tourism help: do people ever come back to their exes after breaking up and being with someone else? - Help.com

It’s possible, but I think to a large extent, it depends on what caused the break-up in the first place and how both people handled it. With regard to the signs, if the break-up wasn’t extremely bitter and “friendly” communications have resumed, that could mean there’s room for reconcilation, even if there’s been another relationship in between. I do think the second time around would require a complete resolution of whatever issues caused the breakup tho. If you want to throw some more information out there, I’d be happy to give you my thoughts on your situation.

My ex and I didn’t actually get back together, but stuff did happen with us after I’d been in a relationship with someone else. We stayed pretty close friends after we split up though, and we were always flirting with each other because we’re both pretty flirtatious people. In the end, the chances and signs depend entirely on the people involved. What’s making you think about this?

Some do, and for the most part, it turns out to be a mistake. It is hard to move on sometimes, and you get lonely and start remembering the times when things were good and don’t think about the reasons they’re your ex. Granted, some people can change over time, learn some life lessons and make it better the second time around. Just make sure you’re doing it for the right reasons; don’t ever go back into an abusive situation.

No, it’s never happened in the entire history of the world.

Yes it has. Generally it’s a bad idea but I know at least one couple for whom it’s worked out, so it really does depend on the people.

Me and my girlfriend broke up after being together for around a year, I started going out with a different girl for around 4 or 5 months, we then broke up and then a while after I got back with my previous girlfriend. We have now been together around 3/4 years since then.

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Me and my girlfriend broke up after being together for around a year, I started going out with a different girl for around 4 or 5 months, we then broke up and then a while after I got back with my previous girlfriend. We have now been together around 3/4 years since then.

when you broke up with your first gf and started dating the new one, what were you thinking at the time? did you really think you were in love with the new girl, and then later realized that it wasn’t right? i’m just curious how you were feeling the whole time…
you see, my ex is so hard to read…but sometimes, for whatever reason, just a way he says something or looks at me, i get the feeling that there is something still between us. but at the same time, he seems to be happy with his new girlfriend..
so i’m just wondering, how it was for you and how this happened!

I don’t know really, I guess what happened was I really didn’t think we would end up getting back together. I then got with the new girl, after which I found out that my previous girlfriend still wanted to get back together with me.

I didn’t want to simply break up with the new girl and go back with her since I wasn’t sure what I actually wanted, and the new relationship was going really well. So we stayed friends throughout (although that was a challenge in itself, some very bad times for those few months), but we made sure we didn’t lose touch and then when me and the new girl did finally break up, it kind of cleared up my mind. I realised I was being stupid and I got back with the previous girl that I’m still with now.

Still, despite all the hard times, if I had to go back again and choose whether to date the other girl or not, I think I would because in the end I think it only made my current relationship even stronger. It certainly made me realise just how amazing my current girlfriend is, and how much I want to be with her.