girl help: this girl i know drank too much. - Help.com

I hope she used condoms.
If she’s that worried about what the kids in school are going to think than tell her to deny everything and it’ll just sound like the two guys are lying if they tell anyone about it.
Don’t say anything to her to comfort her. Just be there and listen to her or just be with her. She’s not going to believe anything you say at this point anyway ’cause she’s probably too down on herself.
Hold her hand, literally, and don’t be afraid to touch her. Right now she probably feels disgusting, like she’s repulsive and unlovable. The best you can do right now is to let her know she’s still lovable by touching her on the shoulder or hugging her or holding her hand or wiping a tear from her cheek. I think that may do more for her than words. I don’t mean anything sexually either. Just friendly, sisterly, motherly touching.

yea totally, i think what complicated things most is the fact that she is away at college, like really far away. i told her that i dont think less of her. i know her pretty well and she knows that.before the whole situation even happend she was really concerned about finding a good guy to be her boyfriend. she doesnt want to be considered an easy girl, she jsut feels like this was the worse thing that could have happend to her. another thing that complicates things is the fact that everyone in the party knows what happened in the room with the guys. they pretty much took advantage of her from what it sounds like. she is such a special girl and i feel so bad because she seems to never be able to catch a break.

That’s too bad that she will be judged and she’s alone. I guess the one good thing that can come out of this is that she will find who her true friends are and which guys are really interested in her and which ones are being motivated by gossip.
Sorry she’s going through this.

i am the person she trust the most, and shes havin trouble connecting with people. she needs someone she can trust but trust takes time and i know she is desperate to find that person to trust over there asap. even though this bad believe it or not shes actually been through worse. her mom tried killin herself several times, once in the last month. she is such a strong girl. its insane how she called me asking me whether she should go to the party since she seemed unclear. i told her that she should stay home if she wasnt feelin it. if only i had known this was gonna happen…she said that the events of last night have made her realize that she shouldnt drink and not to hang out with shady people. i told to hold her chin up and never let those around her impose their judgements on her, because she is better than most people.God bless her heart though, shes goin to africa this summer to help out with a organization. thats pretty much her dream, to make a career out of helping those in need. not many people know that because she doesnt tell them. she is very passionate about it though. i know things will turn up for her, i just know it.

wow so much for being anonymous