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8 Mates, 1 Ex Boyfriend, 1 Me..

Not long ago i was gang raped by my ex and his mates..
no one knows but its really destroying my life..
i had a great new relationship befor it happened.. i still do but its very diffrent..
everytime i get touched i get flash backs, i think my b/f is getting worried..
i love him so much i dont want to scare him away but he is also thinking off prepose to make me happy..

can some one please help me..

do i tell him or not..

:(..

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castlekrist offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (4 minutes after post)

Oh my, you poor thing. THat’s so awful!
First of all you should tell someone. A counsellor, family? Secondly, if he is your boyfriend and possibly future fiance? he should know. It would make things clearer for him to realise why you have been acting differently (if you have) and he will be able to comfort you and make sure you feel safe with him.

I hate to bring it up but it’s probably sensible to get a checkup at a gum clinic if you haven’t already, and get the police involved, make sure your ex and his friends go down for this. It’s awful what they did to you.

the good news is getting counselling is a sign of moving forward, getting engaged that’s so exciting! you have a great new relationship like you say and things can be good for you, you’ve proved you’re a strong girl anyway.

i hope the best for you, i really do

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Anonymous #
1 year, 1 month ago (20 minutes after post)

Yes i have been to he doctors..
and i was fine just a lil banged up inside..
i dont no weather to tell him because hu knows hu my ex is.. its will all get nasty..
i have a lot to say to i just dont want to start any hassle..

:( but cheers for teh advise..

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A.n.y offline Verified User (2 years, 6 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
Greensburg, PA, US | 1 year, 1 month ago (25 minutes after post)

i think you should tell him.. if he loves you he’ll understand and he’ll take things slow with you until your ready… don’t tihnk if you don’t do somethin with him he’ll leave you… it’s not true if he loved you he’ld wait

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Anonymous #
1 year, 1 month ago (32 minutes after post)

It Happened About 2 Monthss Ago And We Havent Been Happy Since..
He Does Try His Best..
And I Do Love Him Very Much..
But If Only I Couldnt Get My Head Sorted And He Wouldnt Have To Wait..

:(..

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A.n.y offline Verified User (2 years, 6 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
Greensburg, PA, US | 1 year, 1 month ago (33 minutes after post)

maybe if you tell him you guys can sort it out together

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SlightlyUnique offline Verified User (1 year, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 6 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (1 hour, 23 minutes after post)

castlekrist wrote:
Oh my, you poor thing. THat’s so awful!
First of all you should tell someone. A counsellor, family? Secondly, if he is your boyfriend and possibly future fiance? he should know. It would make things clearer for him to realise why you have been acting differently (if you have) and he will be able to comfort you and make sure you feel safe with him.

I hate to bring it up but it’s probably sensible to get a checkup at a gum clinic if you haven’t already, and get the police involved, make sure your ex and his friends go down for this. It’s awful what they did to you.

the good news is getting counselling is a sign of moving forward, getting engaged that’s so exciting! you have a great new relationship like you say and things can be good for you, you’ve proved you’re a strong girl anyway.

i hope the best for you, i really do

theres nothing more i can say than this excellent post…

i really hope you are ok - my heart feels for you - it really does

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Bigg Boss Is Dead offline Verified User (1 year) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (2 weeks, 4 days after post)

dear tell him, why i m saying this thing bec if your b/f came to know abt his frm somebody else in future, he would never trust u….. if he loves u, he will accept u…. dont worry…..

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