Money help: My 37 yo sister had been in a relationship for 11 years. - Help.com

My 37 yo sister had been in a relationship for 11 years.

He had a drug problem,(she did too)they never had a car for more than a few months. They kept losing jobs. She has puncture scars on her arms from giving blood so often. They were being evicted and had nowhere to go. He was put in jail for beating her. My husband and I agreed to let her live with us to help her get straightened out. She was happy to help around the house for the first month, go to the pool kind of take it easy at first. The agreement was that we help her become independent, within a time line of anywhere from a year to two years. I would shuttle ber back and forth to whatever job she could get. I want her to go into counceling also. ( I feel those years caused alot of damage.)
It’s been five months now and she has a part-time waitressing job,third shift, she refuses to go to counceling, she spends hours on the computer,she has run up a 300.00 phone bill on a phone that I got her in my name. She takes at least every other Sat. night off from work, (Her money night) just so she can go and be out with whatever man she has met on the computer. She is supposed to be saving money to buy a car, and we were going to help her with that. Every time I approach her and ask her not to take those days off she goes in a huff and stomps out. She says she needs this time to her self or she will go crazy.My husband is ready to kick her out, I feel that I have failed by not being more proactive, and making her do more.
Please any thoughts or recommendations? I am at my wits end!

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