Love help: what if a guy says love ya lots but you don’t feel the same back, yet? - Help.com

ow, he just want to get in your pants…
If A guy says he loves you (IF!)
it takes months or years in a relationship. For him to mean it.
It is a clear fact.
sorry.

love ya lots, does not necessarily mean I love you. Take the relationship one day at a time and maybe you will fall i love and maybe you won’t. If it bothers you a lot talk to him, if that will help…

i don’t think he really meant he was IN love with you…
don’t stress.

Cannonball Girl wrote:
i don’t think he really meant he was IN love with you…
don’t stress.

yea, he dident mean the kind of romantic ‘i love you’ he just ment i love ya in a friendly way…

lucif wrote:
ow, he just want to get in your pants…
If A guy says he loves you (IF!)
it takes months or years in a relationship. For him to mean it.
It is a clear fact.
sorry.

really don’t think he’s tryin to get into my pants, he’s been a real gentleman and apperantly he’s been mad about me for 2 years before he asked me out…he’s told his mum about me and he was happy to meet my parents…i’m only out of a relationship about a month before we hooked up so i’m hesitant to get back into another heavy relationship but on the other hand he’s everything i wanted my ex to be, i don’t want to scare him away either.

-Jela- wrote:

Cannonball Girl wrote:
i don’t think he really meant he was IN love with you…don’t stress.

yea, he dident mean the kind of romantic ‘i love you’ he just ment i love ya in a friendly way…

he’s said it a few times now and it to me three times this week….i think he means it??

This is exactly what I was going through a couple months ago. A guy who was loved me from the start and I was not quite ready to go there. I’m 27, so it’s a bit different because I came around because he is the right guy for me and it’s a no brainer. If you think given more time you could feel the same way go for it… take it slow if he cares about he will give you time to figure it out.

AmandaLynn is exactly right, you have to love someone for who they are not who you want them to be and vice versa. That’s the only way to do it. A guy who cares about you will be willing to love you for who you are and will give time to figure it out.

thanks KNielsen :) he’s knows how i feel and he did say he’d wait forever if he had to, he’s so sweet :) just don’t want to find i fall for him and he stops bothering, as i assume that’s the way it goes(previous relationship experance!!), i really wanna be wrong on that.

and to AmandaLynn, thanks for a the advise, i’m not the type of person to keep things bottled up and we’ve both been honest and open with each other..i’m a very indepentant person and he’s seems he’s in the right place, there’s nothing i’d change about him, there’s nothing i’d need to change, he’s perfect!! well, so far hahaha.

Thanks for the advise guys, guess i should relax and enjoy it instead of worring about it. if it is, it is and if it’s not than it’s not. i can live with that :)

Good luck!! You seem to have a good head on your shoulders and everything will turn out okay in the end. This is a good quote that helps when life starts getting to you ” if it’s not okay, it’s not the end” not sure who said it,but it makes me feel better when I’m down

Anonymous wrote:

lucif wrote:
ow, he just want to get in your pants…
If A guy says he loves you (IF!)
it takes months or years in a relationship. For him to mean it.
It is a clear fact.
sorry.

really don’t think he’s tryin to get into my pants, he’s been a real gentleman and apperantly he’s been mad about me for 2 years before he asked me out…he’s told his mum about me and he was happy to meet my parents…i’m only out of a relationship about a month before we hooked up so i’m hesitant to get back into another heavy relationship but on the other hand he’s everything i wanted my ex to be, i don’t want to scare him away either.

-Jela- wrote:

Cannonball Girl wrote:
i don’t think he really meant he was IN love with you…don’t stress.

yea, he dident mean the kind of romantic ‘i love you’ he just ment i love ya in a friendly way…

he’s said it a few times now and it to me three times this week….i think he means it??

wow t6hihs sounds sickeningly familiar, haha.
i think he might hav meant it in a friendly was; dont say it bak if u feel uncomfortable, believe me. those r the kind of things u cant take bak.
good luck! 3

lol Idee sounds like you have a story to tell!! i kinda said you too on the phone but just as an impluse and i haven’t said it since…but i know where your comin from i don’t like to say things i don’t mean…cheers :)

Anonymous wrote:

lucif wrote:
ow, he just want to get in your pants…
If A guy says he loves you (IF!)
it takes months or years in a relationship. For him to mean it.
It is a clear fact.
sorry.

really don’t think he’s tryin to get into my pants, he’s been a real gentleman and apperantly he’s been mad about me for 2 years before he asked me out…he’s told his mum about me and he was happy to meet my parents…i’m only out of a relationship about a month before we hooked up so i’m hesitant to get back into another heavy relationship but on the other hand he’s everything i wanted my ex to be, i don’t want to scare him away either.

He’s had a crush on you for over 2 years. That speaks volumes. He may indeed love you. If you can tell him gently that you prefer he hold back until he gets to know you better that that is what you would prefer. He will probably do as you ask but it won’t change how he feels about you. He cherishes the ground you walk on. We should all be so lucky to find such a friend. Good luck.

-Jela- wrote:

Cannonball Girl wrote:
i don’t think he really meant he was IN love with you…don’t stress.

yea, he dident mean the kind of romantic ‘i love you’ he just ment i love ya in a friendly way…

he’s said it a few times now and it to me three times this week….i think he means it??

That messed up. Here is MY post:

He’s had a crush on you for over 2 years. That speaks volumes. He may indeed love you. If you can tell him gently that you prefer he hold back until he gets to know you better that that is what you would prefer. He will probably do as you ask but it won’t change how he feels about you. He cherishes the ground you walk on. We should all be so lucky to find such a friend. Good luck.

dump him and run for the hills my god what a horrible thing for a guy to say he loves you if you dont love him then why you with him

WHATABIGNICKNAM wrote:
dump him and run for the hills my god what a horrible thing for a guy to say he loves you if you dont love him then why you with him

??? i’ve only been with him three weeks and the potential is there but i can’t say “I love him” just because he loves me??? that’s just wrong. Also i said i loved the last guy i was with and i meant it but he didn’t love me back….it’s hard to get over a broken heart and realise there’s others out there who i could love as much as i did my ex…

to southern_comfort thanks i agree i really appreciate him and he’s company…only time will tell :)

well if its the past thats keeping you back just say what you feel words like ditto or use cute words inreturn and i hope in the future you both becomea truely romantic couple

the past is holding me back :) but i’m getting somewhere, i know that too thanks whatabignickname :)

id just brush it off until he says it to y face then u have to deal with it

we’ll we have the same situation, and i think that they are just playing our feelings

update….well, we discussed it, didn’t really mean to start the conversation but found myself in the middle of it realizing i may have changed things forever. But honesty is the best policy. he got a little upset…but after dicussing it he seemed okay…finally when he was leaving he said he’d wait till i say it before he does again but i don’t want him to hold back….wondering should i have said it??

only if you felt it, my dear.
only if you really felt it.

:)

just carry on saying sweet nothings to each other or buy him some flowers i know strange but you never know

this doesnt always mean tha he loves you as in in love with you i would just go on with him and see what happens in your realtionship. Its jus as you would say to your friends love you or i love you not sayin g your in love with them lol you know?i wouldnt be too stuck with this though