girl help: ok so me and my girl have been dating for 10 months now and i just feel like shes not putting as much into the relationship as i am. - Help.com

ok so me and my girl have been dating for 10 months now and i just feel like shes not putting as much into the relationship as i am.

i mean i come home from a long days wrk with a sore back and all and i try to get a back rub with out telling her that i want a back rub but hinting at it u no. when she complains her back hurts i always offer to give her a rub down. always. and theres other stuff that i dnt want to go into detail with but its just seems like im doin all the wrk is it just me or should we start takin some time to ourselves? sumone help me b4 i do sumthing stupid

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berta offline Verified User (1 year, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (4 minutes after post)

why not just ask for the back rub? just sayin. there is obviously more to this story. try talking to her. tell her whats bothering you or split up with her if its really that serious.

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seas light offline Verified User (1 year, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 6 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (24 minutes after post)

Sounds like your the giver and she’s the taker.. Why not just ask her to rub your back? Seems she’s insensitive big time to your needs.

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Amaretto offline Verified User (1 year, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 3 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (26 minutes after post)

I agree with berta… no hints, sometimes that just confuses people. Ask for it.. if she says no consistently (and not just after she’s had a long day) then you have a real problem. Some people just don’t take subtle ques well.

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☆miss lilies☆ offline Verified User (2 years, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 194 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (41 minutes after post)

One thing i have learned is never to expect others to read our minds. When you need something, tell her. If this is disturbing you (her being insensitive) let her know in a nice way. I’m sure she would do something about it if she is interested with you. :)

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