life help: Mom and Dad will not leave me alone-HELP! - Help.com

Your only 13 and you are already accepted into a college?

Your life is just beginning! Maybe your parents want what is best for you? Have you told them exactly what you want to do?

If you want to be a cosmetologist, then make sure you tell them that. That is what would make you happy. You don’t want to be stuck in a job you don’t enjoy. You think it’s more important to enjoy and be comfortable than to strive for perfection in everything.

cailean…this is exactly what i have tried so hard to do but they do not understand that i would rather have a life that i love than have loads of money.

no, no, i was not accepted into a college. a college prepatory school rather than your average high school, but i said that id rather stay in my hometown in my high school and enjoy it. they beg to differ.

what about your school guidance counselor?
if you spoke to them, maybe they could have a word with your parents.
Is this affecting your grades at all?

I don’t know what you mean by methods of destruction but i bet they are not healthy. Anyway, parents at most times interfere with their kid’s life but it only means they think that you can do much more than what you are planning.

But, it is also too early to assume. Because you are still 13 now. When they see you mature and be responsible when you are on your own, they would be able to appreciate your plans for your future.

After all, it is your future. Not theirs.

Iluv2dans1, do you have a relative that will listen calmly to your problems and maybe this relative could sit down with you and your parents and discuss this situation in a calm and rational manner?

At your age, don’t see where this should be a problem now. You can go on to this school and when you become of legal age, you can do as you please.

tell your parents all of the benefits that could come from being a cosmetologist and tell them how u feel about having to go to the prepratory school…

cotton2226…i have already tried to talk with my grandma and she has agreed to speak with my mother, but i do not know how she will react.

as for not worrying about it just yet…this is what i have been trying to explain to them, that i am still young and that it is my life and my career, but they dont see anything productive about it.

cailean…absolutely not my grades are still at their best, i have never gotten lower than an A- in a class. im hoping that this will remain the same.

Well, would wait and see how that goes…Grandmother’s have a great influence in situation such as this. Besides, you are so young, there is plenty of time for this all to go in a different direction. Just be calm and mature thru this situation. It will work out…

thank you so much…i have just been so worked up about all of this. thank you. now that i look at it, i do have so much time. thanks!!!

Yes, you are young. Too young for your parents to be getting their proverbial panties in a wad over this - good grief! Hopefully, Grandma will get some sense talked into them. . .

hmmm…tell them that they are trying to “mold” wht they want you to become and what they think is the right thing to do for you isn’t right at all….tell them that you want to rule your own life…
hope i helped ;]

iluv2dans1 wrote:
as for not worrying about it just yet…this is what i have been trying to explain to them, that i am still young and that it is my life and my career, but they dont see anything productive about it.

It would not be very helpful if you express your concerns on this to your parents now because they can be deaf at the moment so it would be very depressing on your part.

I think it is much better if you relax about this for now and try to see how and getting your dream would not be like tomorrow. You still have many years to shape your dreams and make them your reality.

I wish you luck!

ohh well thank you that does actually make a lot more sense. its my life haha.

thank you lilies…hopefully they will soon learn to accept that this is my dream and i will pursue it no matter what. thank you to everyone!

iwana…wow i really didnt even think that i could laugh when im crying so hard, but you did it!!!wow thanks at least im not alone, they are totally overreacting! thanks!!!

iluv2dans1 wrote:
ohh well thank you that does actually make a lot more sense. its my life haha.

exactly….they need to know that you can make decisions for yourself and hopefully they trust you enough to make the right choices…but by the looks of it you seem to want to make good choices….;]

oh well for sure! i mean i dont want to live in a box!!! but i dont want to sit in a stuffy office that smells like air fresheners either! thanks.

iluv2dans1 wrote:
oh well for sure! i mean i dont want to live in a box!!! but i dont want to sit in a stuffy office that smells like air fresheners either! thanks.

lmao yw glad i can help!!!
=]

awesome thanks!!!

And glad I could make you laugh . . . ;o)

You are welcome. For now, enjoy your youth.AND be good. :)

you are your own person… and right now, although your parents say differently, do what your dreams are… when you get older, be that hair dresser, to keep things calmed down a bit, just appease them by agreeing.. they dont have to know that you already have your dreams made up…

You are still very young and self destructive behavior is not going to help matters. It will only make the situation with your parents more difficult and destroy any future dreams you may have. You might want to seek help from your school counselor. You really need to keep talking to someone. Let them know how you are feeling and what it is doing to you emotionally. Maybe there is a compromise for the time being. Give your life a chance.

I have not read what the rest have written her and this is a very intersting problem u have posted here.Perhaps this will help. when i was 5 my teachers had a confrence with my parents and told them that they would like for me to skip ahead or speed through school…possibly graduate high school by the time im 14 or 15.my father put his foot down and said no. because he wanted me to feel like a normal kid. Let me tell u that if there was a time machine then that would be the only moment i would go back to and force my dad to say yes. u r obviously gifted and as much as u dont want to hear it…ur parents are trying to get u to do the right thing only in the wrong ways. forget about cheerleading for school….work hard and graduate highschool as soon as u can…trust me most people dont even remember high school and it is not a pleasent experience for most. college life is the real life…..once ur in college or university u can join that cheerleading team and still have friends that are ur age on the side. Think about it this way…the faster u graduate and finish ur post secondary education the faster u can start ur own independent life from ur parents and do whatever u want to. also keep in mind that having a normal paced life is ur right. but being normal is not a virtue is is rather the lack of courage, y would u want to be normal and fit in when u r born to stand out and keep in mind that our deepest fear is not that we r inadequate but that we r powerful beyond belief but were all ment to shine. Im not a parent myself…im 20 yrs old lol…so itswasnt that long ago that i was a teenager…believe finish ur schooling, travel and get a job after that…live life…and be fair to urself because the greatest sin that humans commit against themselves is wasting their gifts and taking them for granted! I hope i helped u….whatever u choose to do good luck and God bless.