I know what else is going on, I could see the bigger picture. Grades are about the only area that I am strict.

I know that it is normal… and scary I feel helpless. What if there is something wrong and I don’t know it.

My gut is just telling me something. My intuition is rarley wrong. I just have to wait for her to tell me.
Thanks for your time. Putting my fears out here are helpful.
I have to go and get the kids to bed. Thanks again.