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It’s hard to tell if he’s a jerk or not. From your story, it honestly just sounds like a guy in college who is enjoying himself and not necessarily being committed, which is fine although people sometimes get hurt unintentionally. There’s nothing really wrong with him making out with more than one girl as long as he’s not committed to someone else.

Meet as many guys as you can. Why get so hung up on this particular one?

Only a little confusing, but I think I understand! >.
I’m not sure if he’s a jerk or not.. it all comes down to whether YOU think he’s a jerk. But it sounds like you’re pretty unsure about that..
If you really want my opinion (I can’t see why you would though!), I think he has been a bit of a jerk, but he has the potential to be a nice guy. You really need to start talking to him again.. communication is the key to everything. Instead of hearing stories about his exploits, hear them from him himself! Sometimes malicious gossip can make the person out to be worse than what they really are. Or, then again, sometimes it can be the plain and ugly truth!

Try engaging him in conversation next time you see him. I know how difficult and daunting that may seem, but maybe if you just do it really casually, just ask him a random question while passing like “Do you have the time?”, “Have you heard from *insert friend’s name here* lately?” or you could even do the good old dropping your books (or whatever else) when he’s in the vicinity. If he’s genuinely nice, he should stop and help you pick them up. And then you could easily get a conversation going :)
I really don’t know though, I’m giving this advice and yet I’m hopeless at talking to boys myself! Good luck though with whatever you choose to do, even if that is nothing ;)

p.s. Nice to see a fellow straightedger on here! I hardly meet any these days.. everyone just runs around getting drunk and what not these days. I’m the only one of my friends who has chosen not to drink/smoke/do drugs, and it sure can get lonely sometimes.. especially seeing as I don’t drink coffee or tea because of the caffeine in it (now THAT makes me feel like a freak…)

Wait your asking if he’s a jerk? For what? Has #2 been going out with him? If so than he is a jerk for making out with u when he was seeing someone but at the same time u made out with him him too and it was your friends bf. Idk if he was going out with anyone this whole time but if he was then you’re all jerks. Except friend #1

Sorry to b so blunt but i hate cheating

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Do you think he’s worth becoming friends with?
The only reason I hesitate is because I’ve been feeling so self-concious and scared-to-get-hurt lately.

If it was you, would you leave well enough alone and get on with your homework/friends?

You can only get hurt if you allow yourself to expect more out of the relationship than he’s offering. If you want a committed relationship and he wants to remain a free spirit, you could be setting yourself up to get hurt. However, if you’re just looking for a buddy to make out with every once in a while and he’s up for that, no problem. Also, if he’s looking to settle down (which I kind of doubt, but it’s possible) and that’s what you want from him, then it could be worth trying out.

But to be honest, I think that you’re making this very complicated. You’re asking the wrong people whether he’s worth something pursuing a relationship and you haven’t even said what kind of relationship it is that you really want. Just feel it out. It seems like that’s what he’s doing. Let go of your expectations and either allow things to happen or stop when things get uncomfortable.

O ok well in that case sorry for assuming that lol idk y he would b a jerk. Do u mean for not talking to u? Do u try to talk to him?

Yeah well it is a bad thing i guess but i wouldn’t call him a jerk for kissing girls. Maybe for teasing them i would