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How do I say goodbye?

How does anyone find the strength to walk away when it’s for the best of others? How do you do it and still be able to tell yourself it’s for the best?

I *need* to do this. But how do I walk away from someone I love so much? How do I walk away knowing that I’m giving up everything I’m living for? How do I walk away from the one person I would give up my entire being for?

I don’t want to do this, but it’s the only solution. Though it hurts and feels so wrong to do it, I know that’s just the other side of my conscience. I just don’t know if I have the strength to do it yet.

Please, help me.

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johnatho offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 5 months ago (1 minute after post)

there is noway of doing it without hurting :(

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seas light offline Verified User (1 year, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 3 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 5 months ago (9 minutes after post)

Wait then until you feel the time is right. If your sure there’s no hope for this relationship, then for all involved, you’ll get the strength when the time is right.As johnatho said, someone is bound to get hurt. Obviously you’ve made up your mind to do this. Hoping things work out for all involved. Good luck….

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heartland1 offline Verified User (1 year, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 5 months ago (18 minutes after post)

It’s the hurt that makes it hard. It’s making me feel like I’m making the wrong decision. I have hope, but I think it’s just false hope. I keep hanging on because I don’t want to lose it all completely.

I feel selfish for needing to do this, because I wish I didn’t need to, but I feel selfish if I stay. I know that me just walking away isn’t just going to hurt me, and that’s half the problem.

I haven’t made up my mind, but I’m trying to. I want to do what’s best for him, but I know he has no idea why, and that will hurt him immensely. I hurts for a number of different reasons. I know at some point I’m going to regret it, and it will be too late. If I stay in the position I’m in, it’s unfair to other people, excluding myself.

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johnatho offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 5 months ago (10 hours, 27 minutes after post)

he needs to know why

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wozkonn offline Verified User (1 year, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 5 months ago (17 hours, 14 minutes after post)

heartland, it sounds like you know you have to leave. It might take a while to get to that point, but continue to be strong in your conviction that, as you said, you *need* to leave. In times when you may regret it or question yourself, look back and see that you labored over this decision and made a difficult choice because it was truly right for you. It’s gonna hurt for a while for everyone involved; there is just no way around that. :(

I was in a situation in which I felt similar. I knew I had to leave and it took me about 6 months after realizing that to actually do it. I took a long weekend vacation with my sister and when I returned I just felt that I was ready. It was a difficult few days telling him that I was leaving, seeing him confused and hurt but it’s been almost two years to the day and I can honestly say I haven’t looked back. Of course there were times in the early days when I doubted myself and even times when I felt regret but I kept reminding myself that I left for the right reasons, that I didn’t just haphazardly pack my things and go, and that kept me going in the right direction. It absolutely was for the best for me AND for him, but it is hard. Be good to yourself. Good luck.

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Felicity offline Verified User (2 years, 2 months) Long Term User Shouts: 9 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 5 months ago (1 day after post)

Maybe theres another solutiion, tell us more, if you want of course.

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