Great help: As we walked along the Beach i said, oh look ,there is a dead - Help.com

LoL I like that one, heard a different varient of it but the point is still there :P

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I too, am losing it! It seems I have outlived all my friends and family and no one is left to “be” with.
I look out my windoows and see the traffic flowing by. There is no place to walk in a busy city, no place to talk with someone on a deeper level.
I dine and drink alone - the city is no place to meet someone.
I have all my faculties and am energetic, but I am older than anyone else.
No one wants to know someone my age (81) and they think I am beyond knowing.
I have not changed in my physical strengths and I am not crippled or sick.
I jog and workout, I swim and sail a boat and dance (I was a professional) and when I tell my age, everyone admires me for being so young and then walk away.
I don’t know if I can stand this any more. I think dark thoughts and feel terrible.
I don’t like where my mind is going, and I am getting desperate.
Is there anyone out there who wants to share a joyful life??? I have all the available means to travel, to have fun, and I don’t want to sit at home alone anymore.

I raised Japanese Koi when I lived in Hawaii. It got to be too personal and when I left. it was a difficult thing to find someone who (hopefully) cared for them as much as I did.
Sorry to hear about your heart ailment. I’ve never suffered any major illness and have lived an extremely athletic life. I spent 46 years sailing the Pacific and built my wn boat -and sailed her for 10 years.
My nomadic life didn’t allow making lifetime friends, and now I have no past relationships to connect with.
My wife and most of my sailing friends passed on through these years, and there is no one to relate to.
-Keeping your mind occupied - how does this occur by keeping one’s mind occupied?

I want to thank you for responding, but I do not “Grock” your advice. I do not know ANYONE since all my relationships have terminated. I cannot get a relationship started - everyone who can talk and move and do things are at least a generation younger than and I find that no one wants to begin any relationship with an octogenarian, regardless of my physical and mental stamina.
I can understand, since such a relationship can terminate suddenly. or worse. linger on in a crippling illness.

I need an inspiring answer… but thanks for yopur input… I appreciate your consolations.

Hello Slim;
Thanks for your reply. You have a wife and a boat and your music…how fortunate.
I had those too (art and photography instead of music)
My boat was destroyed by a dredging crane in ‘76 - my wife succumbed to cancer in’98.

When my sailboat was destroyed I decided to live on the land. I built a home for my wife and myself, and I started a small monthly newspaper (The Kona News).
Six years later, my newspaper was a financial success (and all the misery that that entailed). I produced a “weekly”, occasionally adding my own columns, art and photography into the publications. After 9 years, I sold the paper and retired, and pursued my art and photographic skills I developed over a decade publishing.

That came to a standstill two years ago. I’ve been told my paintings are good but not marketable, Ditto the photos (plus a CD - an underwater documentary I made while diving for Black Coral).
Now they are gathered around me for my eyes only. No one is interested in marketing them. I thought of taking them out on the street and giving them away. Then I can do - what? I have nothing else, except a healthy body that’s also unmarketable.

I feel I’m living the song,-”Wild Goose”- sung by Frankie Lane in the late 40’s…
…”Wild Goose, Wild Goose,- which is best-
A wand’ring foot, or a heart at rest…”
I made my choice then, and I’m living the results now.

That’s how I got on this website. I was surprised that there are so many like me in the world, -although you are the only person who reached out.
I have so much to share, but people are wary of old men. It’s a sort of natural selection to avoid single old men unless he is recognized by society.

It seems everyone is connected to family or societal groups. I can’t join a church… that would be hypocritical, and the attitudes of a congregation is no different than the ‘regulars’ in a bar.

As I write, I realize I made my life what it is, and an unconnected old person is pretty much out of the loop. But if there was a way to break into one of those communities, I would do it,

There might be a way to form a group in which I am an integral part.. What would this group be, or do? I would guess, either artistic, or adventurous science - a story-telling platform.

Well Slim, what have you to impart? Somehow I feel purged, writing to you.

Brighton

Slim, I must admit I didn’t get much sense from your last “post” - Is it because I do not understand the Australian dialect? Or were you just waking up? (We’re seven hours apart, and I sent my message at 3:30 AM your time)

I read a comic strip in which a cat that talks is from Australia and living in an American home, The idioms he espouses are almost unintelligible.(to me) Fortunately it’s a comic strip. so I can glean what is said, (complments of the artist)

However, I’m glad to get your response … I congratulate you on having a family — Grand kids and children of your own is a boon to keep one’s life full of love and caring.

I wonder what it would be like?? I wonder how I would feel with loved ones about me??

Tell me about your music, Is it classic, or is it contemporary? Humorous? Sad? Happy? Or what?

I look forward to hearing from you
Brighton

PS:- How many others contacted you concerning their loneliness and desperation?
Are you lonely? Do you feel a need to talk with some one? Does your website provide you with fellow sufferers? Uou seem to be content with your life as it is…

Let me know about your circumstances as I have done with you. I would like to know if we are on a road together, or is this a website to hear from others like myself?

hahaha you put a smile on my face tonight :) twice, thank you

Why a smile?
I’ve sat and read all the replies,
i don’t understand why it’s a “make you smile” post?

I didn’t mean this post, I just don’t know how to use this thing yet and tried to reply to a post of yours the wrong way sorry if it’s missunderstood :S

Hi Barbyman!
It’s been a little while since our last communication.Been busy trying to volunteer my services to hospices. It’s not easy since interviewers think I should be an inmate instead of a visitor.

Right off, my address is:

1755 Central ****. #G
Denver CO 80211
Phone 859-992-8300
If you have a cell phone, I think we can talk - check on that though
We are 6 hours apart, so if you can call, the best time (for you)
is from 6AM to Noon.
Hope you can send me the CD.
Do you get the same TV programs I do? Right now I’m watching a show called “Boston Legal”

Let me know since I can relate with some of the characters and we can mull it over.
Give me a shout!
Brighton
PS- I hope no but you can read this….

Aloha Slim!

It’s been awhile since I last wrote… my name and address is
Brighton Daugherty
1755 Central Street #G
Denver, CO 80211
this is in case you ave that music CD you cut.
In return, if you would like an art photo or some thing from the middle of America, please send me your mailing address.

Christmas was O.K. I met a few people and was invited to their parties. I met a man my age…
He is nearly blind and nearly deaf and very crippled with Arthritus and I was able to set him up with a headphone and play some music he likes. I also showed him some photographs, — ( I have a large picture of an East Indian girl with an elephant.)
He was able to look at sections of the photo to make total sense of it. He hugged me when I left his home even though he had great pain doing so.
It came to me that to find love, I need to give love.

I would like to send you a copy of that photo if may have your home address - (or a separate personal e-mail address.,, it would be smaller though)

I hope your holidays were filled with happiness. I’ll make an effort to keep up our correspondence if you want to continue.
Let me know… Give my best to your family for me.

Brighton Daugerty