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im a sophmore in college and my girlfriend who is a year younger then me broke up with me because she didnt want to be with me at school.

we still talk all the time, we still hook up from time to time. she wants to be friends with me, she still loves me, but when we hookup i always end up saying something about our feelings and she always ends up saying something like we shouldnt have these feelings for eachother and that we need to try to get rid of them but still be friends and hookup whenever. shes a virgin excfept for one time with me and she said that she is really horny at school and would rather have sex with someone thats a stranger then to have sex with me who she is comfortable with. i dont know what to do with this situation anymore because i know this is the girl for me in the long haul. we btoh said to eachother that if we met when we were 23 we would get married. she said wihle we together that she would want to have her fun in college and then when shes like 23 or 24 she would want to get married, she would like it if it were me. what do i do with this situation?

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seas light offline Verified User (1 year, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 3 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (9 minutes after post)

That is a strange comment, that she’d rather have sex with a stranger then with you .. Sounds like she wants to play the field maybe :)

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (38 minutes after post)

You want love, she wants sex. She hopes that hooking up with you every now and then will get you off her case and provide her with a steady supply of makeouts in case she can’t find enough strangers. Sounds like she still cares about you, but she needs to move on. You need to let her.

Most early-college relationships don’t last. Try to let this one go. Stay in touch, but stop hooking up with this girl. You’re letting her break your heart. Separate, stay friends if you can, and find somewhere to lick your wounds. Eventually you’ll want to date again.

Maybe she’ll want to date you again, too — but don’t hold your breath. Most likely you’ll both move on. It’s not the end of the world. You’ll meet loads of wonderful people in college, great friends and great lovers. Don’t get hung up on people who don’t want to be with you. Life’s too short.

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1 year, 1 month ago (1 hour, 34 minutes after post)

i agree with seas light… and the fact that she considers herself a virgin except for you - which means she isn’t a virgin anymore!

sounds like she is using you dude.

she wants a friend that is comfortable and that is you… but what is required or should be required for that good friendship is some sort of mutual feelings. otherwise you are limiting yourself by being with her.

play the field… sounds like she wants to before she settles.

besides… you don’t want to be some guy someone settles on after their adventures do you?

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