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If you leave, do you have another place to go? That is important I think. But I think it’s not healthy to remain in the job you are in. At this point, you shouldn’t be sucking it up because it’s quite damaging to you

You can’t let your job effect your health so badly. If you really feel the need to get another job, then do so. No job is worth your health and well being.Weigh the pro’s and con’s and then make your decision. I’m sureif you really think things through, you’ll arrive at the best decision for you. Good luck :)

Find another job, and then go. It’s really unhealthy to work for someone who does not respect you.

Do you love financial services, or are you just there because you think you have to work in that sort of environment in order to make a living? Because, honestly, reading your message above gives me the feeling that the job is not a good match for you intellectually and emotionally.

If I were you, I’d take a good long look at what my interests and passions are, and I would pursue work that lights my heart up—not just someplace where I toiled in frustration and difficulty for 12 hours a day.

Go teach kindergarten or coach a swim team or arrange flowers or become a singing waitress or start a crafts gallery or do whatever it is that brightens your day. Work for an airline and use your free travel benefits to see the world. Start a dog-walking business. Teach poetry. Open a bakery. Work in a courthouse as a victim’s advocate. Coordinate senior citizen services in your town. Sell real estate. Take nature photos and sell them to magazines. WHO ARE YOU? Do something that reflects your own identity and enthusiasms.

Good luck!

I usually agree, at least to some extent, with Theresape’s replies, and this is no exception. However, I’d like to point out that doing what you love to do is, for most people, a hobby and not what they do for a living. That is very sad in some ways, but the point is that sometimes you have to buckle down and do what needs to be done. If you have to put up with a boss that doesn’t like you, so what? Join the club…it’s got millions of members!

To put it another way, what are your goals for five or ten years down the road? My guess is that the fastest way to get there is to do something that you don’t particularly enjoy for a while.

(FWIW, I wouldn’t be surprised if the issue with your boss was relatively minor if you actually tried to work through it.)

With all due respect, Gimli, teaching kindergarten, opening a bakery, and coordinating senior citizen services are NOT hobbies. You absolutely CAN follow your passion, live out your values, and still earn a living.

Anthropologist Joseph Campbell counseled, “Follow your bliss.” And today the conventional wisdom in the career services marketplace is “Do what you love, and the money will follow.”

The most successful people I know (successful in every sense of the word) are those who lead an integrated life, with their career paths stemming from their passions and values.

Spending 40 hours a week in a career that does not fit is like walking 40 miles in a pair of shoes that do not fit.

I do not know the poster, of course, but when I read about someone struggling in misery while also being told that her performance is sub-par, my suspicion is that the career choices she has made do not suit her.

I realize there are other viewpoints on this, but when I see someone unhappy at work … well, I think it’s unfortunate and correctable, if you just listen to your heart.

Good luck to all ….

Thank you for all your replies. I think you all have touched some truth about my situation.

Theresape - I actually have been doing a lot of thinking lately and I am starting to see that maybe this isn’t the field that I want to be in the long term. Like I said, I have done really well at other internships in finance so I don’t know if it a complete mismatch, but I am not very passionate about it, so I am going to try something slightly different and have been talking to more people (professors, alumni) about the best way to do this. Thank you for your honesty and advice.

Gimli - Though I do agree with Theresape, I have not overlooked your post. Because the fact is, even if I do end up working in a different industry, I am sure I will have to put up with people and bosses like this. Unfortunately, I haven’t been put into many situations like this so when this happens, I tend to shy away, blame myself and like in this situation, it takes a big toll on my self esteem. I know it is something I need to work on, and I am trying to be stronger and get some thicker skin but it will definitely take time.

Andrewleza - Thank you for sharing your personal experience, it is good to know that someone else who was going through the same thing, especially someone who is much more educated than I am. I hope I can be as strong and fight back like you in the future.

Good Luck to all of you.