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So my boyfriend and I were sitting down together, reading and there was a list of description words that went along with a certain handwriting…

I asked him if he had to choose any words out of those what he would chose to describe me. The words were anywhere from humorous to loyal to bad tempered and jealous and out of these lists of words he told me I was jealous. I asked him why he thought that and he got very mad and didn’t want to respond, but I couldn’t let it go I was curious and he told me because I didn’t like him writing to this 16 year old girl that he was talking to on the internet for years since she was like 13. Oh yea let me add in he’s 28 was 25 when he started talking to her…also let me add she lied about her age to him, but…when his girlfriend of 10 years broke up with him she said he could come stay at her sister’s in Michigan…he lives in New York…Anyways he went to see her…started dating her and slept with her…she then told him she was 15. He said he doesn’t regret the time he spent there though. Then after he came back and got with me he still talked to her…even told me he was more “connected” to her because of the music they listened to. Sometimes he would talk to her until early in the morning. So of course anyone would be mad and he took that for jealousy…another incident why he called me jealous was because my friend came over and well it was getting late and I was in a tank top and my underwear(in under the covers)smokin’ a bowl…well my friend thought it would be a good idea to grab the camera and take pictures then my boyfriend grabbed the camera and told us to pose which we did and all was fun and games, but then she started to lift up her dress to be in her underwear too and I was like w.e we’re still having fun, but then my boyfriend handed me the camera and told me to take pictures of them together which I did, but then I got mad and he sensed it so he told me to get in the picture too…which I did, but my friend had her leg over him and her dress pulled up so I asked if I could have a word with him and I told him I felt uncomfortable and I didn’t want to take pictures anymore and he told me I have to stop being jealous of her. I have pictures of that night too. I haven’t deleted them…I was going too, but that would just make problems worse as he would’ve been like see you are jealous…He thinks I’m crazy when I try to explain to him why I thought that way…sorry for this being so long, but I just want him to know I’m not jealous and what he did was ****** up and I have every right to be mad at these situations….right? I don’t know my head is so lost he’s got me believing I’m psychotic and should be put on meds…what do you guys think?

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So my boyfriend and I were sitting down together, reading and there was a list of description words that went along with a certain handwriting…I asked him if he had to choose any words out of those what he would chose to describe me. The words were anywhere from humorous to loyal to bad tempered and jealous and out of these lists of words he told me I was jealous. I asked him why he thought that and he got very mad and didn’t want to respond, but I couldn’t let it go I was curious and he told me because I didn’t like him writing to this 16 year old girl that he was talking to on the internet for years since she was like 13. Oh yea let me add in he’s 28 was 25 when he started talking to her…also let me add she lied about her age to him, but…when his girlfriend of 10 years broke up with him she said he could come stay at her sister’s in Michigan…he lives in New York…Anyways he went to see her…started dating her and slept with her…she then told him she was 15. He said he doesn’t regret the time he spent there though. Then after he came back and got with me he still talked to her…even told me he was more “connected” to her because of the music they listened to. Sometimes he would talk to her until early in the morning. So of course anyone would be mad and he took that for jealousy…another incident why he called me jealous was because my friend came over and well it was getting late and I was in a tank top and my underwear(in under the covers)smokin’ a bowl…well my friend thought it would be a good idea to grab the camera and take pictures then my boyfriend grabbed the camera and told us to pose which we did and all was fun and games, but then she started to lift up her dress to be in her underwear too and I was like w.e we’re still having fun, but then my boyfriend handed me the camera and told me to take pictures of them together which I did, but then I got mad and he sensed it so he told me to get in the picture too…which I did, but my friend had her leg over him and her dress pulled up so I asked if I could have a word with him and I told him I felt uncomfortable and I didn’t want to take pictures anymore and he told me I have to stop being jealous of her. I have pictures of that night too. I haven’t deleted them…I was going too, but that would just make problems worse as he would’ve been like see you are jealous…He thinks I’m crazy when I try to explain to him why I thought that way…sorry for this being so long, but I just want him to know I’m not jealous and what he did was ****** up and I have every right to be mad at these situations….right? I don’t know my head is so lost he’s got me believing I’m psychotic and should be put on meds…what do you guys think?

Anonymous #
1 month, 4 weeks ago (18 minutes after post)

where was I ?

weedworm 16 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 4 weeks ago (27 minutes after post)

pardon my stupidity and scratch the first post.

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yourhater #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 4 weeks ago (30 minutes after post)

he sounds like a d!****

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Coalesce 19 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 4 weeks ago (32 minutes after post)

Ditch him… no further explanation necessary.

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weedworm 16 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 4 weeks ago (36 minutes after post)

I’ve been with him for about 3 years though and I’m not saying I’m perfect either…all skeletons out of the closet. I did cheat on him but for the record I was smashed and I was hangin’ out with him my friend and her boyfriend and I smoked a cigarette and he started bitchin’ me out because he didn’t like me smoking so my friend took me to her friend’s house and there happened to be drinking and guys there and I woke up naked, but that all happened after all that other ****. And alcohol is no excuse and he asks me about that night all the time but I seriously don’t remember…thinkin’ of it now though I believe in my sub-concious I did it because I was mad at him for making me cry over a **** cigarette and all that other b.s. it’s jsut hard to break up with someone after you’ve been with them for so long. I love the bastard now.

Help me with: How am I suppose to communicate with someone that just starts yelling right away without hearing me out first?

Coalesce 19 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 4 weeks ago (40 minutes after post)

Okay… he cheats on you, you cheat on him. If that’s what you want go for it. Just don’t fool yourself about what this is.

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weedworm 16 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 4 weeks ago (45 minutes after post)

he hasn’t cheated on me and I was really surprised when he took me back…kind of gives you the feeling of someone truly loving you. Maybe it’s that thought that makes me want to fix things…I mean people have survived through rough times. I just was hoping we could be that kind of couple…He has been very rude and jumpy lately, but after 3 years and getting a place together you figure you’ve survived everything else and you can make it work. I don’t know though. time will tell?

Help me with: How am I suppose to communicate with someone that just starts yelling right away without hearing me out first?

yourhater #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 4 weeks ago (52 minutes after post)

weedworm wrote:
he hasn’t cheated on me and I was really surprised when he took me back…kind of gives you the feeling of someone truly loving you. Maybe it’s that thought that makes me want to fix things…I mean people have survived through rough times. I just was hoping we could be that kind of couple…He has been very rude and jumpy lately, but after 3 years and getting a place together you figure you’ve survived everything else and you can make it work. I don’t know though. time will tell?

time will just show that it can get worse…

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Coalesce 19 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 4 weeks ago (52 minutes after post)

Okay… you are about to take a car on a 200k mile road-trip. Once already it started smoking and sputtering and stalling but never really died. You were frustrated while it was dying, got drunk, and took a taxi home. You were very happy to see though that when you got back to the car it was intact and seemed to run relatively smooth.

You wanna stick with the vehicle ‘cuz it sticks with you? There is absolutely nothing wrong with that. But cars that start smoking and stalling typically don’t make it 200k miles.

Homedude’s camera incident displays that he to some degree or another wants to hook up with your friend… which indicates that he may be cheating and even if he isn’t… he’s still a pig.

You wanna take him for a spin, feel free. Just don’t be all surprised when he bails on you while your stuck in the middle of nowhere.

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weedworm 16 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 4 weeks ago (58 minutes after post)

I’ve been told I’m blind before, but he says he hates her and she’s a stupid ****…he makes fun of her all the time. he wouldn’t have to cheat on me with her he already did **** with her when I first met him. I walked in on it because I was living with my friend at the time and he was suppose to be coming over and I was walking home from the library…anyways I let it go because I just liked him and we weren’t dating at the moment. o god I know the relationship was ****** up and it almost ended, but he kept chasing after me telling me he loved me and wanted me to come back. *sigh* I feel trapped in so many different ways and I know no one can help me with that. I still want things to be different like maybe we could be learning and growing from what we know now. maybe I just live in a dream world.

Help me with: How am I suppose to communicate with someone that just starts yelling right away without hearing me out first?

Coalesce 19 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 3 weeks ago (19 hours, 52 minutes after post)

Conciously choosing a situation that is nearly guaranteed to provide hearbreak (cheating), suffering (STD’s), and misery (financial woes & potentially… parentage)?

Doesn’t sound like a dream to me, sounds like a nightmare. We all know the answer to this one…

You know what to do and it won’t help you for me to say it again.

You either choose to succeed or choose to fail.

Your turn.

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dukeofdemusi #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 3 weeks ago (3 days, 1 hour after post)

Depends.
1.You want a fun spin with a boy thats always messing around with girls and the life of the party…
2.Or do you want to have a good relationship with a passionate boy that cares for you and is there for you each time you get mad or jealous. One that doesnt tell you to stop being jealous, but one that helps you get through your jealousy and stop whats making you jealous.

If you want 2. , I suggest you dump the pig.

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