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yeah, call the police.. domestic violence is not right… police can help…

Shie wrote:
yeah, call the police.. domestic violence is not right… police can help…

QTF

If she is to scared to call the cops, you should be the brave one for her, you might even be saving someones life.

In the end, it all depends on the wife. Even if she is getting beaten, unless she stands up and calls 911, nothing can be done.

As for the visa thing, there are some laws that can protect her, she would have to seek help for that though, legal help.

ng51386 wrote:
In the end, it all depends on the wife. Even if she is getting beaten, unless she stands up and calls 911, nothing can be done.As for the visa thing, there are some laws that can protect her, she would have to seek help for that though, legal help.

that is wrong… as a survivor of 10 years of domestic violence… i wish to god someone would have called for me…

being in that situation.. every time i tried to call, the phone would get ripped out of the wall…

and to tell someone else… i was not allowed to have friends and family so there was no options in telling anyone what was going on..

She is from USA but living in the Middle East. She cant call police there. If she does, where would she go.

Shie, it doesnt matter if someone calls, if that woman isnt willing to press charges, nothing will change.

In the scenario above, she doesnt call because she is from another country and feels she has no where to go

sometimes assuming that ‘an abused person’ can leave when ever they want too or they should have done this or that…

until you live in those shoes… assumptions can be made but life isnt like that on the other side of the doors with an abuser.. life isnt easy.. and we dont have choices that we can make.. we are in fear of our lives..

ng51386 wrote:
Shie, it doesnt matter if someone calls, if that woman isnt willing to press charges, nothing will change. In the scenario above, she doesnt call because she is from another country and feels she has no where to go

if there are marks on that woman… then not only does he go to jail, but cps will be called in and things will be dealt with.

been there, lived it.. for ten years

Shie wrote:

ng51386 wrote:
Shie, it doesnt matter if someone calls, if that woman isnt willing to press charges, nothing will change. In the scenario above, she doesnt call because she is from another country and feels she has no where to go

if there are marks on that woman… then not only does he go to jail, but cps will be called in and things will be dealt with.been there, lived it.. for ten years

My friend told that she had bruises on her body and she thinks to end her life. She finds ending her life is the only solution of this problem.

as long as there is physical proof, the man goes to jail.. its the law.. and she doesnt have to press charges… the police automatically do it for her..

If she’s afraid to live on the streets since it’s safe to assume that she isnt the bread maker of the house, she’d be more than willing to lie.

I understand what you’re saying, but it’s hard to prosecute if the wife isnt willing to.

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Shie wrote:

ng51386 wrote:
Shie, it doesnt matter if someone calls, if that woman isnt willing to press charges, nothing will change. In the scenario above, she doesnt call because she is from another country and feels she has no where to go

if there are marks on that woman… then not only does he go to jail, but cps will be called in and things will be dealt with.been there, lived it.. for ten years

My friend told that she had bruises on her body and she thinks to end her life. She finds ending her life is the only solution of this problem.

its not quash… i too thought those exact same thoughts… but there are real people out there that deal with domestic violence who find you shelter, and help you get on with your life… they are angels… and trust me, with out them.. i would still be sitting in that abuse..

for this poster… if you know who these people are.. i suggest that you try to get this woman to call the domestic violence hotline… seriously, they are angels they will help her and her children.. no matter where she is from… they will keep her safe and get her back onto a road where there is no abuse..

I posted this post actually. What exactly they would do?

May be you should talk to the woman in private first and then reach a decision. Donot try to get too much involved without knowing the details.

I dont know much details but she is trying to commit a suicide.

the only thing i could think of is if you have someway to connect to the wife. i don’t know how personal of a situation it is or if you have regular contact with her, but make it known to her her other options. be an outlet or mentor to her to get out of that situation and as soon as possible.