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1 year, 2 months ago (10 minutes after post)
You will wind up being used. Mark my words on this one.
I think you are vulnerable and should be careful. I’m guessing he hasn’t even filed for divorce. He is a married man and you should stay away from him. Just because his marriage is failing does not mean he has the right to cheat. if he wants to end that relationship he should end it then take up with some one else. And you should have more respect for yourself and find a man who will respect you and not use you to cheat on his wife. Headed for divorce is not divorced.
ambrutellow wrote:
I think you are vulnerable and should be careful. I’m guessing he hasn’t even filed for divorce. He is a married man and you should stay away from him. Just because his marriage is failing does not mean he has the right to cheat. if he wants to end that relationship he should end it then take up with some one else. And you should have more respect for yourself and find a man who will respect you and not use you to cheat on his wife. Headed for divorce is not divorced.
I agree with ambrutellow
well, why dont u let him first sort out his issues with his present wife and get their devorce settled, and u do that too, coz the nly thing that wud happen is if u guys r goin to head into a relationship the ones that ul r in shud b sorted out first, unles it wud just be too much of a mess… and take ur timeand think where ur heading with this relationship too….also pray abt it..all the best
ambrutellow wrote:
I think you are vulnerable and should be careful. I’m guessing he hasn’t even filed for divorce. He is a married man and you should stay away from him. Just because his marriage is failing does not mean he has the right to cheat. if he wants to end that relationship he should end it then take up with some one else. And you should have more respect for yourself and find a man who will respect you and not use you to cheat on his wife. Headed for divorce is not divorced.
I also agree.
I think you should back off.
Wait ’til he’s available, let him resolve his own situation.
You won’t be able to have anything a healthy normal relationship should have if he’s still married and living with his wife. You are asking for more hurt.
Isn’t he cheating on his wife, or am I wrong?
You need your own space to deal with your divorce, heal and clear your mind.
I’m not rushing into anything. I’m just going with the flow, taking it slowly. Every single one of you have a great point. I will step back, but I can;t deny what a great guy he is. And yes! Getting a divorce is not divorced, and I will take that into consideration.
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It is rare that a husband will leave his wife for the other woman.Does he still live with her, or lives alone? Of coures he treats you and your kids good. The other woman is always treated well to keep the relationship going. If he can do this to her, what makes you think he wouldn’t do the same to you.He should make a clean break, then persue another woman. Just be careful. I’d want to see divorce papers first. Until then he just wouldn’t be seeing me. If he really wants you, he’ll take care of his relationship with his wife first, then persue you. If he cares so much about you, he’ll have no prob. waitng for the divorce to be final to start up with you again, Good luck :)
“rican” for some particular reason? lol
Where you from?
seas light wrote:
It is rare that a husband will leave his wife for the other woman.Does he still live with her, or lives alone? Of coures he treats you and your kids good. The other woman is always treated well to keep the relationship going. If he can do this to her, what makes you think he wouldn’t do the same to you.He should make a clean break, then persue another woman. Just be careful. I’d want to see divorce papers first. Until then he just wouldn’t be seeing me. If he really wants you, he’ll take care of his relationship with his wife first, then persue you. If he cares so much about you, he’ll have no prob. waitng for the divorce to be final to start up with you again, Good luck :)
Could not be said in a better way.
He may leave her, but it tells you something about him. Love does not conquer all, remember, he really loved his wife at one point too. This man is selfish and unable to deal with reality. The least he could do is wait until the divorce papers are filed. The fact is, he is cheating—and cheaters can’t change. He may even go back to his wife.
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Little late - maybe you will see this - maybe not. I am in his situation. Just because he is with you while heading toward divorce with his wife doesnt make him a ‘cheater’. Yes technically it is cheating but I dont think it falls into the category of once a cheater always a cheater. I sort of accidently ended up in a relationship w/ a friend while being married. When we realized we crossed the line between friendship and affair we decided to stop talking until my divorce goes through. If he is a decent person, he will understand when you call things off. I would be interested to hear what happened though - since your situation is so similar to mine.
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