marriage help: Elder Neighbor

idetsor

Elder Neighbor

I have an elder naeighbor who’s husband just passed away. She made a comment to my husband a few months ago:
She stated she did not have anyone to give power of attorney to in the event she got sick. She has no children and etc. I do not think she even has a will.
My question is - how do we help her?
I mean seriously - please do not bother with “get her to sign things over to you” statements.
I just want to help her now before she does get sick or infirmed. She has to be in her 80’s.

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king #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (1 minute after post)

Tell her to see a lawyer ?

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (6 minutes after post)

if you guys seem to be pretty close then i would suggest that you talk to her yourself.if you dont know the situation completely then ask! And then see if she would speak with a lawyer. you know, one of those free consultations.

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lifeless 7 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (7 minutes after post)

I think that you could help her over her grief the best if you and your husband spent one or two hours by her place or invite the elder woman to your place. You said that she has no children or so, and I think this could help her quite a bit, alone the will to live and something happy during the time her husband passed away.
And well, I think I do not have to mention the lawyer thing anymore.

idetsor 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (13 minutes after post)

Honestly - I do not trust lawyers…. I will contact AARP first then decide on a lawyer option.
In the mean time - I was not concerned with consoling her grief. We take food to her most weeks since she does not cook any longer - and my husband does odd jobs around her house. Her church people work on mowing and gutter cleaning…

king #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (20 minutes after post)

Has she actually asked you to make plans for her will ? Or are you just taking it upon yourself to do so ?

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Sasha101 6 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (22 minutes after post)

Idetsor, your a credit to humanity, my sister did the same thing for one of her neighbours, and took care of her until she passed. Bless you and your husband. )))hugs.

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idetsor 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (26 minutes after post)

King

king wrote:
Has she actually asked you to make plans for her will ? Or are you just taking it upon yourself to do so ?

I am not ‘making plans for her will’
I am trying to find her reliable/honest resources.
The world today is full of cheats - they are everywhere - and I do not want to send her to a wolf… She is a simple woman of ‘modest education’ and I think she is too trusting.

So, again - no on the making plans deal…

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