life help: By helping others , i really hope to help myself. - Help.com

Your rationale sounds a little selfish and makes your efforts to help somewhat shallow. You many want to consider helping people just for the joy of helping and not what it might do to make your own life better.

Well, personally I don’t help others to make me feel better about myself.
BUT… I do find that when I do help others, it has that effect, and I do feel better about myself!

I understand completly, that you indeed will be helping yourself by the satisfaction you get inside, just knowing your remarks might actually be of help to others. Plus if you are depressed or whatever, you can see other’s replies and in that respect in turn be helped yourself.

Its like all important things in life, you can’t go at them straight on, you just find yourself there.

I you focus on how much good it will do for you when you help others, it won’t do you as much good.

Your so right :)

i dont see what you have to say in a shallow or negative way at all, we all need to help ourselves too! i often find my own answers in the advice i give to others. some people help and others dont, you do and thats what matters!