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A few of my friends think Im a “baby” because I cry alot.

I hate getting mad.
and I hate yelling.
so I’ve taught myself to cry intsead.
but it only gave me people who look at that, rather than wat I rele Am

idk how to become the better me anymore like I use too.
And I already have enough things to get my mind of off it.
its just the finall hoopla of the day where I feel like this…

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kemmy offline Verified User (5 years, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 5 #
An Undisclosed Location | 4 years, 8 months ago (3 minutes after post)

I know you said you hate yelling and being mad, but sometimes thats a good way to let out that emotion. Theres nothing wrong with crying but sometimes you need to be a little tougher, so embrace whatever emotion youre feeling and let it out.

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MF_Dancer offline Verified User (6 years, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 6 #
An Unknown Location | 4 years, 8 months ago (4 minutes after post)

I just am afraid of losing friends if I yell at someone or get mad.
bcause I have few that are close to me.

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ambrutellow offline Verified User (5 years, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 4 #
An Undisclosed Location | 4 years, 8 months ago (5 minutes after post)

I cry a lot too. Crying is a release. there is nothing wrong with crying

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R.A.M offline Verified User (4 years, 9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 4 years, 8 months ago (6 minutes after post)

Everyone cries even guys…
But most of us learn to hide it quite well…

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kemmy offline Verified User (5 years, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 5 #
An Undisclosed Location | 4 years, 8 months ago (9 minutes after post)

I think to really be close to your friends, you have to show all your true colors. Which means they have to know what youre like when you get mad, and you have to let them help. I doubt youll lose any friends by getting angry now and then. Havent you ever seen your friends get mad? Were you still there for them?

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MF_Dancer offline Verified User (6 years, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 6 #
An Unknown Location | 4 years, 8 months ago (10 minutes after post)

well I taught myself ever since I saw a seseme street show (lol. I know, I was like 7!lol) that it was okay to cry.
and since then, my morals where to not yell at people.
and if Im hurt,dont be afraid to cry.

and it drives me crazy when people call me a baby.
because It makes me cry harder, and then effects me mentally for a longer time…

Kemmy: they never got mad at me because I respect their values and I learn how to compromise. in all honesty its true. I’ve never seen them get mad.

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Neutra offline Verified User (4 years, 11 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 4 years, 8 months ago (12 minutes after post)

You should express your true feelings, that’s the right way. It shows your true character and it’s not healthy keeping all those bottle up emotions inside. Don’t pay attention to people calling you a baby because they probably bottle up their emotions and that’s their problem.

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R.A.M offline Verified User (4 years, 9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 4 years, 8 months ago (13 minutes after post)

BTW,
just went throung your reply on your previous post…
You do know that crying infront of him is just going to make him uneasy… dont you?
It may also give off wrong impressions like neediness, immaturity…
Its tough I know, to learn to control your emotions, but keeping a calm mind even in such emotional situations is a major plus…
There is no problem looking hurt, with welled up eyes but bursting into tears is normally considered a negative emotion… (again its my view)
I do hope all your struggles are giving you strength to learn to deal with all this…

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MF_Dancer offline Verified User (6 years, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 6 #
An Unknown Location | 4 years, 8 months ago (16 minutes after post)

it has givin me strength in small ways
but im still learning
like I dont cry infront of him like i did when we broke up.
its just I feel like I want to do it, but i know its not gonna help.

i understand wat you mean..

and Nuetra: Im a very calm person, I tell my opinion, and then I find a way to meet in the middle.
its just when they dont want to meet, I go home and I cry or feel sad, or w/e is appropriat to me.
because I dont like getting mad about things like that.

now I do get mad at jerks and people who are mean to other people. but thats about it

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R.A.M offline Verified User (4 years, 9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 4 years, 8 months ago (16 minutes after post)

Thanks for putting me on your friends list as well…
Hope I can be of help…

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MF_Dancer offline Verified User (6 years, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 6 #
An Unknown Location | 4 years, 8 months ago (20 minutes after post)

u have been :D

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R.A.M offline Verified User (4 years, 9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 4 years, 8 months ago (22 minutes after post)

Hey!
Ur welcome…
Well, normally when Im in a bad mood or sad i kind of turn to God, especially when Im in negative situations regarding loved ones…
Sometimes (actually quite often) he dosent answer my prayers the way I would like but then I have learnt alot from the situations I have been in, which has given me a source of strength as well as a will to do things which I would normally have found difficult and the strength to persevere in things which I initially would have thought not possible…
So, as I said earlier I hope all you are going through helps you later on in life…

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Neutra offline Verified User (4 years, 11 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 4 years, 8 months ago (26 minutes after post)

hmm, I guess that it’s just that sometimes when we are in a conversation with someone, sometimes the conversation dosen’t goes as smoothly as we plan. when we talk to people sometimes, they may say something to catch us off guard and we don’t quite know how to respond. im mostly talking about getting into a arguement with someone, unintentionally. yes there are times when ends won’t meet, but that’s nothing to get upset about, it’s nobody’s fault just something that happens unexpectantly is all. I know this probably dosen’t help much, hu

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MF_Dancer offline Verified User (6 years, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 6 #
An Unknown Location | 4 years, 8 months ago (28 minutes after post)

no it helps. :D
brings sense to me.

and RAM- I have been praying to god recently after this, and It does give me that faith. :D

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R.A.M offline Verified User (4 years, 9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 4 years, 8 months ago (29 minutes after post)

Thats good to hear…
As I said hope all goes well, and you always have us to help you out…

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MF_Dancer offline Verified User (6 years, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 6 #
An Unknown Location | 4 years, 8 months ago (38 minutes after post)

yes it has
thanks!!!

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R.A.M offline Verified User (4 years, 9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 4 years, 8 months ago (40 minutes after post)

Hey!
Your welcome…
You take care then!

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MF_Dancer offline Verified User (6 years, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 6 #
An Unknown Location | 4 years, 8 months ago (44 minutes after post)

u2

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Anonymous #
4 years, 8 months ago (2 hours, 1 minute after post)

I’m a guy and I cry more often than what society says I should..it’s alright, it’s an expression of your emotions. Just use crying to your advantage. Get everything out, pick up, and move on.

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IDon'tEverQuit offline Verified User (5 years, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 3 #
An Undisclosed Location | 4 years, 8 months ago (7 hours, 53 minutes after post)

I cry alot too and people think I am a crybaby too. They tell me to grow up and that hurts. They don’t understand that it is how I release my hurts, my pain, my fears. Don’t let anyone make you feel like it isn’t OK to cry.

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a_bandoned offline Verified User (4 years, 9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 4 years, 8 months ago (9 hours, 40 minutes after post)

“to thine own self be true.”

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MF_Dancer offline Verified User (6 years, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 6 #
An Unknown Location | 4 years, 8 months ago (1 day after post)

yea…
I just wish I could find the better me…

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Kuvri (yodaluv12) offline Verified User (6 years, 6 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
Kangerlussuaq, 01, GL | 4 years, 8 months ago (2 days, 2 hours after post)

everyone releases their emotion somehow. some scream, some hit people, some cry, some bottle it up and eventually explode. there’s nothing wrong with it, as long as you have a reason to cry. your friends shouldn’t judge you just because of it.

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MF_Dancer offline Verified User (6 years, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 6 #
An Unknown Location | 4 years, 8 months ago (2 days, 20 hours after post)

yea they dont get that part :/

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r12starie12 offline Verified User (4 years, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 5 #
An Unknown Location | 4 years, 8 months ago (3 days, 3 hours after post)

I use to be like that I was the one who yelled and no one listened to…I now cry and I don’t cry for other people just for myself and when I do, I feel better…So i don’t think your a baby and if your friends don’t like it, then screw them :) friends will love you no matter what.

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MF_Dancer offline Verified User (6 years, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 6 #
An Unknown Location | 4 years, 8 months ago (3 days, 23 hours after post)

haha thanks!

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jlward_42 offline Verified User (4 years, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 4 years, 8 months ago (4 days after post)

Theres nothin wrong with a good cry every once in a while, i left my x 10 months ago and every once in a while when im alone i still break down and cry like a lil girl, its perfectly natural we are all people and when people get hurt they cry, dont ever feel bad for being a normal person with normal feelings, you just have to make sure you do more laughin and smilin than cryin and besides how are you sposed to see anything with tears in your eyes

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soulsearcher offline Verified User (4 years, 9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 4 years, 8 months ago (4 days, 16 hours after post)

Every Day is a blessing, and one act kindness one small step in the direction of becoming who you want to be can put you in the right direction. When i was young i taught myself to stop myself from crying. It didn’t help. I couldn’t cry even if i wanted too until i had people who loved me even when i did. Who saw crying as what it is, an expression of emotion, of raw feeling the wonderful thing that makes us human and causes happiness as well as sadness or anger. Every time you feel you are alive and as long as your alive! you can change move forward and do that by expressing yourself! The other day I laid quietly (i still find it difficult to cry) on my bed and cried and my friend came and put her arm round me as i cryed speechless but the flow of my tears and when i had fallen asleep u she never left me and those peope that love you wont either! So free yourself and feel:D

soulsearcher

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An Unknown Location | 4 years, 8 months ago (1 week, 3 days after post)

well if ppl dont like it when you cry then forget them ask them if they would like to see you flip out lets see what they pick lol u can cry on me anyday dam u a hottie

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MF_Dancer offline Verified User (6 years, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 6 #
An Unknown Location | 4 years, 8 months ago (1 week, 3 days after post)

thanks?

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