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I Don’t know what to think of her anymore

So theres is this girl, a friend of mine, who I hadn’t seen in along time. We started talking and texting alot, and some kinda of a connection grew. We’ve hung out a few times, and thats only helped. Neither of us is sure what we want out of this relationship. We both said we were thinking about dating, but because of problems of hers we didn’t jump on it. She said she needed more time to think, and I agreed. (never actually asked her out). Than the other nite, against all signs, she sent me an email which basically said theres another guy she met last summer, who i think still have feelings for, and all this time I’ve just been reminded of some of his qualities in you, hence the interest. but this seems to go against every other sign I’ve gotten from her. What do I think of this?

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RENTfan4LIFE offline Verified User (1 year, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (2 hours, 10 minutes after post)

you should ask her if she has feelings for this guy if she does then just be a good friend to her…its the only way to have any chance of at least a friendship with her
and if she doesn’t then you should ask her out…and don’t hold anything back
hope i helped ;]

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mar98 offline Verified User (1 year, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 7 #
Dracut, MA, US | 1 year, 1 month ago (7 hours, 52 minutes after post)

I could somehow tell there was another guy in the picture before I even read that part lol. Sounds like she’s confused and doesn’t know what she wants.. her feelings may be split between you two. Have some fun with her.. get in there and make her feel it for you. Don’t back off.

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (9 hours, 14 minutes after post)

yeah heres the update. She does still have feelings for this guy, but shes never going to see him again. She told me she just wants to let things settle and go from there. I get that thats a stall tactic to get more time to think about it, but where should I go from here? And as for friendship, thats not a problem. And marionms, Ill try, but due to the “problems” i alluded to before, there is a fear that i could hurt her

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (10 hours, 27 minutes after post)

well give her time to get over him….u cant rush into things right now..i no u want to be with her now more than ever but u have to think about her in this situation shes hurt because she wont see him again so u have to be there for her and support her now…hope i helped ;]

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mar98 offline Verified User (1 year, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 7 #
Dracut, MA, US | 1 year, 1 month ago (1 day after post)

True.. She’s gonna need time. Take things extra slow with her now.
Learn to read her and try to tell when things do get better for her. When they do be a little more aggressive.

For now just relax and be cool.
Tell us how things turn out later on?

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FSM offline Verified User (1 year, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (3 days, 8 hours after post)

Will do. But it might be a few weeks.

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mar98 offline Verified User (1 year, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 7 #
Dracut, MA, US | 1 year, 1 month ago (3 days, 12 hours after post)

oh, that’s fine
we’ll be here..
Good luck!

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An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (3 weeks, 5 days after post)

okay heres the end. Shes really been jerking me around over the last few weeks. In person she’ll lie on me, kinda snuggle up to me, and that kind of stuff, but when not in person (txt, call, email) she says she doesnt want to be with me. Then she finally eneded all speculation by saying that the reason that she thought she could date me was because some of my qualties reminder her of this other guy (who lives in another state), and thats what created the interest. So that was the end of that. And than 2 days ago, she was complaning to me that she couldn’t find anyone to hook up with, all but specifically asking me to, and then when I “volunteered” she said it might ruin our friendship. b.s. just another rejection amongst many for me.

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