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why do i suck at getting a girl?

they all tell me im attractive, and the perfect guy, but why not for them? why do i always end up in the friend zone? why do i always blame myself? why do i keep getting hurt? why have i tried, and tried, and tried, for nothing?! why have i been the perfect gentleman, showed them how they should be treated, and done everything, but its still not ENOUGH?

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BadInfluence23 offline Verified User (1 year, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 48 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (5 minutes after post)

your too nice, you show them your the nicest guy too fast… its not like you hav to play games wit them, lots of girls take advantage of the nice guy… make them work for your hospitality

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cjgffhjjggjjj offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (6 minutes after post)

Answer a question with a question:
Do you have braces?

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mar98 offline Verified User (1 year, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 7 #
Dracut, MA, US | 1 year, 1 month ago (7 minutes after post)
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Winter Rose offline Verified User (1 year, 2 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (8 minutes after post)

Maybe you should make your “moves” a bit faster.

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yogranny offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (8 minutes after post)

thanks for responding, i mean, my parents raised me like that, im from the south, and…. ugh i just think a girl is a queen, and should be treated like that, they shouldnt have to work for that it should be thrown at them, and i really know what you mean by taking advantage, they use me when they need me, then when its over im gone

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Kyle_C offline Verified User (1 year, 2 months) Long Term User Shouts: 3 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (9 minutes after post)

yeah its a tough one m8. For some reason a lot of girls go for the tough guy that treats them like crap.

My advice is be who you are you will find the right girl. One thing that may be hard for you is too be a little more aggressive. You can still open doors for then etc but make sure they know what you want… Make a move for her chest when you go in for that kiss. Whoa what did I say? Yeah you heard me… Don’t wait so long too make your move if you do you get in the friend zone. Give her a little slap on the butt when you go in for a hug…

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Winter Rose offline Verified User (1 year, 2 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (9 minutes after post)

showed them how they should be treated, and done everything, but its still not ENOUGH?
As for that… wow, your friends sure are dumb! I would totally go for you!

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Winter Rose offline Verified User (1 year, 2 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (10 minutes after post)

yogranny wrote:
thanks for responding, i mean, my parents raised me like that, im from the south, and…. ugh i just think a girl is a queen, and should be treated like that, they shouldnt have to work for that it should be thrown at them, and i really know what you mean by taking advantage, they use me when they need me, then when its over im gone

*sigh* man… if there were more guys at my school like you…

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yogranny offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (11 minutes after post)

wow thanx you guys, and… ugh it seems like im never at a shortage friends friends that are girls, that are very attractive, and great personalities, but if they have boy troubles or anything troubles they always come to me, and they always tell me that im amazing blah blah… BUT WHY NOT FOR THEM

thanks again guys

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Winter Rose offline Verified User (1 year, 2 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (12 minutes after post)

yogranny wrote:
wow thanx you guys, and… ugh it seems like im never at a shortage friends friends that are girls, that are very attractive, and great personalities, but if they have boy troubles or anything troubles they always come to me, and they always tell me that im amazing blah blah… BUT WHY NOT FOR THEM

thanks again guys

man I wish I knew you! lol, I live in Texas… is that south enough for ya?

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yogranny offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (14 minutes after post)

hahaha you’re funny, nah im from carolina…

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Winter Rose offline Verified User (1 year, 2 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (18 minutes after post)

Darn. lol. Anyway… if you’re only getting beautiful girls as friends right now… just imagine the girls you’ll have in the future!!

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Bogdan (Gone) offline Verified User (1 year, 2 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (33 minutes after post)

She’s right, continue being a perfect gentleman, it is how I was raised too. There will be a girl for you in the future, and she will be perfect. Trust me. :D

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Winter Rose offline Verified User (1 year, 2 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (34 minutes after post)

Bogdan wrote:
She’s right, continue being a perfect gentleman, it is how I was raised too. There will be a girl for you in the future, and she will be perfect. Trust me. :D

Ugh! No wonder you’re such a great guy too! lol

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jbonham offline Verified User (1 year, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (21 hours, 27 minutes after post)

Kyle_C wrote:
yeah its a tough one m8. For some reason a lot of girls go for the tough guy that treats them like crap.

My advice is be who you are you will find the right girl. One thing that may be hard for you is too be a little more aggressive. You can still open doors for then etc but make sure they know what you want… Make a move for her chest when you go in for that kiss. Whoa what did I say? Yeah you heard me… Don’t wait so long too make your move if you do you get in the friend zone. Give her a little slap on the butt when you go in for a hug…

no,no,no, no! dats just wrong im srry but don’t go molesting peoples butts personally i thinks its just whether or not their the one for u if she only sees u as a friend then she’s not the one u just have 2 wait but don’t try 2 jump on girl! you’ll find her just keep searching even if it seems like you’ll never find love just know that their are tons of people who care 4 u and just because your not together w/ a girl does not make your life incomplete just keep moving forward

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An Unknown Location | 7 months, 3 weeks ago (5 months, 4 weeks after post)

lol, I had the same trouble. I was raised to treat them all gud n ****, but than I realized, that does’nt work. Just treat them like equals man, but don’t let them be your friend, because thats obviously not what you want. Make sure they get the picture and you’re golden.

Check this, I tryed to get this girl for nine months, I would rap to her, play my guitar for her, drive her places, talk to her on the phone for hours on end, go to the movies with her, eat out with her. I fell real hard, and never got anywhere.

girls a *******, there oblivious, and there immature. So I look down on them as less than me, but thats wrong don’t do that. just treat them like there your equal, and that you are not very interested ,but that you might be, at the same time…

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Tennispro7279 offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 7 months, 1 week ago (6 months, 2 weeks after post)

Life goes on man. I am an attractive man, who is funny has a great personality and a nice bank roll. But the same thing that you are going through happens to me a lot aswell. Nothing is wrong with you, dont blame yourself, you will never find your girl if your always beating urself up. My advice is if you have feelings for someone, dont rush them and make them known right away. You initiate the friendzone first and tell her how much you enjoy her company. Through in some flirtatious moves every now and then and make her feel special. If she responds to your gestures then she may feel the same way about you.
Its all about timing, if you rush your feelings onto her: friend zone. If you wait too long to express yourself: friend zone.

Good luck

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