Person help: If looks are unimportant, then why do we all get so distressed over them? - Help.com

It is not a fact that what’s inside is what really counts. Thats a lie. Beautiful people get everything easier. Beauty = money and love. Looks ARE important. And that’s why freak out over physical appearance.

People dont want to get to know an ugly person to get to know the real person. It is a sad fact of life that looks are important and we try to deny this. I dont think looks are important, but I still judge people.

Heres a statement to back up my last claim:
Humans are naturally drawn towards things that are aesthetically pleasing. That’s why one usually doesnt want to stomp over flowers, but has no problem walking through a field of grass. Because flowers are pretty whereas grass is ordinary and boring. Just like people want to goggle and stare at hot people and have no problem stomping all over ugly people. It’s a fact of life.

Human Nature is kind of disgusting.

What can we do, then, when we’re ugly?

bogdan - i totally agree. I hate humans. We’re are disgusting. We are self centered and egotistical. And honestly, we’re freaking ugly. Compared to bunnies and wolves and deer, I think we’re repulsive. Yet something still draws me towards blondes…terrible really.

Anon - You have a few options. Two i can think of off the top of my head are:
1. Deal with it.
2. Get plastic surgery.

Ugly people aren’t completely helpless. If you’re looking for love, just hope that you’ll find someone who is fed up with hot assholes and ready to settle for a nice ugly person. But personally, if Zac Efron is an *******, I would still go out of my way to please him. Beauty mutilates the human mind. We are so shallow.

Ignore the world. Someone will find you and see the inner beauty, bring it forth and let it shine to the world. This is a beauty brighter than the body can have.

Bogdan wrote:
Someone will find you and see the inner beauty

HOPEFULLY. It doesnt happen for all ugly people. Some ugly people are destined to be spinsters for life. =/

Ugly can be a perception of oneself. Some tell my I am ugly, others beautiful. I think I am ugly.

That’s true. Well hopefully there’s a hot person with really bad taste out there for every ugly person….optimistic thinking…

Personally, i think you have hot potential. You have a fairly nice face. i would just do something different with your hair…i dont know what.

I, on the other hand, have an ugly face. and im fat.

im going sleepies now.

Goodnight TheJDevil.

k i totally use to go for looks, that fckd me over… i took a chance on this one guy, i fell in love, im still in love wit him… he’s cute, he says he loves to show me off. i luff the compliment… looks aren’t everythin… when your at a young age i think it matters alot… now a days, im 23, i could careless if im at the mall & i lookd like i jus got outta bed, its all about self confidence, not self image… i take pride to look a certain way when i go to work, or if i go for diner wit my bf, or sumthin, but i don’t worry about wat i look like 24/7 & i don’t expect that of ppl also…

Yeah, I mean, I’m ugly and I try not to care, especially since I have a boyfriend and he has much hotter friends, I just try to ignore it. When I complain about this, he tells me that I’m not ugly, I’m pretty, sure I’m not the hottest girl in the planet, but that I look good, and so what? I have other qualities and blah blah… and maybe he’s right, but I can’t believe it.

I was ignored through highschool. You know, the typical girl, who had a handful of prettier friends who always had dates, but she was always heartbroken because some boy preferred to go out with the blonde airhead. I lived with that for years, so I still can’t believe I’m beautiful, because I also don’t turn heads. So I can’t believe my boyfriend. I know I have great qualities as a person, I just try to ignore my appearance.

When you say ugly, if you mean you have a serious cosmetic deformation or health issue, then be worried. If you’re just not the most beautiful girl amongst your peers, then I would just get over it. Maybe you aren’t the most aesthetically pleasing person, but most people can present themselves decently enough. There are a ton of other qualities people are valued for.

Stop complaining about your appearance to your boyfriend, because that is *VERY* unattractive. Just as girls do, guys also like girls that are confident, just in different ways. No guy likes to hear questions like, “do you think this makes me look fat”, “do you think I’m ugly” and so forth. Just be confident, you’re obviously good enough for him if he’s dating you. There are many, many, many other things important to men than aethetics, I can say so from experience.