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well here is the thing, get ready for a story.

im pretty depressed right now because i had just got out of a really bad relationship. i was kinda over it, sick and tired of being overlooked, and not loved, so i moved on. got over it. but recently i met this girl working as a bank teller. she is beautiful, smart, she is a hard worker, we have so much in common. we would talk for hours and i took her out once in a while to dinner. come to find out she had been in a bad relationship too, almost identical to mine. my feelings started to grow for her, i thought she liked me, the last thing i wanted was for me to get hurt again. she recently got a better position at the bank as a personal banker. so i invited her to a little celebration dinner. she couldnt go, so we rescheduled, its been 3 times she reschedules, i havnt seen her in over a month (i miss her) we were suppose to get together this past sunday, she told me she coulodnt because some family unexpectedly stoped by her house, that her mother wouldnt let her leave. yea we both are 19 i mean she is old enough to leave if she wanted to. i was looking over her myspace profile and i see that she posted pictures of hersfel and some other guy. my heart just broke. she was suppose to be with family. she lied to me, she went to some party, wtf./. this guy posing with her holding her , i hate to be jelous, i didnt think i was, i thought we could be something. she was the only real motivation i really had right now. now i feel emptyu, i dont want to do nothing. im gonna see her tommorrow because im taking a friend too open an account with her. i have so many mixed feeling inside, ugggghgh. why does it have to be like this,. Im mad, jelouse, confused, more than anything dissapointed because i stronly believe i have failed myself. too much is going on in my life. all found out my x is pregnant, got that way while she was woith me. i wont get into that though. i dont feel like killing myself, but i feel like dieing…. someone tell me what to do……please..

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An Unknown Location | 1 month, 3 weeks ago (31 minutes after post)

Hi. Wow. That all sounds like a bit of a rollercoaster.
This girl sounds like she’s been quite cowardly and unable or unwilling) to be truthful with you, most likely because she doesn’t want to hurt you. The sad irony is that, of course, she has done just that.

Ultimately, if a relationship with you isn’t right for her, then it isn’t right for you either. I often see friends get into situations where they are madly in love with someone who doesn’t treat them with love and respect, but they still keep hanging on in there in the desperate hope things will work out eventually. I have also been in relationships where I have been the one madly in love and unable to let go. It causes more pain than joy, but somehow, a part of us seems to love poking at the bruise.

You say that you feel like you failed yourself. Why? Have you done anything wrong other than choose the wrong type of person to fall for? Maybe it would be fairer to say that you feel like a bit of a fool for making a bad call? It’s nothing to be ashamed of. We all do it at some point.

Why do you feel jealous? This girl has been deceitful and cowardly in her approach to you. She knew you had recently had a bad relationship, she’d been through one herself, and yet she could still lie to you and treat you the way she did.

Maybe you could start to realise that you’ve had a lucky escape. Ok, she may be smart and beautiful, but she also was disrespectful and deceitful. Are these qualities you are looking for in a partner?

Keep your head held high and walk away. It may take some time to heal, but it wil heal eventually. It might be worth avoiding having any relationship for a while until you feel clearer.

I really feel for you. Have been through some bad relationships in the past. V hurtful and scary at times. There are plenty of lovely people out there too, though. Seek them out. They are the ones that make it all worthwhile.

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An Unknown Location | 1 month, 3 weeks ago (42 minutes after post)

thanks for your reply, u do have many good points. i have my head all over the place right now, some of the things you said did make sense, in a way i do feel a little better. thanks again. i didn’t really think someone would care to read what i had to say.

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An Unknown Location | 1 month, 3 weeks ago (54 minutes after post)

No worries. Hope all goes well. Am around on here a fair bit. Will keep an eye out for you.

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