friends help: it all started when i was like in 2nd grade, i´ve always known am gay.

tom88-2

it all started when i was like in 2nd grade, i´ve always known am gay.

i had a friend,we were best friends, we used to do everything together and i started liking him. But the problem was that there was another boy who was my best friend´s best friend, anyway, after that year they starting ignoring me and that really pissed me off so i did something bad, and the relationship with my friend got bad, but i changed of school and if i saw him twice a year was too much, 4 years passed and now we are studying at the same school again, and unfortunately i like him again, but now we do not talk at all, and i´d really like to have something with him, am not sure if he´s straight but am not sure if he´s gay either because, when we were little i didnt exactly know if he had a girlfriend, he was especial at me and now he hangs out with girls (and most gays hang out with girls) but he does have male friends, he does not have a girlfriend and i dunno if he has ever got one, sometimes when i look at him i think he looks at me too, i must be wrong but i dunno. help me please!!

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Ξ.Ģäβž.Ξ 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (3 minutes after post)

Yeah, tread carefully on that one. Some people (as you would already know) are real touchy if they are taken for being gay.

Yes, gay guys hang out with girls, but so do hetrose*ual guys, so would need to rule that out as a deciding factor.

Does anyone at your school know your gay ?

tom88-2 3 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (17 minutes after post)

yes my best friend and another girl who used to be my best friend too, but no one else knows.

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Ξ.Ģäβž.Ξ 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (19 minutes after post)

It might be wise to try and keep your personal life away from the school you attend.

Not because you should be ashamed of your se*uality, but to save yourself from having to suffer the torment that cruel people can bestow upon you and you certainly dont deserve that

tom88-2 3 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (25 minutes after post)

yes it is wise but only sometimes because i think that since i am a quiet guy people dont mess with me besides i dont have much friends so i dont feel much presure about that, but of course i feel afraid of comming out to people. but what do you think i should do about this guy?

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tom88-2 3 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (1 hour after post)

am so shy to go and try to be friends of him again, i dont know what to do…

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nenelindodecor 3 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (5 hours, 29 minutes after post)

ok this am good at in my case my bf is gay ok listen try being misteryus ask his friend’d with caution dont let them know what u up to try asking if he ever had a girl friend or better yet get someone to do it for u but be carefull who u pick dont let the shyness over come u try being around him but not to much try sending an anonimus note try try try try…. is all you could do

Help me with: Am not use to this…

tom88-2 3 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (6 hours, 25 minutes after post)

yes i know all i can do is try but i dont think i can, it is just so difficult am very shy and well i think he has had grilfriend before although am not quite sure and about asking my friend to ask his friends about it, i dunno, my best friend knows about me and i came out to her like 2 years ago but so far i dont feel very free to talk about my feelings with her, i tell her somethings but for example when she asks me if i like someone i say no, am not open to her. it is just a really hard situation. i think nothing´s ever gonna happen.

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nenelindodecor 3 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (6 hours, 34 minutes after post)

ok then try leaving a note i really dont know what to say because you sound very shyand is not good

Help me with: Am not use to this…

tom88-2 3 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (6 hours, 43 minutes after post)

yes am the kinda guy that if you dont talk to me, i wont talk to you, besides i afraid that his reation will be bad, like am annoying him, and the thing is that he´s never alone, and neither am i. how can i stop being so shy or how could i get the chance of talkin to him?

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nenelindodecor 3 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (6 hours, 48 minutes after post)

well try going agains ur self try thinking that you are more than what everyone expects try coming out the closet and opening to people it might help

Help me with: Am not use to this…

tom88-2 3 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (7 hours, 15 minutes after post)

you´ll think am imposible but i dont think i can come out soon, i think it´s gonna take sometime for me to come out, god i dunno what to do, i´ve searched questions like mine here on the web and they all just say the same, that one should try to get closer to the person, but i dont know how, i know that i wouldnt know what to say, that is the only ******* thing i regret of having changed of school, i lost his friendship!.

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nenelindodecor 3 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (7 hours, 23 minutes after post)

try waving at him

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tom88-2 3 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (7 hours, 28 minutes after post)

what do you mean?

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boy007 0 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (1 day, 12 hours after post)

its ok.
Just talk to him, and go slow.

This situation is like a video game, you either win or lose, half the battle is completing the level.

Like here, you just gotta try.

boy007 0 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (1 day, 12 hours after post)

dont rush coming out.

I cant really talk, but ive come out to only 3-4 people, its slow.
Be careful, but the most important thing is to be WHO YOU ARE, and not who you arent.

Youll be fine,
Just try,Tom.

Its a slow process to ask a boy, it sometimes works, it sometimes doesnt.

In the end, its you who decides the risk.

And remember, we are here for you Every step of the way, no matter what.
We are here, and we Are listening.
Keep trying.
- E -

nenelindodecor 3 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (1 day, 18 hours after post)

wave at him to see if he waves back

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tom88-2 3 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (2 days, 2 hours after post)

yeah maybe i´ll try but i dunno, i´ll have to see if the situation shows up, i mean if i have any chance to be alone with him. thanks you all for answering and if something happens i am gonna be telling it here. oh and maybe i´ll use the wave thing.

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tom88-2 3 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (2 days, 2 hours after post)

oh and about my comming out, i dont wanna push it, i´ll be out when am ready.

thanks.

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tom88-2 3 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (2 days, 9 hours after post)

hey guys i dunno but i think that something can work, what if i make a comment on his hi5? well ofcourse i would create another account but i dunnno do you think that might work?

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (5 days, 23 hours after post)

A positive to all of this is at least you know what your sexuality is, instead of just now discovering it. But you should go very carefully about this. Good luck

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tom88-2 3 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (1 week, 3 days after post)

i dont know what am gonna do…
i guess í´ll let things happen in their on way at least if i dont feel able to try it.

but what do you guys thing about the hi5 thing?

tell me.

and yes i dont feel confused in any way.
thanks

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