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I always had the compulsion to do that. Have you been cheated on before? Has he cheated on someone before you?
I never check my boyfriends mails as much as I am tempted because if he was cheating on me I wouldn’t want to find out by being sneaky I would rather his guilt eat him up untill he leave’s me her or confesses, finding him out (without suspition or a tip off from a friend) is just giving him the easy way. Try to rationalise you behaviour, your boyfriend would be very hurt if he found out. You are invading his privacy and her needs that as much as you need yours.

I’ve never been in a serious relationship before, which may explain it and from what I know of he’s never cheated. I don’t know what to do though I know his passwords so the temptation is too much.

PS sometimes, just out of morbid curiosity I look at my boyfriends ex girlfriends Facebook page, just to check her hair still looks a mess! Makes me feel bit better about myself and I am only human after all, but stop checking your boyfriends e mails and phone thats just not fair on him. Think how you would feel if he stopped trusting you

I havn’t either, this is my first serious relationship in 6 years and I wouldn’t want to jeperdise it, what you are doing could seriously jepardise your relationship, you need to find some will power and stop spying. If you found anything how would you approach him? The fact that you have not found anything should discorage you, everytime you are tempted tell yourself he that you never found anything before, why would you now and what if you got caught that would be awful. Can you imagine his hurt face whenhe found out you didn’t trust him?

If you want this to be over then you need to break up with him in my opinion. No relationship can work without trust, and until you sort out your own issues you won’t be able to trust him. You’ll basically be sabotaging the relationship from the beginning and will make things a lot worse than if you just ended it now.