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She Is Obsessed With Me

A girl whom I am moderately into, but more into being friends with than anything, recently decided she’s had enough of our ‘just friends’ friendship, and completely broke it off. Whilst I was not okay with this, after major greiving, I finally gave it up. However, once I began resuming friendships with mutual friends situations arose wherein she was, more or less, bullying me. This resulted in my response of a very sternly worded ‘Goodbye/Cease and Desist.’ But; she wouldn’t stop. She, at the current, is taking time out to spend time with our mutual friends, to talk about me, knowing I’ll hear about it and get upset, and goes out of her way to implant herself in group get-togethers wherein I’m involved. That’s the situation at present, and it is entirely getting to me.

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seas light offline Verified User (1 year, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 8 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (8 minutes after post)

She is probably doing this to get attention from you. Negative or positive she’ll settle for. Fatal attraction… Ignore her as best you can.Hopefully she go away and go on to better things to do :)

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berta offline Verified User (1 year, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (10 minutes after post)

why are you letting it get to you. if your friends are really friends then they will see thru her and cut her off on thier own. and i also agree with seas light ignore her to the best of your ability

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Amaretto offline Verified User (1 year, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 3 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (21 minutes after post)

Be flattered and stop reacting to her. Your friends mention her.. don’t flinch. Eventually, they’ll stop relaying the message and she’ll move on. Good luck!

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Ξ.Ģäβž.Ξ offline Verified User (1 year, 2 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (2 hours, 3 minutes after post)

Oh thats a hard one. Maybe you could find one of your female friends to help you out with this and take on the role of your girlfriend temporarily. This may or may not work, but if she see’s you enjoying yourself with another girl, she may just move on.

Although from what your saying, she sounds pretty full on, so I dont know. At least if she tries to cause any trouble with your (fake) girlfriend she wont actually be hurting anyone.

Until it’s sorted though, it will be difficult to move on and enjoy life while she is meddling with every situation.

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Ξ.Ģäβž.Ξ offline Verified User (1 year, 2 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (2 hours, 6 minutes after post)

Amaretto is right. As long as she is still getting reactions, she will continue to do what she is doing.

It’s human nature that we do not do anything unless there is some kind of pay off. Her pay off is any reaction at all from you. A reaction from you in any form in her mind, is her getting your attention. You must toughen up, completely ignore her and show her you have moved on.

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cherry_blossom offline Verified User (1 year, 2 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (10 hours, 38 minutes after post)

Exactly. You show reactions, and it will automatically tell her she’s getting to you. And then she’ll keep on going and going at it. So follow what Spider Man said. Toughen up and learn to ignore her. When something comes up, just remember that she’s only doing it to get to you. Best of luck to ya! =]

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1 year, 1 month ago (14 hours, 51 minutes after post)

Why is she trying to get to me?

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cherry_blossom offline Verified User (1 year, 2 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (15 hours, 38 minutes after post)

that, my friend, I don’t know. I don’t know the chick, so I can’t really say. Maybe she left you hoping to get more attention from you, and then when she didn’t get it she got really disappointed and mad, and so now she wants a form of revenge. Or maybe she’s just thinking this will be a more effective way of getting your attention. And so far it has worked, so she’ll most likely keep at it. That’s why I said you should learn to ignore her and not show a reaction to her tauntings. =]

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