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Well, about everything in my life is broken, and I don’t know how to fix it.

It’s been nearly 2-1/2 years since anything resembling normalcy, and there’s no end in sight.
I had a great job in Germany and a good quality of life. My husband’s in the military and we moved in England. Since arriving here, I haven’t been able to make anything positive happen. I haven’t had one job interview since arriving, and I’ve applied for everything down to scrubbing johns.
I don’t care for living here, and just found out we’ve got another 3 years now.
My marriage is crap. My oldest son has developed a chronic medical condition. We’re flat broke.
I used to think I was at least fairly intelligent. I was very successful in my jobs, but apparently I can’t get hired here and I’m not intelligent enough to create my own business.
I’m completely isolated. I tried volunteering locally, but can’t even get a response from that!
If everything has collapsed, how do you find the courage to keep on trying, or even get ideas on what to try? I’m 43 and feel too old for about everything.

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (7 minutes after post)

You are not too old! Things are tough now. The years of “middle age” are also considered the years for crisis! So you’re not alone.
But I’m sure that doesn’t really help you out.

Times are hard for finding jobs. It’s not easy at all. Even if you’re well qualified and experienced. Companies can’t afford to take on new staff so they find themselves hiring within the company. Keep searching though. Don’t give up!
What type of volunteering have you applied for? Have you considered going to these places and speaking with someone directly? Sometimes that helps. I’m sure there are places in need of your help!

Is your husband home or is he away from home? Sometimes, it can be tough to be a military family. They have support groups for that. Have you looked into that sort of thing around where you live?

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (11 minutes after post)

Have you been to the jobcentre?

You can sign on and they can help you look for jobs?

search “jobcentreplus” on google.

If you aren’t having any luck, tell them. They put you on free courses and pay you for it. I know this because I’ve done it. Now I’m working in a fairly decent job that I’m enjoying.

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Fritwell, K2, GB | 1 year, 1 month ago (44 minutes after post)

Gettin jobs in England is tough right now, defo try the job centre and fish for jobs, try some temping agencies as there are people that can talk things through with you like if your qualifications are different because you gained them overseas. Office Angels, reed and brook street are good ones and they will be able to ***** you and know which job is right for you. You have to keep struggling on for your families sake and I am sure there will be a light at the end of a very dark tunnel. Never give up when things are tough you have to belive that they will get better with a little bit of hard work thrown in, these bad times are sent to try us but theu help us appreciate the good times when we get them

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An Unknown Location | 7 months, 1 week ago (6 months, 2 weeks after post)

Haah, I may seem a little insensitive, but what are you cribbing about, My life has been that way for as long as I can remember, but the worst patch for the last 20 yrs, I have been self employed, but everything I do collapses sooner or later, I have failed miserably 5 times in the last 20 yrs, The wife thinks I am absolutely useless, does not matter to her that I am under a severe depression, she thinks a kick in the pants is the only solution to all problems, this is India, or it would not have lasted so long. Every attempt eventually leaves me in a bigger debt than last time,But I am certainly not giving up, I will eventually find the light at the end of the tunnel.I read somewhere, but do not remember exactly where, with due respect to the author, I quote ” If you can’t change your destiny, change your attitude, It helps “, It helped me, I hope it does for you. Good Luck

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