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oh wow well 3 years is alot of time. When your with someone for so long its hard to see yourself without them. What I would say you could do it just try to be there for them. Its gunna be hard for them it gunna take alot of time and even though this person was abusive and whatever else she obviously loved him and felt like she needed him enough to stay with him. Just try to make them happy and get them outta tha house and try to get her involved in outside activities like shopping, or maybe take her out to get pampered as girl friends day and go out and have fun.

Maybe you should get her help from a school counciler.If this has happened before maybe she has a psychological problem and not just wanting attention.

Yeah, take this seriously. Statistics show that most people who threaten suicide, while it may not seem like they would really do it, end up killing themselves, no matter how many years they’ve been threatening. See if you can talk to someone with experience, like a counselor, and tell about her problem. You don’t need to tell them her name, just tell them that you want to see her get help, but you don’t know how to confront her, and you’re scared that it will make her be more upset. They deal with things like this on a regular basis. They know how to help. My sister was like this, but I talked to a counselor, and we got her help. She made a complete turn-around! Let me know how it goes!

The others are right, it doesn’t matter if she’s doing this for attention - it may be the only way she knows how to seeks help for the feelings (or lack of) she’s going thru right now. If she’s talking SU, even if your don’t think she will, there’s alwasy the chance she may - specially if this relationship she just got out of was mentally draining on her. Years of abuse will effect people to the point they trueky believe they are worthless and not supposed to live.

She needs to get some true medical help before she tries to live up to her words and attempts to harm herself. I would say sit her down w/ the roomie and have a “light” conversation about how’s she’s doing and express that you both are very worried about her and think that perhaps she needs to seek some help. Point out that her sister has sought out help, so her seeking out help isn’t a bad thing. Take it slow and never threaten her, try to convince her that seeking her is her idea and a very good thing. Her sister wouldn’t do well off if anything was to happen to her.

If you truly think she’s a danger to herself for any reason, call 911/ER, cops - it’s better to have her mad than dead.

ok this might seem a little harsh and i havent read what other ppl have to say but here is what i can tell u frompersonal experience…ppl that wanna kill themselves wont talk about it they will just do it. and there is nothing that u or anyone else can do to stop her….short of u putting her in a mental hospital where she will be under constant watch for 24 hourse…u r truly helpless. ppl that wanna off themselves dont talk about it because there is a lot of shame that comes with actually wanting to do it. the chances are she is depressed but she needs to understand that that kind of talk is not acceptable and she needs to stop bein a drama queen and get the heck over it because ppl have been in much longer and worse relationships and have moved on…on ur art u can take her out, introduce her to new ppl and show her that life is beautiful but beyond that there is nothing that u can do. Good Luck and God Bless