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Today i was meant to go out with someone on a second date. I have just text him saying i wont be going. I dont have the patience or the time for a relationship at the moment i kinda feel like i need to be alone for a while i have finally figured out what i want out of life and i want to concentrate on that for a while. I feel bad though as i got dumped by my ex by text although totally diffrent situation i do feel like its double standards

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seas light offline Verified User (4 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 205 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 month, 3 weeks ago (7 minutes after post)

Heavens, It was only to be a 2nd. date. If you feel that bad, why not tell him the truth about wanting to be commitment free at the moment. There’s always another time :)

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An Unknown Location | 1 month, 3 weeks ago (8 minutes after post)

yeah i know but then he sent a text saying sumit like o this always happens i just feel mean

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seas light offline Verified User (4 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 205 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 month, 3 weeks ago (14 minutes after post)

Can you call him and explain? Why can’t you tell him you’ll be his friend, but at the moment, your not up for a relationship….

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stuck offline Verified User (5 months, 3 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 26 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 3 weeks ago (16 minutes after post)

never works not when someone else wants more

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An Unknown Location | 1 month, 3 weeks ago (18 minutes after post)

Why couldn’t you call him to cancel, instead of text?

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seas light offline Verified User (4 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 205 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 month, 3 weeks ago (19 minutes after post)

A second date, that’s not even a serious friendship yet. She has nothing to be sorry about. Is she supposed to do something she isn’t comfortable with for the sake of him? NO!!!!!REPEAT……2ND DATE!!!!!Do what you feel is right :)

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stuck offline Verified User (5 months, 3 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 26 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 3 weeks ago (19 minutes after post)

cause i knew how he would react like he is now trying to talk me into and i would end up going when i dont want to selfish i know

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seas light offline Verified User (4 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 205 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 month, 3 weeks ago (20 minutes after post)

Please yourself, other wise it would only be a feeling sorry type thing.

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SoulRising offline Verified User (7 months, 2 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 16 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 3 weeks ago (23 minutes after post)

I think you are being honest, honest with yourself. You are on the road to freedom, please don’t ever turn back:)

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stuck offline Verified User (5 months, 3 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 26 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 3 weeks ago (23 minutes after post)

im not going i desreve more then to go out with someone cause i feel sorry for them and he deserves more then that too

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seas light offline Verified User (4 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 205 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 month, 3 weeks ago (1 hour after post)

good for you :)

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stuck offline Verified User (5 months, 3 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 26 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 3 weeks ago (1 hour, 13 minutes after post)

NoobRaper2 wrote:
Ah.
So your a greedy bastard!
Well way to go.
Your never going to find anyone.

whats all that about??

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An Unknown Location | 1 month, 3 weeks ago (5 hours, 47 minutes after post)

Checklist

be honest with you…….. Check

be honest with him…….. To Do

its a lot better if you are! - will help your guilt concience too!

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An Unknown Location | 1 month, 3 weeks ago (5 hours, 47 minutes after post)

simple way to think about it - if you were him, what would you like to have said to you? - a put off, or the truth?

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stuck offline Verified User (5 months, 3 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 26 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 3 weeks ago (5 hours, 49 minutes after post)

i was honest with him just by text message instead ov calling him

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An Unknown Location | 1 month, 3 weeks ago (5 hours, 51 minutes after post)

saying everything above? and not just “sorry - i can’t come” ?

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An Unknown Location | 1 month, 3 weeks ago (5 hours, 54 minutes after post)

yeah said im to self centred at the min to have a relationship and more to the point i want it that way

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An Unknown Location | 1 month, 3 weeks ago (6 hours, 16 minutes after post)

well, if you are still feeling guilty, phone him! - but if you’ve said everything - what is there to say?

i would imagine you like him

so.. answer my last question - if situations were reveresed, how would you like to be told?

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An Unknown Location | 1 month, 3 weeks ago (8 hours, 5 minutes after post)

not by text but thats just from my past experince. i dont feel guilty now i only saw him twice once when i meet him and then on the first date i dont owe him anything

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seas light offline Verified User (4 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 205 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 month, 3 weeks ago (8 hours, 11 minutes after post)

TRue.. Be happy :)

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