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No, im not suicidal-yet. you’ll be the fist to know, thanks anyway
Oh Felicity, do you mean Gerry? Noooooooo please tell me things haven’t gone wrong?
How do you know his phone is back on?
That sucks, it happens to the best of us. If you don’t receive the call it just leaves room for someone else to call.
What was the last thing he said to you. Apart from claiming his phone is off. Is this Gerry your talking about?
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I love that avatar, felicity.
I wont tell the many details,but he brought out feelings in me I didnt know were there, im usually a strong, stable woman and im crying and losing hope. he does have a bad memory and is busy moving but he promised hed call, i left a message to at least call me and tell me something , anything but ………nothing. my heart is breaking
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Oh Felicity, don’t worry. You know what guys are like. They get completely focused on what they are doing and don’t think about the little things (like a phone call) that mean so much to us. Wait a bit longer, I’m sure things will turn out ok. *hugs*
Maybe something came up? Maybe he got a little freaked by his feelings and just needed to take some time or something…don’t give up hope. As Anubis said, you know what some guys are like. Just give it some time and try to keep busy. I’ll cross my fingers, eyes and toes for you!
Aww, I just feel so bad for ya being all worried. Hugs my friend.
He could have fallen ill again…Do you know which hospital he usually gets taken to?
I’m with the Mas-ster. I think I just made a (very) bad pun, which unfortunately doesn;t help right now. I hope he sees this and realises how much he has hurt you. *hugs*
Thanks marie, no, you guys are my only people i can talk to, besides no-one has seen this side of me, not even me- for many years. dang love, i wish it never happened now.im a mess but thanks ill think about what you said
Well we are here for ya darlin. That is just downright rude. I’m still hoping he has a mighty good excuse…*passes the ice cream around and some spoons*.
Men!
miss_enigma wrote:
Well we are here for ya darlin. That is just downright rude. I’m still hoping he has a mighty good excuse…*passes the ice cream around and some spoons*.
Men!
Yeah, I’d like some Ben and Jerry’s Phish Food and a very large spoon. (or Fossil Fuel, hell I ain’t fussy when it comes to just comforting my girlfriends.)
Felicity, I’m just sad I’m not there with you. Join in our virtual ice cream, all men are b’stards, crying fest. Never fails to make you feel better.
Men! *opens a bag of chips*..I swear, they just don’t get it sometimes. Grrrr! *talks with mouth full* Schuns o Beasches!
miss_enigma wrote:
Men! *opens a bag of chips*..I swear, they just don’t get it sometimes. Grrrr! *talks with mouth full* Schuns o Beasches!
Ohhhhhhh don’t get me started on the men topic, they realy are from mars you know!
*pours the wine* Right on sister!
Should I call some strippers? (I’m trying desperately to make you laugh Kimmy, hope I’m not failing miserably) We could taunt them with cheetos… ;)
miss_enigma wrote:
Well we are here for ya darlin. That is just downright rude. I’m still hoping he has a mighty good excuse…*passes the ice cream around and some spoons*.Men!
lol, ice cream and wine he he and strippers? sounds super. lol
miss_enigma wrote:
Men! *opens a bag of chips*..I swear, they just don’t get it sometimes. Grrrr! *talks with mouth full* Schuns o Beasches!
IM laughing my butt off now :D i gotta meet you , somehow ,someday, you are a riot girl!!
Anubis wrote:
I’m with the Mas-ster. I think I just made a (very) bad pun, which unfortunately doesn;t help right now. I hope he sees this and realises how much he has hurt you. *hugs*
Please people dont say anything to him , he might take it as me not trusting him and I do trust him, the man I talked to is a man of his word
Yaaaay! You are laughing! Now tell me, which one of you lovely ladies brought the taco dip? It’s delish *stuffs face*…I’ll call the strippers, lemme get some music ready…giggle..hiccup.
One day we’ll have a real gals night, all of us hopefully.
What about “I’m Too Sexy” by Right Said Fred?! LMAO! Cheeeeeeesie.
Mas1st wrote:
OMG - he is on this site???? I had no idea - how can he miss this - *feels bad now*. Wont he look?
S’ok, have some more wine. :D
Mas1st wrote:
Shoosh - crack open the bourbon - you werent the one that suggested hitting him with a baseball bat lol
LOL keep drinking, you will not remember in the AM
Mas1st wrote:
Shoosh - crack open the bourbon - you werent the one that suggested hitting him with a baseball bat lol
Tequila! *ding dong* Oh! That must be the “Massage Therapist”…hehehe. hiccup!
MamaBear {Felicity} wrote:
Anubis wrote:
I’m with the Mas-ster. I think I just made a (very) bad pun, which unfortunately doesn;t help right now. I hope he sees this and realises how much he has hurt you. *hugs*
Please people dont say anything to him , he might take it as me not trusting him and I do trust him, the man I talked to is a man of his word
Don’t worry, I would never think of mentioning this to Gerry myself (without your permission) as it is not my business. I just assumed he may see it when he logs on. :)
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I’m soooo sad :( he said when he got his phone back on I would be the first one he calls, its been on for 4 days now. I wish I could go back, it hurts and I miss him so much
You can delete this post after can’t ya? Til then bottom’s up! Sven is here with his magic fingers :D
Oh wait a minute, that could be construed in so many bad bad ways..giggle..hiccup!
miss_enigma wrote:
Yaaaay! You are laughing! Now tell me, which one of you lovely ladies brought the taco dip? It’s delish *stuffs face*…I’ll call the strippers, lemme get some music ready…giggle..hiccup.
One day we’ll have a real gals night, all of us hopefully.
What about “I’m Too Sexy” by Right Said Fred?! LMAO! Cheeeeeeesie.
lol.., im too sexy is perfect!
miss_enigma wrote:
You can delete this post after can’t ya? Til then bottom’s up! Sven is here with his magic fingers :D Oh wait a minute, that could be construed in so many bad bad ways..giggle..hiccup!
i dont dare comment on this one.lol
Ohh you know what I meant, massage therapist..ah nevermind hehehe. No diggin my way outta that one, time for jello shots! Woot woot!
Anibus, im not too worried about it, my problem anyway. just decided to add that info.
As always Marie, great advice! im trying to keep busy with the book, actually getting a lot done, have to force myself though. and trying to keep the hope too, its just real hard
Interesting timing Kim… did you see my post today? http://help.com/post/204683-are-you-w…
Anyway… just “click those heals together” baby… I’m sure it’s all going to be alright :)
Bright blessings ~ Richard
Richard cor de lyon wrote:
Interesting timing Kim… did you see my post today? http://help.com/post/204683-are-you-w…
Anyway… just “click those heals together” baby… I’m sure it’s all going to be alright :)
Bright blessings ~ Richard
No, :D but im very intrigued, on my way
Felicity believe me, he will call. Someone said here men are from Mars…how true it is! Not all of them are of course. He will call, just hang in there.
Im holding on, tomorrow i’ll know for sure hes suppose to be here, im getting excited
I am so excited for you Felicity! You must tell us how it went. You deserve all the best!
I wish you the best, he is a nice man :)
I wish I was in love, it has been so long, I hope for that once more.
Best wishes for you Felicity.
libragirl12 wrote:
I wish you the best, he is a nice man :)I wish I was in love, it has been so long, I hope for that once more.Best wishes for you Felicity.
I wish it for you too. it was about 17 yrs for me BTW I will pray you find your soulmate and God speed :D
MamaBear {Felicity} wrote:
libragirl12 wrote:
I wish you the best, he is a nice man :)I wish I was in love, it has been so long, I hope for that once more.Best wishes for you Felicity.
I wish it for you too. it was about 17 yrs for me BTW I will pray you find your soulmate and God speed :D
:)
May all good women have that!
You will I am sure
Hun you are always the one with such good advice… and you have such support and wonderful advice given back to you.
someone mentioned Ice cream, now that’s a craving… (looking into freezer…nope, just some frozen tofu) Not even cookies or doughnuts around… Who’s got the cookies???? Oh frick if you got some bailies I’ll take some of that yum!
My hubby missed our anniversary… he’s at work, he does most years, but frick someone has to have a cell phone on the rig he could have MADE the time to call and given someone the $2 dollars and change to just say ” I’m THINKING of you!”
Hon, I’m over it, after eight years of him being in the business of working the oil rigs he misses every holiday, birthdays anniversaries, and now he’s got another job… prospecting he does in the summer, and I can’t even begin to tell you what a worry THAT IS… but it’s what we women do, wait… and wait… and wait…
I got tired of waitin and just learned that your life is your own, and it is what you make of it, worry is an IDLE word. It halts you in your tracks and most times there is a legitimate reason for not staying in touch and other times there isn’t. Men are kids at heart but they don’t want or need a hand holding to nudge them along… when they see you have a life and are enjoying it with or without them… they soon become respectful in a hurry.
Your hun is probably thinking of you, has things on his mind and probably thinks that you are strong enough and secure enough in your own self and the relationship to handle the distance. you were independant before you met him, and you still are… love has a way of fooling us and decieving us but don’t let this situation get you down.
Love is wonderful and it allows us to grow, if he’s playing with you, well what goes around comes around, you can just be thankful that he came into your life for a wonderful reason. He’s what you needed through God’s eyes, but if it’s not meant to be, then there’s something in that that has been revealed to you that needs to be addressed and dealt with within yourself as a person and as a woman who has needs to be fufilled… get your heads out of the gutter guys… although that’s a nice perk to ( PSHAW am I talking this way, gotta be the bailies…)
Anyway, you are a woman who believes very strongly in God, give Him your prayers and your heartfelt words and ask Him to solve this situation and lead it in the direction it needs to go. I pray that God brings you peace and comfort as you lay your head on your pillow, and I pray that you regain your confidence in HIM, Christ Jesus and yourself and not the words of ANY MAN weather they are true or otherwise! MAY YOU FIND YOUR COMFORT IN GOD and your worth and who you are to be in the arms of Jesus as you rest in HIM!
MUCH LOVE SISTA!
love, Shannon
Eveeryone, It hit me last night, I’m convinced hes in the hospital. he has had 4 heartattacks, no matter why i didnt think of it b4, the thing is when i had called his mothers B4 she lied and said he wasnt there . Now its just a matter of finding out which hospital. Im looking into the surrounding hospitals but the phone calls etc are very stressful.Im going to call his mother again but I dont believe she will be helpful.the reason being its so soon after his wife died for him to develope a relationship. And if I do find out what hospital it will be appr. 300 miles away and thats another whole issue for me since I have a hard time even leaving the city on a local bus (anxiety).Now what the heck do i do besides talk to his mother and try to convince her him and i are friends too. Any ideas?
EVeryone; maybe you can help me, i think i was being selfish. Im convinced hes in a hospital. let me explain. hes had 4 heartattacks B4. the thing is I dont think his mother will be of any help. i called once B4 to see if he was ok after his trip to her house and she lied saying he wasnt there when i heard him in the background say’ tell her im fine. that was 4 days ago. I think she , like others dont like the idea hes in a relationship so soon after his wife died,like im sure people here are thinking, she was had MS or something similar, i forget, and her last 5 yrs there was no real relationship. NOw its a matter of finding out which hospital ,which im working on and calling her this morning. its appr. 300 miles away and just the phone calls ( to the hospital ) are stressful for me, let alone if i need to get on a bus, i have a hard time getting on a local bus to the neighboring city ( anxiety). I feel so helpless in all this. even if you can’t help me in some way i appreciate you being here for me. Thanks for listening. it helped to just get this out.
smoogie. wrote:
He could have fallen ill again…Do you know which hospital he usually gets taken to?
You really should start listening to me..But hey I bring the strippers anyway.
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Bugger your going to have to visit can’t get it up..Lol
Go ladies enjoy. I’m still perving as I type..hehehe
What you are feeling is FEAR. FEAR is not of the Lord. Check yourself Felicity. You need to put your faith in God, If you continue to put your faith in man you will never outgrow FEAR, FEAR of loss, FEAR of the unknown, FEAR of the TRUTH.
Your Friend
SoulRising
SoulRising is absolutely correct. Felicity, I know how you feel, I went through very similar case not even once and I did realize all was about fear. If you know the city, and have the time, call all of the hospitals and ask his name. His mother won’t be any help. Don’t be afraid to travel the distance even on a bus. He has no one to visit him and will reassure him how alone he is and will fall back to the memories of his wife he lost which means another depression. If you’d gone to see him, that would lift up his spirit. What is 300miles in today’s world? Nothing, not even on the bus.
[quote SoulRising]What you are feeling is FEAR. FEAR is not of the Lord. Check yourself Felicity. You need to put your faith in God, If you continue to put your faith in man you will never outgrow FEAR, FEAR of loss, FEAR of the unknown, FEAR of the TRUTH.
Your Friend
SoulRising[/quote what can i say but ‘your right.’Im much better today, just lost it last night. lots of stress lately
I want to thank all of you for your comfort and coming to my rescue when i really needed it. bless all of you.
did everything work out OK?
Don’tEverQuit wrote:
did everything work out OK?
Thank you for asking :) everything is still up in the air, he hasnt showed or called but Im better each day that passes. Im still worried but believing and hoping for the best more than i was b4
i’m sorry. it must be hard. i couldn’t imagine what you must be feeling. please keep us updated.
Don’tEverQuit wrote:
i’m sorry. it must be hard. i couldn’t imagine what you must be feeling. please keep us updated.
Mas1st wrote:
Stay strong - Marie
~smiles~ :) love you guys
What is going on with this guy? How serious are you guys? He said he would call you as soon as his phone came back on and that was 4 days ago? Is he still alive? Is he dying in a ditch somewhere? When this guy does call you, I would rip him a new #sshole, just before I jumped his bones. Stay strong but don’t forget to remind him of his word, what he is putting you through because he is not doing what he told you is unnecessary. Is this the guy you are planning to keep around for a lifetime?
How are you Felicity:)?
What’s the latest? How are you? *hugs*
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