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Yeah I all ready made it perfectly clear to myself that if anything were to happen between us again, that she’d **** well prove to me that she’d never do this again to me. This isn’t about trying to get back with her or something or trying to win her over, this is just trying to be there as a friend because that’s what she needs right now, at least coming from experience.

Seas - Yeah I’m sure she’s realizing now that she’s lucky I still even want to talk to her and not make fun of her or something.

Nisa - Yeah the guy is this Adel’s sister’s best friend and it really is messed up for him to mess with her life like this. I know I should be like “haha you deserve this” but it’s just.. no one deserves to get their heart broken no matter what the situation, especially like this. To be completely fooled.. I just want to make sure she won’t like.. kill herself or something.

kristie - Yeah pretty much, she didn’t know it at the time because he did a good job at gaining her trust. Now it all make sense why he never made the effort to visit her or even meet her.

Haha funny. I’m doing the only thing I can do right now, which is be a friend to her. I just really hope she’s smart enough to not be talking to this kid anymore. I remember how it was going through this without anyone in Chicago and I was forced to make friends to get over this and it was very difficult and I just feel like no one should have to go through that, no matter who it is. I’m sorry if people don’t agree with me or if I seem to have compassion for her when I shouldn’t, but I just feel that no one deserves to be in this situation. She needs someone to talk to and to relate to, at least that’s what I needed which is why I came here, so I’m just going to give her that much respect at least.

I don’t know if she wants me back and honestly I’d rather not think about that right now. In the only situation if I’d even consider considering to take her back would be if she would show me that she made a ridiculous mistake in her life being naive and immature about everything which would show me that she has had her eyes opened and she matured because of this. Only then I’d consider even considering taking her back because I mean, in all honesty she did this to me once, she’s just going to have to **** well prove to me she won’t be this immature again to drop everything for someone she doesn’t even know or something she’s proved to believe in for a very long time. I just have a feeling right now she doesn’t want me back which is fine, or what’s going through her head is if she ever wants me back “how could he ever want me back after what I did to him” or something, I dunno.

Thanks for the support kristie, I really appreciate it. I think that’s what I’m going to do, I might give her a call tonight if she doesn’t contact me, just to see how she’s doing. One thing I’m sort of worried about is because when she was younger she used to sort of scratch and hurt herself when she was upset and I don’t want this to get that out of hand.

I hope everything with you is going all right as well. It’s just so strange how all of this suddenly happened, because if I didn’t go on that internship and meet my friend Saranya, then she’d still be completely oblivious and something even more serious could have happened. I’m hesitant to say it, but it almost seems like fate.

Yeah the other day when we talked she thanked me a lot of times just for calling her and talking to her and she apologized for trying to push me out of her life.

Ah yeah AP classes were a pain for me in high school too. I didn’t pass my AP exams sadly, but I’m horrible when it comes exam time even though I know the information which is annoying. I’m really glad you and your boyfriend came to terms with one another after all that drama that happened over the summer. It’s really good to know he was able to put his head on straight and everything.

I completely know what you mean about it being entirely too crazy to be accidental or whatnot because everyone I talk to says it feels like a bad movie or a novel or something. Of course there’s a part of me that’s curious to see what would happen if we got back together, of course pretty much everyone in my life would never forgive me or her especially my mother, but then again I don’t want her completely out of my life because she was such an important part in my life. I guess I’m just looking forward to her getting her head on straight just so she can come back to that person I grew up to know, just as Eric did for you.

Haha yeah I know what you mean about the grades and everything. I always did awesome in high school, but college has always given me a run for my money. I’ve always tried to do my best, but at times my best hasn’t been up to my expectations, given the fact that people keep telling me I’m possibly taking the hardest major in my university, but still I’m supposed to be good at this stuff? Lol you know what I mean?

I know what you mean about the whole being preoccupied by school to not worry about relationships I guess it’s because of how I am right now. I’m doing really well in my classes right now and I just have to focus on applying to grad schools now. I’m very glad everything is going well for you though :) it’s nice to hear good news.

Haha being mature obviously comes with age. I went through the same things as you in high school, and in all honesty I went through the same anxieties Brittany is about starting college and even about her situation. When I first started college, I really was not sure if it was Brittany that I wanted to spend the rest of my life with, but when I finally met her for the first time, if you read my whole post about our first encounter and everything, I obviously just knew she was “it” and it helped me a lot and I was completely secure with myself and my relationship. The other day when we were talking she said tome “I just feel like I don’t want to even go to college anymore” and when I was going through this I felt the same things and I just told her “No, you can’t feel like that, you just can’t let it consume your life like that, you’re better than this.” I hope I got through to her, I mean she said “I know I know I can’t think this but I can’t help it” but I honestly can’t blame her because I went through the same things.

Yeah pretty much, my major’s biochemistry and molecular biology, it’s like a combined major so I don’t have to have a minor haha.

I always enjoyed high school too, except for the drama that sometimes occurred. I just really liked how close I was to certain people, but moving to college you develop completely different relationships with your friends; they’re like your everything. You don’t have your parents to depend on and your friends are always there for you talk to or just to have fun with.

Haha you don’t sound like a creep I mean.. I post for people to read and respond to so that’s sort of the point lol. I’m glad you’ve read everything so you know everything that’s been going on :) About the reminding part, that’s sort of what I’m doing. We talked last night and it was.. really nice. We laughed, we cried and we just had a good discussion, haha corny huh? She’s still talking to this guy because she has questions she wants answered and I told her “that’s exactly what I was going through Brittany.” But at the same time she feels bad for him and she told him she would still like to meet him, so I think she’s still confused. I’m going to try to help her get her head on straight and then see where things go.. I won’t give up on her.. she needs someone to talk to right now and that’s what I’m giving her.

Aw.. thank you very much Kristie.. I really appreciate that. I really hope I do find what I want/need in life right now. It’s just, there’s a lot of things on my mind and there’s one direction that right now, I’m really sort of hoping for and I’m sure it’s sort of obvious. I’m willing to get over this as long as she’s willing to realize how stupid and immature this whole situation became and she really realizes how much she loved me rather than going and saying she didn’t. I’m just letting time take it’s course, but at the same time, I’m afraid that if I don’t take enough action the opportunity for something great might slip past my fingers..

Yeah see, that’s what’s been running through my mind this entire time. She did this to me once, and I don’t want her to do this to me again. At the same time, I can just feel in her voice how sorry she is for doing this to me because she feels how she made me feel. I’m pretty sure that I could get over this.. because I just.. love her that much I guess.. I’ve always loved her unconditionally and it’s just, realizing that I could get past this because I love her.. really proves to myself that I could love her again just the same. I just need to feel out how she feels about this whole thing, which is also why I’m still talking to her. I don’t want to outright ask her because I feel that it might not be quite right to do, I really don’t know. I wish I had it under control haha..

One thing that’s been buzzing through my head is when she told me “If we weren’t meant to be together then this wouldn’t have been happening.” But now, this happened and we’re back in each other’s lives. I think it’s just.. we were both meant to feel true heartache at some point of our human lives because we were both so happy for so long we never experienced it. Now we have and the pieces have to be picked back up and I just feel like.. maybe all this was supposed to happen for a reason. I just don’t want like I said earlier.. if something great is supposed to happen between us again I don’t want to let it slip away or have her judgement get clouded.