marriage help: I am in the army and trying to decide if it’s even worth - Help.com

Dating just seems to be a set up for divorce, you know?

How about waiting? And trusting? There is so much out there to see and do before settling down. Would you be ready to support some one?

Future wife … would she want you to have “dated around?” I’m old fashioned here I suppose. Would you want your future wife to have dated around?

I met my husband while he was in the service, he only had a year left. It worked for us… I mean it was difficult with the deployments (there were several that lasted a few months.) Real trust issues come into play that other couples that never separate have to face, which can really make or break a bond.

Are you planning on staying in the service? How many years do you have levt??

If you meet someone… go for it!! Take a chance :)

if it’s worth risking your friendship … that you’ll have to decide! :) But it’s always good to keep your eyes and heart open :)

how is dating a set up for divorce?

Personally, my own experience in the Army led me to believe that most military marriages among junior enlisted ended in divorce. The people involved are young and deployments put a lot of stress on relationships that are so new they have a hard time coping. Personally I loved my time in the Army but once I got married, getting out was the best choice. My last years of active duty I only saw my wife 10 months over a three year stretch. The relationship survived because we kept in close touch through letters and because she knew I was getting out as soon as my contract ended.