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Hi guys!

Ok so here is my problem i’m totally in love with this guy and he is just amazing: funny, cute, smart and just all around awesome. i would say we are kinda friends but whenever i’m around him i get nervous and i’m not myself. he recently broke up with this really yucky girl who was with him to just have a boyfriend instead of really wanting to be with him. Now he told my one of my friends (she asked him) and he said that he is slightly intrested in my other friend (because she said she liked him) (he’s not one to speak his feelings first) now i think that he slightly likes her because she likes him. (thats so confusing even i have a hard time following it ;) so any advice as to how to win him over?

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kemmy offline Verified User (9 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 82 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 month, 4 weeks ago (5 minutes after post)

Why are you and two of youre friends all going after the same guy??

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1 month, 4 weeks ago (7 minutes after post)

we live in an extremely small town and i’m new and i just kinda like him and once i said i did the other two were just like “oh yeah… us too!”

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kemmy offline Verified User (9 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 82 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 month, 4 weeks ago (11 minutes after post)

lol Oh. Dont you think it would be a little odd if the three of you were fighting for the same guy?? Thats never good for friendships.

Well, theres really no way to force someone to like you, and trying to win him over is kinda like forcing.

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Anonymous #
1 month, 4 weeks ago (16 minutes after post)

yeah it’s already weird when he talks to one of us and the others are like “why’d he talk to you??? ;p” ok and i guess you’re right about the whole winning him over think. I’m just going to try to be more at ease when i’m around him. *sighs*

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cherry_blossom offline Verified User (2 months, 1 week) Shouts: 6 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 4 weeks ago (20 minutes after post)

Anonymous wrote:
yeah it’s already weird when he talks to one of us and the others are like “why’d he talk to you??? ;p” ok and i guess you’re right about the whole winning him over think. I’m just going to try to be more at ease when i’m around him. *sighs*

hey, don’t let this get you down. I get where you’re coming from. I’ve been there too. All I can say is not to let this get in the way of your friendship. BUT!!! Don’t back down just because your friends are interested too. If they’re good friends, they’ll understand and be happy for you. And if they are mad at you, well then they aren’t worth it and obviously don’t care about your happiness. I say let the best man…er…woman win. lol! =] good luck!!!

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kemmy offline Verified User (9 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 82 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 month, 4 weeks ago (23 minutes after post)

Dont forget if he decides to date one of them, to be happy for her the way youd like her to be happy for you.
When you hang out with him, just be yourself. If he doesnt like you in that way, dont worry about it. Theres some guy out there wholl love you the way you are, so dont change just to try to impress this one guy.

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cherry_blossom offline Verified User (2 months, 1 week) Shouts: 6 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 4 weeks ago (24 minutes after post)

kemmy wrote:
Dont forget if he decides to date one of them, to be happy for her the way youd like her to be happy for you.
When you hang out with him, just be yourself. If he doesnt like you in that way, dont worry about it. Theres some guy out there wholl love you the way you are, so dont change just to try to impress this one guy.

Exactly! =D

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1 month, 4 weeks ago (26 minutes after post)

yeah i will be. I just really want him to pick me. (i know there is nothing i can do about that but be myself) thanks for the good advice though!

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cherry_blossom offline Verified User (2 months, 1 week) Shouts: 6 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 4 weeks ago (27 minutes after post)

yup! it’s what we’re here for!
oh, and you seem like a great person so he’d be perrty stupid not to pick you, but if he doesn’t don’t let it get you down. There will be others! just keep that in mind too =] best of luck to ya! ;]

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kemmy offline Verified User (9 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 82 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 month, 4 weeks ago (29 minutes after post)

No worries. Good luck to you!

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