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i’ve known her for the past nine years, shes my best friend and i havent stopped thinking about her. we’ve talked, i’ve told her how i feel, an she says it would be best if we just stayed friends cause if we had a romantic relationship and it failed she feels it would kill our friendship. so how do i let all these feels i’ve had for the past nine years go?

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Neutra offline Verified User (1 year, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 15 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (6 minutes after post)

Maybe she isn’t the one. There may be a good person for you to be with out there waiting for you and you would miss the opprotunity to meet her because you spent all your time with someone else.

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ƒ∂ƖƖεи tears offline Verified User (1 year, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 11 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (7 minutes after post)

they wont ever get let go. they’re memmories of your feelings. if you date some people maybe youll not like her that way anymore. worked for me.

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Kerry offline Verified User (1 year, 2 months) Long Term User Shouts: 5 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (26 minutes after post)

Is that the first time you’ve talked about your feelings like that for her? Is it possible she had never considered the friendship going further? Maybe now she may start thinking on those lines now….

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Cheese offline Verified User (1 year, 6 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (1 month, 1 week after post)

I just feel stuck. part of me wants to let go and another wants to hold on. We’ve talked a lot about it for a couple months now. but she still thinks that it wouldnt be the best thing for us. its just hard to let go though. i know that things will never happen between us. I just want these feelings to go away now. its just a shame because, for the past 9 years, all i’ve done is think about her. and its hard for me to realize that its all been a waste of time. even everything i’ve written in my diaries is all just a waste. its hard to accept that. I know its selfish, but i dont want her to get a boyfriend any time soon. we’ve been hanging out so much and i know when she does, we will see less of eachother. thats usually the pattern when she does have relationships. but, at the same time, i really want her to find someone and quick. Because, when she does, then i’ll know for sure that after all i’ve told her, all we’ve talked about and all the time we’ve spent together, nothing had changed her mind and that it is not ment to be. i just feel so frustrated. its silly i know, but i wish there was an on/off switch to all of this.

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